Feb. 25, 2025

We Are the Hansons: Unlocking the Secrets to a Happy, Confident Wife

We Are the Hansons: Unlocking the Secrets to a Happy, Confident Wife

In this episode of We Are the Hansons, we break down the fundamentals of making your wife feel truly cherished. From making her feel sexy and beautiful to recognizing her intelligence and success, we discuss the key ingredients to a happy, confident, and fulfilled marriage. Whether you're looking to strengthen your relationship or just want to be a better partner, this episode is packed with insights that will transform your connection.

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Welcome to We are the Hansens. And today, you know

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what I'm filling in for the wife today, she's gotta

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take the little one into the dock tomorrow, you know

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what I'm saying. So she's like, hey, can you feel

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one of them can just slide it in. That's sure,

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I can do it. I can do it. But today

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we're gonna talk about making her feel like a lady.

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That's right. How do you treat your wife so she

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still feels like a lady? You know, respect, appreciation, you

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know that, consistent, never ending effort. Well, it hays dividends.

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If you know what I'm saying. She's gotta feel valued,

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she's gotta feel honored. She's both your partner and the

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mother of your children. You know, hopefully she's your best friend.

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But you gotta make sure that she knows. It's just

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like men and women are not mind readers. So let's

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get into it. Let's show how you do it, how

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to make your wife always feel like a lady. If

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you know what I'm saying, Oh, it's not easy. I'm

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not gonna lie's. It can be stressful at times. Okay,

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it can be. And I'm a little bit old school. Okay,

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But I think that being old school is a good

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thing because I think there are fundamental principles and things

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that you do to make your wife feel certain things

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in certain ways that I think will stand the test

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of time. I don't care, you know what type of

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progression they think that we are. At the end of

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the day, we have instinctual factors and instinctual efficiencies that

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make us who we are. Otherwise we wouldn't be with them.

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I mean, it is what it is. So if you want,

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I'll give you some wisdom that my father told me.

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Women always want to feel like a lady. Okay. Now

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there's different types of ladies, but you know what I'm saying.

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It doesn't matter if it's a grandma, it doesn't matter

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if it's a mother. I mean, look at your young daughters.

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I mean they're always dressing as princesses and you know,

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putting it on the fake necklaces and rings. They want

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to be a lady, okay, And part of being a

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lady is their point of view. How are you treating them? Well?

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Are you treating them like the lady they think that

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they should be treated as well. That's number one. That's important.

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So I think you got to. You gotta show your

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appreciation a lot. I mean daily. I'm not talking about

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being a simp. I'm talking about actually being appreciative for

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the things that they do. And ladies and gentlemen, or

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should I say gentlemen. If you've ever had a day

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taking care of all the things that your wife has,

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it's tough. Okay, it is a tough day when when

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you know, if you think did yeah, I'm gonna take

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today off because the wife's sick and I don't have

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to go to work today. This is going to be

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an easy day. I'll watch kids, I'll cook the dinners,

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I'll do all the things that my wife does. Wow,

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you begin to appreciate what she does really fast. Okay.

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I think you have to compliment them, and you can't

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give them dumb compliments like you're trying to, you know,

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like be an actor. They have to be genuine compliments.

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I'm talking about things that you wouldn't really think of, Like, hey,

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I didn't realize. You know how strong you got to

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be to pull this off. You know, good job. You

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know how you can compliment her on being kind or

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you can be kind to her because of the things

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that she does, you know. Intelligence. That's another one of

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those things that you very rarely hear guys talk about intelligence.

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At least complimenting with intelligence. And if it's something that

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she's got coming, you know, say it to her, make

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her feel good. There's something about it. You know, us guys,

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we like being complimented, but I think that it comes

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from a different space when you're complimenting your wife, like

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your wife takes it a lot more genuinely than we do.

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Maybe it's because they don't have an ego like we do.

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You know, I don't really know what it is, but

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I do know that you need to compliment, and you

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need to compliment genuinely, you know, compliment her on her looks. Okay,

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I'm one of those guys. If I'm going through the

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kitchen and you know, wife's out there and it's delivery whatever,

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and I see a chance to smack my wife on

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the butt, I'm going to do it. I'm gonna smack

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her on a button nice butt. Okay. She likes it.

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As a matter of fact, I think that if I

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didn't do that, she might think something's wrong with our relationship.

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But it's little things like that it's little things that

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you know, we kind of did when we first started dating.

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They kind of vanish over time. And I'll tell you what,

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thirteen kids later, I still think my wife is as

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hot as a day that I met her. I know,

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there's a lot of you know, it's not just physical attraction,

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but emotional attraction, you know, just because of the life

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we've lived. And I think that's the way that it's

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supposed to be. So just show her appreciation daily. You know,

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it's okay to say thank you for things, you know,

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even the little things, like I guess it's more about

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noticing things, paying attention and thanking her for those things

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that she thinks that you take for granted, because over

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time that stuff can build up. You know, she'll be like,

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I just do so much around here and you never

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pay attention. Well, how many guys haven't heard that before?

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The answer zero, you know. And then I think, as

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a father, it's your duty to make sure that your

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kids realize and appreciate the things that she does for them.

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You know, I think it's important for us to teach

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that on both sides. I think that it's important for

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our sons, especially to watch how we respect our wife,

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how we make her feel like a lady, how we

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actually cherish her. You know, I've said for a long time,

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everybody they're kind of born, they're like, well, what kind

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of husband do you want your daughters to have. I

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want my daughters to have a husband that lives life

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to the fullest, a whirlwind of life. Somebody that's going

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to respect her, Somebody that's going to cherish her, that

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that is his queen. That's the way that it's going

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to be. She's going to be protected, she's going to

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be provided for. She is going to live a life

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of abundance. That's what I want. I don't want them

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to be with some you know, straight laced, you know,

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pencil pushing chair jockey. I don't want that. I want

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them to go out and experience life and live it

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in a way that they have no regrets. And I

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think when I say that, I hope that my wife

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feels that every day, like, hey, this is still an adventure.

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This is the adventure of life. And man, do I

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thank you for the things that you do do. I

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thank you for just being you do. I thank you

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for twenty two years and I still think that you're

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beautiful and I think you're sexy. And you know, if

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we could do it all over again, I would Those

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are all things to be thankful for. But they're all

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things to say, hey, thanks. You know, sometimes as the dad,

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as the husband, I think that you need to you

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prioritize her. You know. It's one of those subtle things,

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like there's some things that you just can't ask. You

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have to learn to pay attention what makes her happy,

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you know what stresses her out. You know, it's not

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like they're helpless, but you know what I'm saying, as

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a guy, you know, kind of curtail what's stressing her out.

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If you know what makes her happy, do more of it,

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because it pays dividends, you know. And there's nothing wrong

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with I come from the real school, okay. And there

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was a time and there was people that I was

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around where guys into dishes. Guys and I don't do

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a lot of it, but I mean I have no

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problem chipping in doing dishes. I put stuff in the

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dryer a lot. I'm not so much washing because there's

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been a couple of disasters in our home from doing that.

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But I have no problem chipping in when it comes

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to the household stuff. If I can do it, no problem.

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As a matter of fact, I like to do it

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because it helps lightner load, if you know what I'm saying. Now,

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when it comes to parenting, if you really want to

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make her feel like a lady, you sometimes you got

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to step in and be like, all right, kids, let's

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go go get in the car right now, go give

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the wife kissing the hug. Hey, I'm taking the kids

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down of the park. Hey, I'm taking them fresh car.

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I'm doing something. I'm doing them, I'm taking them and

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I'm going to go do something with them because i

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can see that she's getting stressed out. I can see

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for a minute that hey maybe she just needs a

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little bit, she needs some self time, she she needs

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a break. Well you should be paying attention to that.

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And if that's something that's you know, going on, and

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it's just being human, you know, sometimes you just get

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stressed out. Give her a break, no matter what it is,

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whether it's the kids, whether it's house stuff, maybe it's work,

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you know, you know, whatever it is, just do it.

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And then the other thing, if you notice, when when

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your wife becomes a mother, there's this thing like for

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some reason they feel guilty about taking time for themselves,

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about you know, just having a little bit of self time.

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You don't recoop time, encourage them to do that, because

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you know what, all ladies recoup themselves. I know, the

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jokes and stuff about like how long you got to

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wait to take out a lady on a date when

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you're young and stuff, But the truth is that's still

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the person you married. And no matter how old your

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wife gets, she still wants to be pretty. She still

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wants to have that you know, that drive for you,

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And this is the important thing. She wants you to

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have that same drive for her. Okay, just like you're dating.

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So there's nothing wrong with being a gentleman. You know.

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I open doors for my wife. I will pull out

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chairs for her. I offer my arm. I never say hey,

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here's my arm. I just is we're walking in somewhere,

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I put my arm out. Why Well, one because I

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kind of like it when my lady's walking with me

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arm in arm. And two I want her to know

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that I still feel that way about her, you know,

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I want her to know that I still feel the

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same way, even stronger, like when we first started dating.

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Like you know, I know this sounds weird, but I

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want her to know that I still am madly attracted

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to her, I'm madly in love with her. I want

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her to know those things because that makes her feel good,

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and that helps her retain her lady's status, not just

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her mother's status, not just her wife's status. Like she's

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a pretty awesome lady, you know what I'm saying. Like

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I used to get mad with if we'd go somewhere

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and somebody would whistle at my wife. And you know,

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as I got older, I could see that that like

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still gave her some self confidence, and so it didn't

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bother me anymore, especially this far. You know, when you

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get into your relationship two three years and you know,

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you see these guys and they're looking at your wife.

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And when you're young and you're insecure, you're you know,

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you want to fight everybody why you can't stand Well,

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now I look at it, like man, that dude wishes

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he was me. But I want my wife to understand

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that I know that, and I know what I got in.

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She's pretty hot. That's what I want her to know.

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You know, there's other things like this new wave feminism,

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like you know, I don't believe in most of that. Like,

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you know, if your wife's carrying something heavy, you're the guy.

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Go do it. Okay, it's just that simple. Go grab

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whatever heavy from her. It's not that she can't do it,

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it's that you're supposed to lighten the load. You're supposed

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to make her feel like the lady, she's your queen.

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Go do it. I don't care what they say. You

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know what, whatever, you know, you've got to treat your

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wife the lady with the level of respect and the

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level of care that you want your daughters or your

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son to receive from their future partner. I am the

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direct role model for the way that my boys are

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going to treat their women in the future. Okay. And

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I also believe that by treating my lady like this,

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by treating my wife like this, my daughters are going

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to set up They're going to set a bar of

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how they think they should be treated by the way

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that I treat their mother. So I think that it's very,

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very important that men, you treat your wife the way

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that you want your daughters to be treated when they

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get older. Otherwise you're failing as a parent and you're

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failing as a husband. I think you've got to and

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I think you've got to understand if you start looking

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at the statistics. These types of things are so important

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because they're real, because that's the way that instinct has

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taught humans to learn behavior, learn behavior, and then use

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their instinctual efficiencies to provide the best life they can

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for each other. You know, you can't say this enough.

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You hear people when you're younger, keep romance alive, Keep

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romance alive. And I don't really think that they can

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understand that until you have the experience of that. You know,

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what are the types of things that you used to

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do when you were dating and then you got to

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throw in a few notes like once in a while,

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bring some flowers home, bring something home special for her.

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You know, maybe it's a candy bar, maybe it's a coffee,

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maybe it's a bag of her you know, favorite tea.

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You know, maybe it's just a note like hey, thinking

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about you, I love you, Hey, sexy, let's go on

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a date. This far just something. It can be literally

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six letters in, you know, three words, and it's going

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to mean something because you were actually taking time out

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to think about her, you know, as a guy, I mean,

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do you remember, you had to take a shower, your

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car had to be clean, you had to have gas,

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and and you had to have the night planned out.

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And then you know, you get married and you have

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three four years in and yeah, we're gonna go out

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on Friday and you go to Bob's Bowling Alley or

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something like that, and you've kind of forgot about the

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urgency and the planning that you did to be able

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to get this awesome woman, your dream woman. You forgot

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that you put a lot of planning, You put a

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lot of efforts into impressing her. And the thing is,

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you got to keep the romance alive. She got to

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keep impressing her and keep impressing her because they do

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it daily. They really do your woman. If she loves you,

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you know, she doesn't want you to look at her

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in a bad way. So they do these things daily

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and they want you to take notice. And one thing

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that they can understand is when you've put a lot

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of effort into something for them. She knows that you

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know where these places are that make her feel special.

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She knows that you know what kind of food she likes.

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Have you taken the time to look, you know, hold

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her hand, give her a kiss. Never ever be afraid

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to show a little bit of affection in front of anybody.

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Make sure that she knows that to you, she's eye

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candy and you want her hanging off you. And I

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know a lot of people out there gonna be like, oh,

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that is disgusting. Well, no, it's not. Okay, that's just

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the way that things are, and it's worked for me. Okay,

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never forget to give her a kiss. I did that

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not too long ago, and you know, I was ready

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before bad and I went and I gave her a

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kiss and she's like, do you realize it's been three

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days since you kiss me? Okay? I don't count days

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like that because I automatically know that she loves me.

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But man, was I failing three days without a kiss?

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There was a problem there. Okay. Now, as a husband,

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as a father, I think that it's so important that

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she knows that you're a team and that you know

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you're the backbone of that team. And never be littler. Okay,

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never ever ever be little. It's okay to have a

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joke now and then, but make sure that everybody else

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knows around you that she's number one. That's it. Don't

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ever do that in front of other people. Don't do

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it in front of your kids. I mean, every guy

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makes mistakes, and you know you'll slip when you're talking

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to her, especially when you guys are fighting. Usually the

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way that it is of the fight. A guy doesn't

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have much moxie when it comes to fighting. He only

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gets elevated in a war of words when it comes

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to your wife. And the truth is, your wife is

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always going to win when it comes to a war

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of words because they're more emotionally intelligent than men are. Okay,

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that's why when you get in a fight with your

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lady it hurts so damn much. Is because she knows

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how to fight, she knows how to attack, she knows

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how to hurt you. So you have to be the

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guy no matter what, and never belittle, hurt, Try to

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stop those fights before they even come. Even be careful

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with the tone, way that you say, the words that

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you're saying, because it all really matters. And for some reason,

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a lady will think about things over and over and over,

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and a guy, he will think about things, he will

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digest things, he will logically come up with an explanation

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and then gone he spits it out. Not so much

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with the lady. Okay. I think that it's easy in

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a relationship to get sidetracked on only your dreams and

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your ambitions. And I think if you're going to treat

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your wife like a lady, you need to not only

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look at your dreams, but you need to understand her dreams.

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I think you need to understand her ambitions. I think

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once you're married, it's just as important for her to

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get those goals, to reach her dreams, to keep seeking

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her ambitions. I think you have to encourage her to

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pursue the things that are healthy in your relationship and

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that make her happy. You know, being happy is not everything,

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but reaching happiness or living a life to try to

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be happy, I think is And I think there is

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a big difference. You have to make your lady feel

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like a queen in all situations. Okay. I think that

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edification is something that we've lost that's super important that

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I think that your wife really really pays attention to.

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I want other people to know how much I love

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my wife. I want other people to know how much

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I cherish my wife. I want other people to know

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how dangerous I can be if you cross my wife.

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And I think that that's instinctual. I think that that

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is healthy. I think that it is almost like preparation

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for some situations that you get into. You know, if

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you you just by the way you act, just by

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the way you talk, just by the way you treat

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other people, not only can it affect your wife and

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your kids, it can also affect people around you. And

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I know every person listening out there has met somebody

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that really wasn't doing anything other than acting a certain way,

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in a good way usually and saying some good things.

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That was just them and you're like, man, that person's

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just different, and it makes you want to be better.

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So I think that you can actually affect other relationships

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just by being true, good and helpful to your wife.

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By cherishing your wife, you know, I think it's also

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important when you're doing these things, and you know, when

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you're treating her like a queen, get the kids doing

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something for her too, you know, not just on Mother's Day,

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you know, involve the kids, make breakfast, write notes, I

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you know, something to celebrate her being who she is,

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because mother really is superwoman. Okay that's really the truth.

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And the other thing, now, when I was a kid.

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I remember my dad took me over to our uncle's

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house and we took pieces of wood and we made

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wooden candle holders for my mom. Now, my mom and

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dad were divorced, but he was doing it simply to

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teach us kids about the importance of Mother's Day and

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you know, the things that mothers do, and why it

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should be celebrated, and why you should be thankful for

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your mom. I think those are all important things. And

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I think it does make women feel like a queen

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when their children are that way and their husband is

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that way, and she really does feel like she's the

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queen of your life. You know, one of the things

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in today's society, it's frowned upon that, you know, defend

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your wife. Well, I think that's something that's sorely missing today,

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because although every relationship has problems, if you're going to

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treat her like a queen and she's going to feel

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like a lady, she needs to know that you are

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her biggest fan, that you are going to support her. So,

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I mean, it gets it's easy to strangers. I mean whatever, whatever,

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defender with strangers. That's the easy. One. Where it doesn't

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get easy is when it's your family, or even when

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it's your kids, and you have to to defend your

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wife because that is your duty. Okay, it doesn't say

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like in England, know you're going to defend the queen.

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If she's right, it's you're going to defend the queen period.

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And it should be the same with your wife, you know.

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I try to be for my wife. I want myself

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to be her safe space. I want her to come

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and talk to me, you know, idio not face judgment,

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you know, and we're way past things at this point,

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Like you know, it was something cheating or something which

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he's never done and we'd never dream of doing. I'm

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talking about regular things that are just on people's minds,

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not stuff like that that people always jump to. And

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I want her to be able to come to me

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without feeling like I'm going to judge her. And I

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want to be your safe space. I want her to

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know that she's going to be protected and that she

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can come and tell me anything. And the most important

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thing before I wrap this up, is you can say

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the right things, and you can buy the right gifts

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and all those things, but if you do not show

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her through your actions and not just words that she

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is your priority. She will never feel like that because

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it's easy to say words. You remember the Nirvana song

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that says who needs actions when you've got words? Well,

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he was proving a point that words mean nothing without actions.

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It's the little things that are done over a long

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period of time, that are done consistently that makes your

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wife feel like a lady. That makes her feel like literally,

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she's the queen that she's truly loved, and she's never

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out of place when she's next to you because she's

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defended and within the family. That's her safe space. That's

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where she feels love. That's where she can thrive. That's

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where she can reach the goals and the ambitions that

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she's always had and be loved. And that is truly

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how to make your wife feel like the lady that

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she truly is. All Right, folks, thank you very much.

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Remember we are the Hansons Dot family that should be

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out in the next day or two. There's a newsletter

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on there. We're going to be talking about some of

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these things. We may be doing some seminars. We're also

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going to be doing my favorite, which is recipes, Okay,

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recipes for the Blackstone recipes for the smoker, recipes to

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throw in the crockpot, all things goodness about food, family time,

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fun things to do, and maybe even a few product reviews.

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All Right, I love you this man. We are the Hansons.

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I'm out piece that stick, scot