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Welcome to We are the Hansens.
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If you're new here.
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We're a big, busy and sometimes chaotic family. But at
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the heart of it all is love, support and a
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whole lot of lessons learned along the way. Today we're
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talking about something truly special, the joy of watching our
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children succeed in their careers. As parents, we pour so
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much into our kids, guiding them, supporting them, and sometimes
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worrying more than we should. But then.
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There are those.
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Moments when we step back and watch them shine, and
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let me tell you, there's nothing like it.
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Let's get started.
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The journey to success doesn't happen overnight, arts with little moments,
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the first time they show interest in something that they're
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so proud of and that they enjoy, the late night
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studying or practicing, and watching our kids struggle, grow and
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push through challenges, and each step along the way makes
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their success even sweeter. You know, I'm really proud of
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all of our children, from the older ones all the
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way down to the little ones. I know the little
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ones don't have jobs yet, but they got big dreams ahead.
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And I look at my daughter, for instance, and she
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is going to school, doing her career and also a
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bunch of other things around her.
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Our son Colin. He is a guy that he doesn't care.
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He'll do a job, whatever job you give him. Right now,
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he's installing internet, so he's always climbing ladders, getting under houses,
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getting an addicts. It's hard work, you know, especially here
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in the summer, because I think about him getting in
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these attics or cross spaces and it is scorching hot.
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And then I feel bad when it hits wintertime because
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he's out on them telephone poles in icy weather, snow, sleet, rain,
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whatever it may be. And I'm sure as a human
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it is miserable for him. And then you got Tristan
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and Keenan, and they both work in a wood factory,
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so they are throwing wood constantly, you know, and that
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I'm sure never.
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Easy because it's a hard job.
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I mean, I've seen them come home with blisters on
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their hand and getting smacked in the face with a
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piece of wood and busting open the lip. It's hard work.
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And they were grain building. Tristan and Keenan. They didn't
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like traveling very much, you know, because they're gone for
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a few weeks two months at a time, so that
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was pretty hard. So they decided to get a job
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where they're local. They can go home at night, rest
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cook food, not have to eat out all the time,
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because you know, eating out is a struggle, the prices
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of stuff. You're not getting the best food. So there's that.
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And then, like I said, you got Morgan. She's going
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to college. She's working her job and to make ends meet,
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she donates asthma to help others and herself. So there's
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that just watching them grow up and seeing their career pass.
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Morgan is going to school to be a elementary teacher
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because she loves kids, and I think that is because
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you know, growing up in a big family and she
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is one of the oldest, she's always had to help
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the younger kids and help them with schoolwork. And because
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I'm going to tell you this day and age, what
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they teach our kids is not what we learned in school.
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So I really struggle and so does my husband Jeremy,
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with helping them when you don't understand exactly what they're doing.
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It tends to get rough. All of my kids. I
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got Gavin, he's a bus boy at a restaurant, and
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even him, I can see the pride they take in
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their work.
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In their daily life.
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You get home, you see your paychecks on Fridays, you're like, man,
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you're able to go out and buy whatever you want.
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And that's a big thing.
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Like, for instance, the other day, Gavin's car has been
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broke down for a few weeks now and they've been
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working on getting it fixed, but trying to find the
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parts is the worst, or trying to get the parts
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apart to put in a new part is a struggle.
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And he went over to see his brothers. Colin told
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him he wanted to sell his jeep, so he offered
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Gavin the jeep for a price, and Gavin gave him
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more than what he offered to sell it to him
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for because he figured it was worth more than what
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he was at. So Gavin was able to go to
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the ATM, pull that money out and buy that jeep.
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And he was so happy that he actually had the
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money to go buy that jeep and fix his car.
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And it just shows a sense of pride, like I'm
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doing this on my own.
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I can do it. I can buy a car, I
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can buy a toy.
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You know, if they wanted to buy a four wheeler,
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they'd be able to go out and buy that four wheeler.
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Colin's pride is he sold his little brother a jeep
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and now he's going to buy himself a new truck.
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There is a lot of pride that our kids take
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and seeing that is amazing. It's so joyful knowing that
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us as parents did something right to teach our kids
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to work for every they want and they need. You know,
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obviously it's needs before once, but when all your needs
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are met, you can do whatever you want with the rest.
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We always tell them to save too, because you never
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know when you're gonna run into a situation where you
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need that money. You blow a tire, you can buy one.
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You need an oil change, you can go get your
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oil changed. There are so many things that that money
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could come in handy for that you have saved and
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you won't ever have to borrow it from somebody else.
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So that is one thing Morgan, you know, she has
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started college in a different school, so she went from
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driving ten minutes to work and thirty minutes to school
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to driving two minutes to work and five minutes to school.
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So when she quit her last job, she moved to Springfield,
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and she was running short before she started her new job,
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so she decided that she needed to do something. She
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was doing door dash and then she wanted to donate
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plasma to help people in need as well, so she
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started donating plasma to earn money and to help others.
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So our kids know, you know what it means to
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work hard and struggle at the same time. And then
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you got Keenan, who, after he was done at the
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grain beIN place, he searched and searched and searched for
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work and wasn't getting nowhere. Tristan had already gotten the
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job at the wood factory. He ended up talking to
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his boss, and his boss went and pulled Keenan application there,
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called him for an interview, and he went in and
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he got the job. My boys, you know, they show
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pride by going to work every day and hearing from
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their boss thanks for showing up. We appreciate you guys.
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You guys are hard working boys. And that all runs
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down to how they're raised. And I am proud to
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say that when I look at all our children, I
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know they're raised right. We get compliments all the time
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by people on how well our children are, how well
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they're behaved, how hard they work, what they do in life.
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Just how polite they are.
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It makes you feel good as a parent to know
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that you raise them that way and other people are
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seeing it.
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So that makes us feel great.
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Right, success means something to our family. Having a home
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with a lot of children is not easy, and not
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all families that are big can raise kids that are
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good kids. Sometimes them big families have kids that don't
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obey the law, that want to get in trouble all
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the time, that do drugs, that drink and drive. So
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when I see our kids, it makes us so proud,
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you know, just watching them. And all's me and my
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husband do is sit back and talk about how proud
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we are of our children and their growth. And you
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always have one kid you worry about. I used to worry,
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and I don't know more because one kid that I
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worried about has come a long way. And I'm always
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telling them, every one of our kids how proud we
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are of them, because they need to hear that. They
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need to know that they're doing good. Not only do
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they need to know, but I want them and so
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does my husband. We want them to carry down that
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to their own children. We want them to show their
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own kids when you work hard and you make money.
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You can buy whatever you want as long as all
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your bills are paid. The rest is yours to do
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with whatever you want. And we hope that they will
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also teach their kids to save as well, because that's
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an important thing. It's also a big thing for us
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to make sure that our kids know that if one
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of them gets paid more than the other, not to
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just sit there and bash them. It is always a
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good thing to make good money, but if you're in
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a situation where you can't find a job making better money,
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then you work at the job you have until you
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can find a job that makes more or that is
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a better fit for you. Because it doesn't matter if
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you work fast food or you're a janitor or you're
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out there throwing hay around. It doesn't matter what job
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you have, physical or not that you can't succeed at,
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because you may be bottom of the totem pole will pay,
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but then you move up the chain. For instance, our
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son Adam and got a degree in college. He works
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at the city helping with sports and stuff like that.
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And I'm going to tell you he doesn't make the
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greatest money, but he doesn't make crappy money either. And
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I've watched him sprout into a very successful person. He
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was in the military and just climb the ladder, went
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from working in a restaurant all the way up to
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now he's a manager in our city. So seeing him
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sprout like that, I know that it makes him proud
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to know that he went to school and he was
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the first one to graduate with master's degree. The pay
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doesn't reflect on his degree, and I know it's heartbreaking,
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but eventually he will find something that his degree will
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pay off. I think a lot of times these kids
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go to school for certain things and the pay does
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not even match what they should be getting paid.
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If you are a hard worker.
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And you have a degree in whatever, you should be
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earning pay for that degree. You had to pay for
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that degree, so your pay should reflect on that degree,
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and it just doesn't do that no more. And I
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know others that don't have a degree and they get
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paid way more. I don't think a degree should matter,
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but if you're going to school to get a degree
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because the job requires that degree, they should pay you
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for your credentials. I feel that way because you spend
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a lot of time and a lot of money to
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get that degree. There are some people that have degrees
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that are pretty lazy, and I don't feel that if
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that's the case, you shouldn't get paid what your degree
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is for if you're not going to put in the work.
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But then I look at my own kids and I'm like,
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you know, from Adam all the way down to Anna,
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and I think every child of ours has a different
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path they want to take, and that's fine. Some want
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to go off to college, some don't, and I'm okay
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with that as long as they find something that's going
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to support what they have coming in and bills and
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make sure they can live comfortably and happy. And I'm
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pretty sure that all of our children are on.
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That path.
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Just by seeing Adam all the way down. Granted, Maddie,
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Torren and Anna are too young yet, they definitely have
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big dreams and I hope and pray that they follow
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those dreams and I'm going to be there to guide them.
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But they need to put in the work. So that
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being said, success looks great.
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On our children. And we did that.
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They did that, you know, we showed them that the
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steps to take and it was up to them to
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take those steps, and they have, every one of them.
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Sometimes you can talk to your children and they won't listen.
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And then there are times that you talk to your
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children about the path they need to go and you
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don't think they're listening, but they are. And when you
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see what you have taught them, when you see them
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doing that, you know that what you've taught them they've listened.
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So it actually feels really good.
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I'm going to.
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Finish up here by doing my final thoughts. This is
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what I want to say. Watching our children succeed is
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one of the greatest gifts of parenting. It's a reminder
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that all the late nights and sacrifices and the hard
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conversations were worth it. It's proof that they're ready to take
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on the world. And even though they don't need us
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in the same way anymore, we're always there cheering them
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on and we do to the parents out there, keep