July 21, 2026

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The Beautiful Chaos Navigating Life with a Big Family_mixdown
The Beautiful Chaos Navigating Life with a Big Family_mixdown
We are the Hanson's / Family Life, Practical Tips & Self-Care
The Beautiful Chaos Navigating Life with a Big Family_mixdown
What does it really take to raise a large family while helping your children grow into successful, compassionate adults? In this heartfelt episode of We Are the Hansons, Myia Hanson shares the joys, challenges, and life lessons that come with raising a big family. From creating lasting traditions and teaching responsibility to embracing the beautiful chaos of everyday life, this episode is packed with encouragement, practical parenting wisdom, and reminders that the little moments often become life's greatest memories. Plus, enjoy one of the Hansons' favorite quick family recipes and learn how to connect with us through our Facebook community, newsletter, and website.
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Have you ever walked into a grocery store pushing two

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shopping carts while one child is asking for cereal, another

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needs to use the bathroom, a teenager is texting asking

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if you can pick up something for them, and your

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husband is reminding you that you forgot dog food. If

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you have welcome, if you haven't welcome anyway, because today

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we're pulling back the curtain on what life really is

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like raising a big family. Not the picture perfect moments

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you see in photographs, not the carefully edited social media clips.

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We're talking about the real moments, the loud moments, the

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messy moments, the exhausting moments, the moments where dinner burns

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because someone scraped their knee, the moments where everyone is

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talking at once and somehow you still hear every single voice,

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the moments where you're wondering if you're doing enough. And

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then there are those moments that stop time, watching one

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of your grown children comfort a younger sibling without being asked,

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seeing your kids laugh together until they're crying, watching your

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children become amazing adults, realizing that everything you've poured into them,

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all the sleepless nights, all the sacrifices, all the prayers

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it mattered. Today we're talking about the beauty of building

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a big family, how to survive it, how to enjoy it,

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how to embrace the chaos, and why despite all the craziness,

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we wouldn't trade this life for anything. Hello everyone, and

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welcome back to We are the Hansens. I'm Maya, and

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as always, I am so incredibly thankful that you've choosen

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to spend a little bit of your day with us here.

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Whether you're driving to work, folding laundry, making dinner, cleaning

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the house, taking a walk, or maybe you're hiding in

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the pantry for five quiet minutes while your kids wander

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where you disappeared to. We're so glad you're here. This

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podcast has always been about real life, the highs, the lows,

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the laughter, the tears, the adventures, the lessons, and everything

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in between. If this is your first time listening, welcome

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to our little corner of the world around here. Family

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comes first, love comes first, Grace comes first. We simply

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share our experiences in hopes that maybe they'll encourage another

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family somewhere along the way. If today's episode encourages you,

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of the things we're especially excited about is our upcoming merchandise.

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We've been working on fun items that families can enjoy together,

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including We Are the Hansons, apparel, coloring pages for kids,

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family budget planners, road trip activities, printibal, family games, and

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so much more. We can't wait to share all of

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it with you. And one more thing before we dive in.

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If you ever have a question, a topic you'd like

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us to cover, or simply want to share your family's story,

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we'd love to hear from you. Reach out through our

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website or our Facebook page. We read your messages, and

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we truly enjoy connecting with you. Your stories inspire us

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just as much as we hope ours inspire you. Now,

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let's talk about something that's become such a big part

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of who we are, life with a big family. People

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ask us all the time what it's like having such

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a big family. Sometimes they ask it with curiosity, sometimes

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with amazement, sometimes with complete disbelief, and every once in

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a while someone asks it with just a little bit

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of fear in their voice, like they're imagining absolute chaos.

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Now they're not completely wrong. There is chaos. There are

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days when someone can't find their shoes, someone forgot their backpack,

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someone needs a ride, someone has a doctor's appointment, someone

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has a school event, someone is hungery again. The washing

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machine never seems to stop. The dishwasher is basically a

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full time employee. The grocery bill can make your eyes water,

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and somehow, even after all these years, the refrigerator still

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looks empty twenty four hours after shopping. But here's what

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people don't always see. Behind every bit of that chaos

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is something incredibly beautiful. It's a home that's alive, a

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home filled with conversations, a home where there's almost always

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someone to laugh with, someone to cry with, someone to

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celebrate with, someone to lean on. That's one of the

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greatest gifts of a big family. No one has to

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do life alone. One of the biggest misconceptions people have

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is that raising a lot of children means your life

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is out of control. I'd actually argued the opposite. Having

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a big family teaches organization, It teaches teamwork, it teaches payations,

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it teaches responsibility because it has to. You simply can't

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do everything by yourself, and honestly, you shouldn't. One of

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the greatest lessons we've learned over the years is that

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a family isn't built around one person doing everything. It's

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built around everybody doing something. That's such an important difference.

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Even young children can contribute. Maybe it's setting the table,

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maybe it's feeding the dog, Maybe it's matching socks, maybe

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it's helping a younger sibling pick up toys. Those little

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responsibilities don't just help mom and dad. They build confidence.

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Children begin to understand that they're valuable members of the family,

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that they matter, that they're capable. As they grow older,

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those responsibilities naturally grow too. Older. Kids can help cook meals,

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teach younger siblings, mow the lawn, help with homework, run errands,

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not because they're replacing parents, but because they're becoming adults.

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An adulthood isn't something that magically appears on your eighteenth birthday.

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It's something you prepare for your entire childhood. That's something

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Jeremy and I have always tried to remember. Our job

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isn't simply to raise children. Our job is to raise adults.

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Adults who are kind, responsible, hardworking, compassionate people who leave

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every room a little better than they found it, because

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someday they're going to have families of their own. They're

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going to build homes of their own, and the values

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they learned inside your home will become the foundation of theirs.

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When Jeremy and I look back over the years, one

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of the biggest lessons we've learned is that successful family

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doesn't happen by accident. It happens one day at a time,

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one conversation at a time, one meal around the table

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at a time. People often ask us, how do you

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manage thirteen kids? The truth is, we don't do it alone.

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We do it together. That word together has become one

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of the most important words in our family. When the

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little ones see the older kids helping carry groceries into

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the house, they naturally want to help too. When they

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watch an older siblings stop what they're doing and comfort

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someone who's upset, they begin to understand what kindness looks like.

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Children learn far more from what they see than from

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what they are told. Of course, we teach them with words,

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but they're always watching our actions. They're watching how we

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treat one another when we're tired. They're watching how we

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respond when things don't go according to plan. They're watching

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how we apologize when we make mistakes, and yes, parents

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make mistakes. We certainly have. There have been days we've

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been exhausted, days when dinner didn't go as planned, days

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when the schedule felt him popped, days when we wish

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there were just a few more hours in the day.

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But we've also learned something beautiful. Your children don't need

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perfect parents. They need present parents. They need parents who

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are willing to admit when they're wrong, ask for forgiveness,

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and keep showing up every single day. One of the

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greatest gifts we've received from having such a large family

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is watching our children build genuine relationships with each other.

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Some of our kids are close in age, others have

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many years between them. Yet somehow, each relationship has become

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special in its own way. We've watched older siblings become mentors.

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We've watched younger siblings become their biggest fans. We've watched

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them celebrate birthdays, graduations, first jobs, engagements, new babies, and

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countless everyday victories together. Those are moments you simply can't

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put a price on. One thing. We've tried to prote

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over the years as family time life gets busy. Work

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demands attention, school activities fill calendars, Sports, appointments, errands, and

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responsibilities can easily consume every free minute. If we're not intentional,

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the calendar begins running the family instead of the family

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deciding how they want to spend their time. That's why

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we treasure the simple moments. Family dinners, movie nights, cookouts,

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road trips, playing games around the kitchen table, fishing together,

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stopping for ice cream after a long day. Those moments

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may seem ordinary while you're living there, but one day

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they'll become the memories your children tell their own kids about.

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As parents, it's easy to feel pressure to provide extravagant

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vacations or expensive gifts. But when we ask our own

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children about their favorite memories, they rarely mention something that

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costs a lot of money. They remember laughing until their

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stomach hurt, camping in the backyard, fireworks on the fourth

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of July, long drives with music playing, heat the Knights,

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family game nights that become so competitive everyone was laughing.

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Those are the moments that stay with them. That's encouraging

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because it reminds us that what children often want most

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is our time, our attention, our presence, not perfection. One

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of the biggest blessings of having older children is watching

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them become successful adults. Success looks different for everyone. For some,

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it's building a career they love. For others, it's becoming

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an amazing parent. For someone else, it's faithfully showing up

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every day and taking care of the people they love.

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We don't measure success only by a paycheck. We measure

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it by character. Are they kind? Do they work hard?

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Do they keep their word? They treat people with respect?

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Are they willing to help someone who needs it? Those

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are the things that matter most. Watching our children become

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people who genuinely care about others has been one of

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the greatest rewards of parenting. Does that mean everything has

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always been easy? Not at all. Every family faces challenges,

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Every child is different. What works for one child may

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not work for another. Some children need more encouragement, some

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need more structure, some need extra patience. Parenting isn't about

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treating every child exactly the same. It's about loving each

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child in the way they need to be loved, while

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maintaining the same values and expectations throughout the home. That's

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something we've continued to learn year after year. We also

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want parents listening today to know something important. Don't compare

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your family to someone else's highlight reel. Comparison steals joy.

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Every family has struggles, Every marriage has difficult seasons. Every

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parent has moments where they wonder if they're doing enough.

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Give yourself grace, celebrate progress, laugh at the messy moments,

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keep showing up, Keep loving your family well, because years

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from now, your children probably won't remember whether every room

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was perfectly clean. They'll remember whether home felt safe, whether

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they felt loved, whether someone believed in them, and that

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is what truly lasts. One of the things Jeremy and

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I talk about often is this our children are growing

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up much faster than we ever imagine they would when

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they're little. The days sometimes feel long. There are diapers

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to change, lunch is to make, laundry that seems to multiply, overnight,

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boys on the floor, school pickups, homework, bathtime, bedtime stories,

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and somehow, before you know it, those little kids who

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once reached up to hold your hand are standing taller

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than you are. They're getting their first jobs, learning to drive, graduating,

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getting married, and beginning families of their own. People tell

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you it goes by fast, but you don't truly understand

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that until you're living it. That's why we've learned to

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slow down and appreciate the ordinary days. Not every day

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has to be an adventure. Some of our favorite memories

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have happened right in our own living room. A spontaneous

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family game night, watching an old movie together, ordering pizza

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because nobody felt like cooking, sitting outside on a summer

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evening while the kids laughed and chased each other through

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the yard. Those moments don't seem extraordinary while they're happening,

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but years later they're often the memories everyone talks about.

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As parents, we have a ch we can become so

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focused on building a beautiful house that we forget to

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build a beautiful home. A house is made of walls,

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a home is made of love. A house is where

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people sleep. A home is where people feel accepted. A

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house can be spotless. A home can be messy and

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still be filled with peace. That's always been our goal,

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not perfection, peace, not a picture perfect family, a family

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that knows how to forgive. One thing we've worked hard

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to teach our children is that disagreements don't have to

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become divisions. Brothers and sisters argue, parents and children disagree.

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That's normal. The important part of learning how to work

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through these moments with respect. We've always encouraged our kids

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to apologize when they're wrong, forgive one another, and move forward.

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Holding onto anger only weighs you down. Forgiveness set you free.

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Another less and we've tried to pass along is the

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value of hard work. Hard work isn't just about earning

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whether it's cleaning your room, mowing the lawn, helping with dinner,

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studying for a test, or showing up for your first job.

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times that character will open more doors than talent ever will.

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Talent might get someone's attention, character earns their trust. Watching

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our older children grow into responsible adults has been one

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of the greatest joys of our lives. Each one has

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their own personality, their own dreams, their own path, and

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that's exactly how it's supposed to be. We've never wanted

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our children to become copies of us. We've wanted them

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to become the very best version of themselves. Sometimes parents

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feel pressure to map out every detail of their child's future.

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but we can prepare them with values that will guide

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them wherever they go. Kindness, integrity, faithfulness, compassion, responsibility. Those

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values never go out of style. We've also learned that

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one of the greatest gifts we can give our children

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is believing in them before they believe in themselves. There

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have been moments when one of our kids doubted whether

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they could accomplish something. Maybe it was a new job,

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a difficult class, a challenge they have never faced before.

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you can do this. Parents have incredible influence our words matter.

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They can build confidence or they can tear it down.

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are always in their corner. That doesn't mean we never

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correct them, it means they always No correction comes from love,

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not disappointment. One of my favorite things about having a

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large family is seeing how everyone celebrates each other's victories.

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When one child succeeds, everyone celebrates. When someone reaches a milestone,

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the whole family gets excited. Whether it's a birthday, a graduation,

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a promotion, welcoming a new baby into the family, or

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simply achieving a personal goal. We celebrate together. Joy grows

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when it's shared. The same is true during difficult seasons.

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When one family member hurts, we all gather around them.

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That's one of the greatest blessings of a big family.

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No one has to carry life's burdens alone. And maybe

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that's the biggest lesson of all. Family isn't about the

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number of people sitting around your table. It's about knowing that,

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no matter what happens, those people will always be there

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from one another. That's the kind of family Jermy and

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I have always hoped built, not a perfect family, but

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a family that loves deeply, a family that laughs often,

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a family that forgives quickly, and a family that always

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makes room for one more chair around the table. As

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Jeremy and I have walked through the years of raising

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our family, we've realized something that we didn't fully understand

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when we first became parents. The little things are actually

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the big things. It isn't one giant moment that builds

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a family. It's thousands of ordinary moments stacked one on

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top of another. It's saying good morning. It's asking your

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child how their day went and really listening to the answer.

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It's sitting beside them while they finish homework. It's watching

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a movie together on a Friday night. It's making pancakes

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on a Saturday morning. It's hugging them before they leave

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the house. It's praying with them before bet Those little

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moments become the foundation of trust. Children remember how home fel.

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They remember whether they were welcomed with a smile. They

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remember whether someone celebrated their victories. They remember whether they

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felt safe enough to share their fears. That doesn't mean

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you have to get everything right. Germany and I certainly haven't.

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There have been times we've looked back and wished we'd

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handled something differently. We've had to apologize, we've had to learn,

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We've had to grow right alongside our children. Parenting doesn't

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come with a manual. Every child teaches you something new.

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don't be afraid to grow. Your children don't need parents

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who never make mistakes. They need parents who keep learning.

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forget to invest in one another. Your kids benefit when

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they see mom and dad working as a team. Take

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time to life, augh together, encourage each other, support one another.

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Your family is strongest when the foundation is strong. And

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if you're a single parent listening today, we want you

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to know something too. You are doing an incredible job.

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We know it isn't easy. We hope you never underestimate

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the difference you're making simply by showing up every day

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with love and determination. Never believe the lie that your

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efforts don't matter. They absolutely do. As our children have

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grown older, one of our greatest joys has been watching

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them become people who genuinely care about others, helping a sibling,

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checking on a friend, serving someone without expecting anything in return.

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Those are the moments that make us smile the most, because,

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at the end of the day, success isn't just measured

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by careers or accomplishments. It's measured by the kind of

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person you become. Before we wrap things up today, we

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wanted to share one of our family simple favorite reds

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ranch cream cheese cucumber bites. You will need one block

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of softened cream cheese, one packet of ranch seasoning, two

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large cucumbers. Crackers are toasted bag at slices. Mix the

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softened cream cheese with the ranch seasoning until it's smooth

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and creamy. Slice the cucumbers into thin rounds. Spread the

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cream cheese mixture onto each cracker or toasted bag at slice,

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and top it with a cucumber slice. That's it. It's cool, refreshing,

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quick to make, and it's perfect for family movie nights, cookouts,

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road trips, for just an afternoon snack. Sometimes the simplest

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recipes become the family favorites, just like the simplest moments

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often become the favorite memory. As we get ready to

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close today's episode, we just want to say thank you,

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Thank you for inviting us into your homes, your cars,

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your walks, in your everyday lives. It means more to

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us than you'll ever know. If you've enjoyed today's conversation,

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We can't wait to share it all with you, and

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family here your favorite traditions, ask us questions, suggest episode ideas.

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We personally read your messages and there's a good chance

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your question or story could inspire a future episode, because

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this podcast isn't just about our family, It's about building

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a community where families encourage one another. As we come

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to an end of today's conversation, I want to leave

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you with one fine I know thought someday your house

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will be quiet if you're in the middle of raising

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little ones. I know that probably sounds impossible right now.

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Maybe you're listening while finding another mountain of laundry. Maybe

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you're listening while folding another mountain of laundry. Maybe someone

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is calling your name from the other room. Maybe you've

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reheated your coffee three times today and still haven't finished it.

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Maybe the toys are scattered across the living room floor.

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Maybe someone is arguing over whose turn it is. Maybe

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you're wondering if you'll ever have a moment to yourself.

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I understand, I've been there, and if I'm being honest,

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there were days I wondered how we'd make it through

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everything that had to be done. But then something happened.

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Those little kids kept growing. The backpacks got bigger, the

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shoes got bigger, the conversations got deeper. The bedtime stories

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turned into late night talks around the kitchen table. The

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scrape knees became broken heart. The questions change from can

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you tie my shoe? To Mom, what do you think

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I should do? And somewhere along the way, you realize

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that every season has a purpose. The sleepless nights don't

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last forever, the endless piles of laundry won't always be there.

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The constant rise to school and practices eventually come to

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an end. One day you'll walk past an empty bedroom

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and remember when it was filled with toys, laughter, and

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bedtime giggles. That's why I want to encourage you today.

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Don't rush through the season you're in. Don't spend so

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much time wishing for the next stage of life that

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you miss the beauty of the one you're living today.

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If your children are little, pick them up while they'll

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still let you read the extra bedtime story, laugh at

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the silly jokes, filled the blanket for dance in the kitchen.

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If your children are teenagers, keep talking with them, keep

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showing up, keep cheering them on. They may act like

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they don't need you every minute of the day, but

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they still need to know you're there. If your children

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are adults, celebrate them, encourage them, let them know you're

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proud of the people they've become. One of the greatest

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blessings Jeremy and I have experienced is watching our children

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become successful in their own unique ways. Some are building careers,

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some are building families, some are discovering who they're meant

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to be, and every single one of them reminds us

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that all those years of love, guidance, patience, and prayer matter.

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Success isn't always loud. Sometimes success is raising a son

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who treats people with kindness. Sometimes success is watching your

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daughter become a loving mother. Sometimes success is seeing your

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children choose honesty when no one is watching. Sometimes success

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is hearing your grown children say they actually enjoy coming

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home for family dinners. That's the kind of success that lasts.

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Our greatest hope has never been to raise perfect children.

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Our hope has been to raise people who love deeply,

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work hard, care about others, and always remember where home is.

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If we can do that, we've done something worthwhile. Before

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we finish today's episode, I want to thank every one

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of you who has become part of the We are

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the Hanson's family. Whether you've been listening from the very

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beginning or today is your very first episode, We're so

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grateful you're here. If today's episode encouraged you, would you

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isn't just about us talking. It's about building a community.

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So send us your questions. Share your family's traditions, tell

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us about the things you're celebrating. Tell us about the

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challenges you're facing. It's a topic you'd like us to

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cover on a future episode, Let us know we read

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your messages and we'd love the opportunity to answer your

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questions and maybe even feature your ideas in an upcoming episode,

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because the best conversations happen when families learned from one another.

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As we close today, I hope you leave with the

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simple reminder you don't have to be a perfect parent.

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You don't have to have a spotless house, you don't

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have to have all the answers. You simply have to

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keep showing up with love, Keep choosing patience, keep choosing grace,

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keep choosing forgiveness, keep choosing family. Years from now, your

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children probably won't remember every gift you bought them. They

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won't remember whether dinner was homemade every night. They won't

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remember whether the laundry was folded perfectly, But they'll remember

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how you made them feel. They'll remember the laughter, the traditions,

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the bedtime hugs, the road trips, the cookouts, the movie nights,

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the long conversations, the moments when life felt simple and

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home felt safe. Those are the memories that become a

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family legacy. And what a beautiful legacy that is. Thank

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you for spending this time with us. From our family

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to yours, we hope your home is filled with laughter,

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your table is full, your hearts are grateful, and your

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days are rich with the kind of moments that become

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treasured memories. Until next time, take care of one another,

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love your family well, slow down and enjoy the season

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you're in, and remember life doesn't have to be perfect

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to be absolutely beautiful. We'll see you next week. Right

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here on we are the Hanss