May 26, 2025

We Are the Hansons: What Causes That? – Big Family Edition

We Are the Hansons: What Causes That? – Big Family Edition

In this lighthearted and relatable episode of We Are the Hansons, we tackle one of the most common (and awkward) questions big families hear: “What causes that?” With humor, heart, and honesty, we share our favorite responses, some hilarious real-life encounters, and the deeper truth about love, faith, and purpose behind our growing family. Whether you're part of a big crew or just curious, this episode is sure to make you smile and maybe even rethink the question entirely.

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Welcome to We are the Hansens. I'm Jeremy. I'm the dad,

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I'm the husband. I guess you can consider me the king, right.

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Okay, yeah, and I'm Maya Hanson, the wife and the mom.

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Yeah.

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Well, today we wanted to talk about, you know, people

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just being pricks. Okay, so the name of today's show

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is you know what causes that? A big family addition?

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Because we get that question so much and yeah, you're

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just their itching. They're just trying to get at you

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a little bit, because you know what, raising a big

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family isn't for everybody, and a lot of people don't

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like you because you have a big family.

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And yet we do know what causes that?

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Yeah, well it's not a mystery.

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It's a marriage of love, lots and lots and lots,

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especially if you're me patients.

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Yeah, I don't think you've got that patience.

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Well, I mean, we didn't stumble into a kid factory. Now,

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we just chose to live a Costco size life.

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I mean literally, yeah, you know what I mean.

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So when people come out, first thing you got to

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do is say, hey, just back off, you know, let

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us do our thing. And you know what, we've gotten

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pretty good at that. But before we go any further,

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I wanted to announce today that we are the Hands

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that is doing a bunch of cool stuff like children's

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stories where there's adventures from different members of the family,

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and that's gonna be kind of fun and cool. You know,

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put your kids down, you know, when they're ready to

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go to sleep, play a little bit of an adventure

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from one of the kids, or maybe mom and dad.

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Okay, that's gonna be awesome.

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Also, I've been asking her to do this, folks, but

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I don't know if she doesn't want to give up

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our family recipes, but we have a lot of them,

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so I wanted to start doing some recipes.

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What do you think of that?

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Yeah, like segments of recipes like how to do the

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whole thing to perfection, like I cook.

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Oh, I don't know.

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Yeah, we're also going to be doing the chaos chronicles.

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I think you'll get a kick out of that and

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funny because it's a lot of things that a lot

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of families I have heard we're gonna do start doing

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Q and A. So send your questions where to our email.

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Now at We are the Hanson's Show at gmail dot com,

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or you can also send them to our we are

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the Hanson's Facebook page.

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There you go.

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Those those are the questions. So we're gonna do segments.

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You know, when we get enough good questions, then we'll

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we'll put them on there and we'll do a Q

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and A and then you know what, I might even

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jump in on this one mom versus Dad.

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You know things that.

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You know we did argue about and you know how

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we resolved whatever issue it was, and you know how

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to potentially stop yourself from having to be in the

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same thing. You know, I think that's a pretty good segment.

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Fridge notes and bathroom graffiti, that's gonna be a good

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one because you know, we use them in a little

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bit different way.

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You're gonna like that, you know.

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An actual segment of life hacks that we use because

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we have a lot of them. Yeah, yeah, we've had

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to to, you know, just be part of the systems

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that we have in place. We're going to talk about

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things I think that are going to be important to you.

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Like if you have a large family, arguments and fights

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are bound to happen. So as parents, how you know,

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you have to let kids resolve some things themselves. But

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like a real life family feud segment. Yeah, okay, budget battles. Okay,

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that's more mom and dad again, but it's also like

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when you don't have enough money for everything, what do

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you do?

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What's in the van?

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And I kind of wanted to do this one just

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because my vehicle is always cleaner than her vehicle.

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I don't know about that.

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And I want to talk about the craziest things that

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I have found in her stuff. And then finally when

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it comes to great grandparents, grandparents, parents, kids and then

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kids white in a big range generation gaps and the

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things that go on, and all these are going to

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be segments. My favorite one obviously is the food, But

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then I kind of like the kids' stories too, because

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it's kind of nice to have some good, clean, fun

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entertainment that's good for your kids for them to go

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to sleep too. Yes, have you seen what's on TV lately?

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H We don't watch a lot of TV.

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I know, but have you seen some of the stuff

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the kids watch on YouTube?

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I mean that used to be R rated. Now they're

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they're throwing it at kids, so you know, it is

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what it is kind of thing. But anyways, you know,

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back to the show, I hope. You guys are all

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excited about that. But back to the show. You know

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what causes that? And I don't know what's your favorite

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response to that.

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I'm more sarcastic.

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No, yeah, yeah, like no, no, oh yeah, go ahead

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tell us.

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Yeah, like that kind of sarcasm. Yeah, that's that's actually.

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Us something we don't know.

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Yeah, yeah, like.

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Oh no, does it happen that type of thing. I'm

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uh see, I'm a little bit more interact. I'm like,

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you know, yeah, I know exactly how that happens. And

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by the way, we're working on a sequel.

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Smart, yeah, well just it's smart something, you know what

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I mean, yep, you know.

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And then if you really really want to get somebody,

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especially if they're one of these, you know, save the Earth,

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you shouldn't have that many kids. We should put all

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the colls down for farting, and let's tax all that. Yeah,

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those people say something like, it's funny every time we

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pay taxes, another one just shows up.

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Yeah, you know, I don't know if you had one

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more good one, what would it be?

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Uh? You know. We finally figured that out around Kid seven,

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but by then we had a rhythm rhythm.

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What, No, you know, what do they actually think that

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they're saying when they say stuff like that to you?

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Do you think it's to shock you?

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Do you think it's like genuine curiosity or do you

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think that they're actually trying to be funny? But you know,

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because I know that's happened a couple of times, Like

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somebody has said that to us, trying to be funny,

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and then it wasn't funny and it gets really really awkward. Yeah,

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you know, so, I mean, but I would say with

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that question, most of the time, the people are just

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being jackasses.

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I wonder how many times, you know, they question theirselves

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after they question us about it, how many times they

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think we've been asked that.

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Well, I don't think that they care. I really don't

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think most people think, well, it's it's noses. And I

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think a lot of times people feel inferior. I mean literally,

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like it costs a lot to raise a family. It

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takes a lot of work to raise a family. It

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takes a lot of dedication and sacrifice to make sure

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that your kids are doing great. And I'm telling you

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right now that there are some people that are mad

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at us because our kids turn out good I've seen it.

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I've seen you know, people complain about it. I've seen

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people talk, you know, behind our backs about it. I mean,

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that type of thing happens, and I think it happens

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with every large family, especially if you're doing a good job.

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Yeah, I think I think a lot of that happens,

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but a lot of ours, you know, they don't see

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what we see. They see, yeah, our kids are doing great,

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but they don't like take the time to talk to

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them to see, you know, how they are. They just assume.

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Yeah, they assume that, you know, while they were given this.

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We've never been given anything, you know, but assumptions. It's

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a real thing. And people assume all the time. And

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you know, let them assume unless they actually want to

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come up to you and talk.

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Then talk with them and if.

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You know, reciprocate the feeling and emotion that they're giving

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to you. And sometimes I may take that a little

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bit too far in a negative way, but that's just me,

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that's just who I am.

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I'm the same way. I just tell it how it is.

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Right, and I do get a little protective. Like our kids,

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they've all bought their own cars, they all work hard,

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they all pay their own assurance, They pay their own

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phone bill. When you're sixteen, and you can work in

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this house. If you want a cell phone, guess what.

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You're going to work, You're going to pay for it.

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Yeah, if you want a car, you're going to work.

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And we've helped them get jobs. We've given them some work,

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We've done stuff like that.

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And it's not that we're doing it to be mean.

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It's teaching our children responsibility.

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Right for the rest of their life because life ain't easy. Yes,

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you know what I mean, I should I should correct

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that before my mother got because my mom's kind of

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like the grammar police.

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So Ain't's not a word. You know. You've heard my

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mom say that to me.

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So you know, ain't isn't in my vocabulary unless I'm

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just talking regularly. I guess it's slang, you know, isn't

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ain't You know, it's.

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It's the same word.

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And I think as I've developed as a human being,

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and I've got you know, I'm an autodidex, so I've

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done a lot of this stuff and learned this stuff myself,

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I've kind of created my own language.

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I think most of us, most of us have.

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Well, it's a dictionary. It's like my own personal dictionary.

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I should write a dictionary.

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I think since living here, our kids have gotten the

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Missouri slang.

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You mean the Missouri Yeah, the Massura slang. I think

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it's from the heat.

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No, you don't think it's a heat, No, it's the people.

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Well have you ever.

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Seen in Missouri heat? If you put an egg on

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the ground, what happens to the egg?

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No?

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I spend our kids spend a lot of time outside,

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and so do you. But anyways, no, folks, really, people

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are going to complain and whine and you know, try

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to point out all your downfalls. That the great thing

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is what you should do is become an open book.

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Yeah.

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I have no problem letting people know all the mistakes

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that I've made. I don't have anything to hide that way.

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And if you're honest and truthful, nobody can ever really

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make fun of you.

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Yeah, because you've gotten through it.

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I'm not embarrassed at all.

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The truth is I wanted the big family, and I

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wanted to be a business owner. Guess what, I have

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a big family and I'm a buginess owner. But are

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you a hater because I actually achieved my goals in life?

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You know what I'm saying. I love laughter in the house.

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I like things being around. I don't necessarily like busy

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all the time, but I sure do love my life.

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I love its chaos. I love the joy that comes

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with being a parent to this many kids. Sometimes things

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can get annoying, Yes, but give me one person in

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life that doesn't have annoying things in their life.

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Yeah. I mean, you live life to its fullest and

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you just keep going.

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That's right, because my life is full of purpose, My

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life is full of laughter, my life is full of legacy.

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And a lot of people can't say that, and a

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lot of people get jealous about that.

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And you know, if we didn't have the chaos and craziness,

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I don't know what we do. I mean, that keeps

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us on our toes, That keeps us motivated, It keeps

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us going.

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It did.

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And you know, back when I was sixteen, seventeen eighteen,

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approval was a thing for me, was it you? Yeah,

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And one thing that I've learned throughout life now, I've

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learned this lesson.

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Over and over and over and over again. Your approval

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is not needed.

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I Am going to live my life my way and

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do as good a job as I can because it's

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my life and I don't need your approval to live it.

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Yeah, same for me. I we just keep going right.

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You know, have you ever ran into that person that

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you know, when they come up and they say something

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like that, they'll be like, the Earth is overpopulated by

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four hundred million, or you know they somehow miraculously just

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become a statistician when they come up to you about it.

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Yeah, So what you do, folks, If you've got.

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A big family and people come up and they start

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aggravating you like that, you say, you know, the average

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family is one point six children.

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Did you know that?

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And they say yes, and you go, you know what,

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we're fixing that. It's kind of like a middle finger

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with words.

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Yeah.

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You know, here's the thing.

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Some people say, well, overpopulation is real, except according to

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Elon musks In about ninety percent of the real scientists

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out there.

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But don't worry.

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We recycle and use LEDs, you know, just something to

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be a smart person back if you know what.

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I'm saying, Yeah, I mean you have to.

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Yeah.

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Well, the thing is is people are going to turn

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into obgyns like they've never studied a medical book in

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their life, and as soon as they see you've got

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a lot of kids, they are going to tell you

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the way to do it. Especially and what gets me

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how many people that don't have kids at all, but

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I got a dog, you know what I mean. They

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try to tell you how to raise kids, They try

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to tell you how to fix your situation.

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They chastise you, because usually what.

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Happens is is like, I see you're buying the great

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value green beans instead of the fresh or frozen green beans,

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and you're like, yeah, they're a third the price. You know,

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we just got to get through to next week. Well

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did you know how many times does that something like

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that happened?

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That has happened. But I've always been a fan of

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the generic brand of vegetables.

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Well, I mean it's not just that, it's just the

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overarching thing. Like you buy Jack's pizza, I'm like, yeah,

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you ever had three of your own girls with ten

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of their own friends. You got thirty kids there, and

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you gotta have pizza for all of them.

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Jackson is yeah, right, you know what I mean.

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And you know, people like turning into doctors and economists.

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I mean that's just what they do. So whatever I've

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had people say, isn't that hard on you? Isn't that

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hard on your body?

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Well?

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Yeah, so is your advice, you know what I mean?

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Like sometimes you just got to be a prick back

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like that. But one thing that I would say, if

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you had to say one thing was probably got used

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abuse the most with us. What would you say, what it.

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Is our washer and dryer.

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Yeah, I'd say that too.

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And we've had some really good ones and we've had

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some really crappy ones. Laundry, for you, probably creates more

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stress than anything, because our kids aren't any different than

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any other kids. One sock goes off here, one sock

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goes off over there, constantly collecting.

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You know.

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The little ones changed their clothes about five times a day, right.

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You know.

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And then some people will say, oh, it's a fortune,

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and I'll be like, well, you know, we do save

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on entertainment. We've got karaoke life every night from the

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kids we got. We don't even have to turn on

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Netflix for teen drama because we got that at our

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house all the.

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Time, dancing in our living room and kitchen. Yeah, so

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weekend exactly.

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You know, somebody's always yelling, somebody's always crying, there's something

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somewhere that somebody's having like a literal you know, prime

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or Netflix moment in our home.

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Yeah, we do not do bored in our house.

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No.

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No, it's kind of like I don't want to use

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the word soap opera because it's not a soap opera.

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I would say, more of a sitcom. What would you say?

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Yeah, I would say.

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And then people do come up to us like they

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try to act like they're genuinely concerned. When do you

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have time for your relationship your wife? You know, when

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do you got time? How do you foster a good

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relationship with your wife? And I'm like, do you see

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how many kids we have? Do you think that there's

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time lacking? I mean, what else do you think is happening?

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Have you had that happen?

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Yeah? I mean come on, Ed, I don't know.

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Another big one you're going to run into is people

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are constantly trying to fix me, fix you.

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You ever wrap that thing? Have you ever heard about

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birth control? Yep? I have. But the difference between us

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and them is none of our kids were mistakes.

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And that's a choice.

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Yes, that is a choice. One ten percent. That's a choice.

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And I don't need fixing.

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You see.

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That's the problem with these with these you know, Ivory

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Tower people looking down all the time. They're always trying

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to fix you, except they're usually the most miserable maggots

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on the planet.

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We always hear have you ever the one thing we do.

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Hear a lot of I could never do that, And

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it's like, no worries, Karen, Yeah, no one's asking you.

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Well.

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The truth is when people say, oh, man, I could

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never do that, I'm like, you're right, you couldn't, okay,

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because it really does take some special people, not just

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parents but kids to be in a great, big family

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and make things work. It takes some special people, some

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strong people, some guided people, some people that have self conscients,

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some people like that. And most of the time I'm

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you're right, you couldn't do it. And then they get

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even more angry. But I'll never apologize for that because

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they could have made the choice to do it.

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They chose not to do it. You know.

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Then whatever, you know, I'm a very big fan of

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the bird, you know, like four inches from somebody's face,

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you know. But it is fun, it is great, and

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you can answer these people anyway that you want to,

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you know, I learned a long time ago that when

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people start asking you questions like that, that they're not

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genuine people. They're not there to help you. They're not

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there to you know, get anything out of it except for,

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you know, to make them feel important.

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Like, man, they came up.

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I came up to that really big family and I

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really let them have it about you know, them having

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kids and.

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Say, oh you do aye, you did great job. Great? Great?

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I would I could never do Yeah, you're right, you

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couldn't do it. Why don't you just shut up?

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Yeah?

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You know what I mean? Like a John Wayne movie.

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Are you feeling lucky today? Punk? You know? You know

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what I'm saying.

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The thing is, if you've got a big family, you

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got to understand there's big perspective from other people. You know,

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people are amazed usually at kids and big families because

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well they're so adult, or they're you know, they listen

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so good, or you'll see that a lot. Well, I

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think it's because kids in large families they got to

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learn patience before most they got to learn compromise because

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they're dealing with people all the time. Then the occasional

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pizza fight, water balloon fight, you know, she pulled my hair, fight,

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that type of thing. All of those things teach kids

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and big families to be different and to grow up

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different resilience.

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Yes, and everyone leaves our house with skills.

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A lot of life skills, yeah, Like how to deal

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with people. Do you know how many people are afraid

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to go just talk to somebody?

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You know.

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That's one advantage of this is usually our kids can

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hold a conversation with almost anybody.

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Yeah, anybody, right.

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You know, being busy's part of our life, you know,

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enjoying quiet time, that's part of our life. Learning, loving, laughing,

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that's all part.

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Of our life.

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That's our normal, right.

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And you know, I think that it has benefited us. Now,

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are there times that I wish I was like, Man,

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can I escape to the river for two hours just

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to go fishing?

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Yeah? But who hasn't felt that way?

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Yeah? I mean I think any normal person would feel

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that way, right.

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I mean.

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One of the biggest pet peeves I've had in my life,

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and some people are gonna laugh at this, is when

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you can't find the damn clicker. Yes, the clicker, Yeah,

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I mean in our house, it's like a frickin genie.

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It will disappear for five minutes and a poof comes

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right back. But it's never in my hands. Have you

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noticed that.

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You're never in there to watch?

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Well, it's been that way for two decades, you know.

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So it's just little things like that that I cherish,

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and you know, I yell about now, but it's funny

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to me.

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And here's here's the thing.

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When people come up and they're that way to you,

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and they're they're just being jerk offs, the best thing

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that you can do is put a big smile on

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your face and nod and let them know that you're

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truly happy and their opinion really doesn't matter.

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Yeah, so pro tips for nosy questions.

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All right, let's hear them.

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Wear shirts. Yes they're all mine? No not?

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Y okay?

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Yeah, well countstairs for fun with a clicker.

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Yeah, you can get one of them, that would that

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would be fun.

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And smile sweetly. Bless your heart for asking there.

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You go kill them with kindness. I mean, I guess

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that's one way to do it, you know, or you

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can do it my way, but both ways are good.

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You know what, Go enjoy your family. To hell with

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what anybody else thinks. Take care of your family. Prosper

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with your family and love your family.

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