June 30, 2025
We Are The Hansons What Our Kids Friends Think Of Our Big. Wild Family
In this laugh-out-loud episode of We Are the Hansons, we explore our family's lovable chaos through the eyes of our kids' friends! Ever wonder what it’s like for a first-time visitor to step into the whirlwind of a big, bold household like ours? From wide-eyed reactions to our noisy dinner table to hilarious comments about our family routines, we’re sharing the best stories and awkward moments that come from having a truly unforgettable family dynamic.
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Hey there, and welcome back to We are the Hansens.
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I'm your host, Maya, and today we're diving into something
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that honestly cracks me up, what our kids friends think
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of our big, wild, sometimes chaotic, but always loving family.
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You know, it's one thing to raise a big family,
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thirteen kids, birthday parties, sports, school chaos, late night talks,
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early morning wears my shoe moments. It's full time circus.
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But it's another thing entirely when your kids' friends that
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been to your world and start calling it cool. So
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let's take a walk through what it's like when the
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Hansens become the second family, two other kids, the house
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everyone wants to hang out at, and the parents everyone
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wishes they had. I remember the first time one of
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our kids came home and said so so and so
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said they wish you were their mom. I laughed, of course,
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I mean, have they seen me before I've had coffee.
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But then I start noticing it more and more. Their
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friends were asking to stay longer, hang out more often,
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even come to our road trips if we'd let them.
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And I'm not saying this to brag. Okay, maybe just
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a little, but mostly because it's humbling. It means we're
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doing something right. Not perfect, not even close, but real.
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We've created a home that feels welcoming, where kids feel
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safe to be themselves and maybe even act a little
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wild in a healthy way. I know my kids do.
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Let's be honest. We're the snackhouse. We're the don't worry
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if your socks don't match house where the yep, you
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can build a fort in the living room house. We
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are also the house where we turn on the music
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and the kids go. They dance, They enjoy themselves. They
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sing at the top of their lungs. They do that.
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When you walk into our home, you hear laughter, arguing, music,
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sometimes yelling mom from three rooms away, someone else sneaking
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cookies from the pantry. It's messy, it's loud, but it's alive,
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and the kids they feel that, their friends feel that,
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and I'm glad they walk in and suddenly realize that
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they don't have to be quiet, they don't have to
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impress anyone, and maybe most importantly, they matter. They matter
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at our house even if we just met them. They're
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part of the crew. Now We've had friends say, you guys,
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actually listen to your kids. I'm like, well, sometimes we
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don't have a choice. They're all talking at once. But
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I get it. Some kids just you know, want to
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be heard. If our home gives them the space, we
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definitely welcome it. So here's the tea we hear through
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the grapevine. AKA are kids that their friends say things
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like I wish my parents let me talk like that,
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or your mom is funny but also scary in a
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good way. Another I hear, your family is so close
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it's kind of amazing, and I have to agree not
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every family is like ours. I also hear you guys
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actually eat dinner together. That kind of hurts a little
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bit when I hear other kids say that, because that
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is a time for kids to sit down and talk
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to their parents, and their parents talk to them with
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no distraction. And my personal favorite, your parents let you
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be mad, but they don't let you be mean. That's cool.
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Let me tell you, I wrote that one down. That's
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exactly what we aim for. We don't expect our kids
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or their friends to be perfect angels. We expect emotions,
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but we don't let emotions justify cruelty. And apparently that
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kind of structure repped in love stands out who would
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have knew. I mean, honestly, there have been so many
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nights where we end up feeding not just our kids,
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but three or four extras every night. And you know what,
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we always say yes, because some of those kids don't
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get to eat, and that's just how we are. One time,
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we made pancakes at night for a group of tenes
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who were supposed to be watching a movie. Instead, they
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sat around the kitchen island talking about life, about school, stress,
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about stuff that actually matters to them. That's sacred. That's
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what I call a win. Sometimes it's just about being
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the place where there's room at the table literally, and
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with us there always is, even if it means pulling
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out extra chairs and stretching this spaghetti sauce. It's funny
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that the things that make our family normal to us
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are the exact things that their friends seem blown away by,
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Like the way we joke with each other but still
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say I love you before bed. The tour chart one
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kid said, you mean everyone has to clean, even the
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little ones. Yes, yes, they do. The matching pjs on Christmas, yes,
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even Dad words them. The way we show up for
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each other, even if it means rearranging the whole schedule.
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To us, that's just Tuesday. To them, it feels magical
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and it makes me pause and remember even are every
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day has value. Even our loud, sticky, overbooked life is
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shaping not only our own kids, but the kids who
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get a glimpse of it. I'll never forget the time
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that one of our kids friends came to me crying
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about something going on at school. I wasn't there, mom,
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I wasn't even close to them at the time, But
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something about the vibe of our home, maybe the safety,
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maybe the chaos, gave them the courage to open up.
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We've had kids share things that break our heart. We've
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had others just need a hug or a joke or
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someone to say, hey, you're doing okay. It's a reminder
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that sometimes being that funhouse also means being the soft landing.
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And I take that seriously. So why talk about what
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other kids' friends think of us? Because it means we're
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impacting more than just our own Because it's easy to
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get lost in the busyness and the laundry and the
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endless grocery trips and forget what we're building matters. But
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when other kids say I wish my parents were like yours.
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It's both a compliment and a call to keep going.
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And I hope if you're listening, and you're a parent,
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or a bonus parent, or even just a favorite aunt
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or uncle, you know that the way you show up matters.
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Even the smallest moments ripple out further than you know.
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We always have snacks and something fun going on. Kids
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feel safe being themselves here in no judgment. Our family
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welcomes their friends like their our own, and we let
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kids be kids, wild, weird and wonderfully loud. You guys,
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I can't stress enough how good it feels to have
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people notice how our kids are with their siblings or us.
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I don't care to be known as a cool parent.
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I want to be known as the parent that's there,
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the parent that listens, the parent that shows up. And
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I think me and my husband have succeeded because we
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have a lot of kids that come and open up
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to us. That is our goal is to make our
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house the safe house, and it has. We always have
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a ton of kids at our house, friends always staying
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the night. I want them to know that their voice matters,
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no matter their age, and I want them to know
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that they can be a part of our family and
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have trust and feel safe. And I'm pretty sure all
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of our kids's friends know that because they always want
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to come here and spend the night. So that's today's episode,
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a peek into how the Hands and House looks through
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the eyes of our kids's friends. Wild, loud, and apparently
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pretty cool. Thanks for spending time with me. As always,
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I am so glad you are here. If you loved
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the show, get on over to our YouTube channel and
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subscribe to our We Are the Hansens YouTube You can
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Hanson's Facebook page, or you can email me at we
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are thee Hansen's Show at gmail dot com. Until next time,
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from all of us at We Are the Hansen's, Stay wild,
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stay loving, and always keep room at the table.
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