March 20, 2025

🔥 We Are the Hansons: The Ultimate Guide to Being a Strong Father, Loving Husband & Role Model!

🔥 We Are the Hansons: The Ultimate Guide to Being a Strong Father, Loving Husband & Role Model!

In this powerful episode of We Are the Hansons, we tackle the most crucial roles a man can have—being a father, husband, and role model. In today’s fast-paced world, balancing family, work, and personal growth isn’t easy, but it’s the foundation of a fulfilling life. We bring you real stories, expert-backed tips, and no-nonsense advice on how to strengthen your marriage, raise confident kids, and lead your family with purpose. Whether it’s communication hacks, discipline strategies, work-life balance tips, or personal development, we cover everything you need to know to build a legacy that lasts. Join us for honest discussions, practical wisdom, and the motivation you need to be the best father, husband, and leader you can be. Your family deserves the best version of you—let’s make it happen!

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Welcome to We are the Hansens.

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Where we talk about family, we talk about life, we

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talk about marriage, we talk about pretty much everything on

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this channel. If it's happened to us, it's going to

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be on this channel. And sometimes that's good, sometimes it's not.

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But I am Jeremy Anson, the husband of Maya Hanson,

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and you know, once in a while I will do

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a show on here. Sometimes i'll do one with her.

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But there are some things that are very hard.

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To teach, and I want to talk about one of

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them today, teaching other young men about what it.

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Requires, not about what you want a but.

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What it requires to be a good husband and a

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good father. I personally think that the world would be

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a much better place with a strong father and a

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strong mother in every home. And the only way we

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can do that is to get back to the basis

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of what it really is to be good at it,

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to want it, to love it, to do the things

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that I have been trying to do now. Number One,

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I would say this, folks, I would say that you're

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always on a journey. Literally, you're always on a journey

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to get better. I do a political I do a

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political podcast too, but I also do probably that this

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is my favorite podcast, and then I have a comedy one,

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and I do four different ones, but my favorite is

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about business and I talk about success and I talk

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about happiness all the time in that podcast. But the

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thing that I say about that is that success and

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that happiness that is not a destination. Okay, it's the journey.

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It's all part of the journey. So you're constant learning.

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You're trying to get better all the time. There's so

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many things that you need to learn, like patience and

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how to learn and you know, love, empathy, all these

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different things that you're always constantly evolving in your journey

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of life with and today, you know, there's some simple

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things that I wanted to talk about about being a

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father and a husband.

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Okay.

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Number one, you got to know that you're never going

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to be perfect, You're never you are human, but it

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is your job to be the best role model for

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your wife first, then for your children, and then for

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your community. You can't believe how many different times we

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have other kids come over and the kids, you can

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just see it in their eyes, you can see it

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in their face that they are yearning so bad for

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a father, that they want a father. They want that connection,

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they want the little things they see. I learned a

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lot from my father and my mother. I learned a

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lot from my grandfather's and my grandmother's you know, mostly good.

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And I try to be the best that I can be,

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and I try to prepare.

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It's really hard as a father because.

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The people that you want to spend all your time

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with your children, you're literally preparing them to spend all

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their time without you. And you know, that gets really

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really hard sometimes, I mean thinking about that. I saw

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a short video where the guy says what's the best

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part about being a dad, And he says, watching your

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kids grow up? And then he says, well, what's the

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hardest part about being a dad? And it literally is

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watching your kids grow up. You know, I've got thirteen kids,

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seven sons, six daughters, and it makes you have a

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lot of pride, and it makes you have love, and

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it makes you have those things seeing them grow up

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and become good men and women, productive in society, happy,

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you know, successful, chasing their dreams, living life, I mean

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literally living life. And you know, I don't agree with

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all the people that write books about this kind of

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thing about being a father and what I want my

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kids to do. I want my kids to be happy, absolutely.

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Do I want them to be successful? Absolutely?

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But am I doing enough? Then?

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I ask myself this every day? What could I do better?

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And am I doing enough to make sure to ensure

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that I am setting them up to be successful to

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be happy? Do you guys ever think like that? Do

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you ever ask yourself? Am I good enough? I mean,

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when things get mundane and you keep doing the same

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things over and over again, do you ever to stop

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and say, what can I do better to be a

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better man?

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For me, it's a little bit easier than most. Like

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some guys they find out that they're going to have

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a baby, and their whole world gets turned upside down.

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You know, maybe it wasn't part of the plan, maybe

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it wasn't goals, but it wouldn't have happened if it

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wasn't supposed to happen. And it's part of responsibility. Part

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of being a good father and a good husband is responsibility.

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But I think the number one most important thing is

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just time. Your most valuable asset in the world forever

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is your time. So be there when it matters. Okay,

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not just when it matters to you, but when it

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matters to them.

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My oldest daughter the other.

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Day made a TikTok and she was talking about her

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being there for kids. Single mother, works full time job,

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plus goes to school, plus she's a TikTok whatever you

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call them, and she still makes time to volunteer. She

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still makes time to go to the kids's shows. I'm

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talking about my grandkids. She still makes the time because

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to them it matters. My kids, my daughters just yesterday

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they set up a movie night where I'm busy working,

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and they're, hey, Dad, you got to come and do this.

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You got to come and do this, and it's important

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for you to just take the time.

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Okay, the bills will always be their work will always

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be there, making money will always be there, So take

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some time and spend it with your kids. You need

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to make moments stand out, I mean really stand out

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in your family.

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You know, you need to pay attention.

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You need to know what's going on, even though it

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can become mundane and it really doesn't feel that important

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to you. It's not about what's important to you in

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the macro. Maybe the micro, but in the macro, it's

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about what is important to them. So teaching your kids

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how to ride a bike, teaching them how to fish,

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sitting down and watching a movie with them, being there

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when they go through a breakup, or talking to them

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when they get good grades on their report card, or

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when they figured something out, or just walking up and

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doing something. Now with all my kids, you know, sometimes

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my boys might get a little embarrassed because I tell

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them I love them. When I leave their presence, I

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tell them that I love them. I don't care if

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they're at school, I don't care if they're with twenty friends,

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and I will give them a big hug, say I

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love you, because it's important. Not only is it important

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for them, their friends should know what a strong man

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looks like. A strong man doesn't care what other people

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think when he's dealing with the people that he loves.

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I respect my father a lot, and I asked my

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dad looking for anything out there. I was like, if

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you could change one thing, just one thing about your life,

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what would it be?

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My dad.

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I was a good dad, but he was very busy man.

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He is successful, he's happy, he's got a wonderful wife.

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You know, nice house, nice vehicle. I mean, he's got

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it all.

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But I asked him, and he said, you know, one

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thing I would change is I wouldn't have worked as much. Now,

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coming from a son of a dad like that, it

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almost knocked me over. It like took the wind out

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of me. Because his values had changed as he got older,

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and as he looked back on his life and he

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decided what was important and what was not important, or

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at least putting a list together of what is most important,

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what his goals were. It had moved because the most

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important thing to him was creating memories. Because he told me,

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you know, when you get older, when the gold and

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the money kind of fades away, it's not so shiny anymore,

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and you have all the things, the only really thing

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that you really have are the memories that you created.

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And you know, I started thinking about that, and when

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I think about our Christmases and Birthdays, I remember a

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sum but very few of the presence that I got

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at any time. But I'll tell you what, I can

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go through almost every single year of Christmas and tell

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you a memory about Christmas, about something that happened, something

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that was funny. I talked, that we had something that

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was going on. I can remember, and it shrinks the

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importance of money down. And when you start shrinking the

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importance of money down, what you start seeing is that

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the importance of time starts getting bigger. So don't miss

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out on things. Go to as many. I mean, life's

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going to get in the way. It just it is

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what it is. Life happens sometimes. But try to get

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to their sporting events and their recitals. And if you've

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got anniversaries or you've got family reunions or birthdays or

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any of that, do everything you can, not only for

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your children, but for your spouse. Make sure that you're

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on the same wavelength with your spouse. Guys, as far

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as being a father and being a husband, it is

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your job to go over and above.

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You are the leader within the home.

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You are your daughter's hero, and you are exactly the

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man that your sons are going to be. Now that

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should scare the hell out of you, guys, that it

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is that important. Okay, you are going to be your

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daughter's hero.

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Your daughters are.

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Going to pick a guy that treats her like you

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treat your wife, and the sons are going to look

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at you and they are going to become a mini

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version of you. That is a fact. You can look

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at the statistics. That's just the way that it happens, okay.

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I would also say that you have to show interest

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in your spouse and kids. If you're one of those

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guys and like, let's say you have an addiction to

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something and your wife, ain't it you guys know what

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I'm saying. You've got a serious issue. You got a problem.

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I've been with my wife for twenty two years now,

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and I still think that she's the hottest chick I

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ever met. She's still my best friend. I still get

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those feelings, do you know what I'm saying. In Sometimes

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if you don't feel that way anymore, or you've lost

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interests or something thing, there's a reason for that, and

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usually it's not them. Most of the time, it's us, okay,

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And you have to learn how to get back to

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the place where you remember her in a way, your

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point of view.

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A lot of it is your point of view and

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your kids.

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I see so many guys all the time that have

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these outstanding, awesome kids, and they don't want to spend time.

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They'd rather go out with their buddies and go drinking.

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They'd rather, you know, go do this, go do that.

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When they come home. You know, kids are meant to

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be seen, not heard. That type of thing that doesn't

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work anymore. If you want to do what you should do,

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if you want to take full responsibility of the things

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that you've created or building your legacy, you're going to

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make sure that you have interest in your spouse. And

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if things aren't better, water the lawn. Make them better.

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I know, I know logically it can be really really

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hard to fix things or to work on things. But

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if you're going to be a good spouse, you need

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to work on things. You need to do it logically.

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You need to.

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Decompartmentalize the things that are blocking you. And if it

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has to do with your kids, you're not showing interest

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in your kids.

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That's very odd for me.

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I can't imagine a father not wanting something to do

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with kids, or being interested in what the kids are doing,

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or how they're doing, or how they're feeling, or how

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they are developing into this machine that is going to

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be successful and happy. But you need to pay attention

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and you need to show interest. You know, you really

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should every once in a while write down well just

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take just questions you don't want chat GPT five questions

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I should know about my child. What's their favorite color,

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what's their favorite cartoon? Why is it their favorite cartoon?

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What's their favorite class at school? Why is it their

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favorite class? What interest do they have that you don't

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have that maybe you can get involved in to make

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sure that they know that, hey, we think you're cool.

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It gives them self confidence, It makes them be better

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when it comes to loving other people, not being a bully.

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Things like that, so very very simple. Be there when

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it matters, show interest in your spouse and your kids.

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Just do it.

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Don't make excuses. Don't be an excuse maker. You know

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the excuse makers of the world. They live in mediocrity

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and below. And if you want your child to be mediocre,

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if you want them not to have a future, just

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keep being mediocre because they're going to follow you. You

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have to be the role model. You have to do

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what you preach, practice what you preach. Don't expect your

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children to follow your advice if you're not doing it.

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Don't be a do as I say, not as I

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do person, because it never ever works. Real men, strong men,

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men that are renowned. They're accountable for the things that

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they do. They're responsible for the things that they do.

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They set standards for themselves, they set standards for their

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children and for their wife, and they live a life

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of principle. And now I know some people are he'sh preaching.

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I'm not preaching. I'm telling you the truth. Don't ever

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lie in front of your kids. Don't ever do it.

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They need to recognize the importance of honesty. Okay, when

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you're honest with everybody, and when you can actually accept responsibility,

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you know, be resilient when things go wrong. Those are

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things that are learned learning other people's behavior. It just

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it is what it is. Sometimes I just jump in

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and do the dishes. Why not to be husband one

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on one, but because I'm showing my kids that sometimes

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you just jump in and you do stuff. It is

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what it is. We're all family here. Or writing a

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note to your wife of twenty two years, where some

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people will think is crazy, but just hey, I love you,

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still think you're hot. You know we got a date

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for a night, something like that. Don't be afraid to

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let your kids see something like that. You want your

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boys to treat a lady like a lady, right, You

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want your daughters to see it because they should expect

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to be treated like that when they get older. I'll

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tell you what you don't want. You don't want some

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guy calling your daughter names and screaming at her and

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making up excuses and blaming her for things, or god forbid,

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putting their hands on her. Would you you don't want

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that for your daughter. If you wouldn't want it for

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your daughter, you don't do it to your wife. If

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you want your boys, if you want their life to

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go easier and better, you better show them the ropes

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of how to treat a lady. And while you're doing that,

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you're also preparing them to be good fathers for their

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sons and daughters for your grandchildren. Encourage honest communication with

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your children. If they're going through something, you should want

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to know about it. You don't have to agree with it.

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And there gets to be those teenage years where it

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drives you crazy because you've already made some of the

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mistakes that your children, your teenage children, that they want

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to go and make it. No matter how much you do,

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they're still going to go do their thing. But you

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still have to be honest about it. You still have

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to encourage, Hey, come and talk to me about this

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don't think that there's a wall between us. Don't think

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I should be the person that you can confide in

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no matter what.

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And then it leads to.

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Avoid judging or criticizing that communication, that thought process. Now,

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there are certain things that are outside the expanse of

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the principles that a family lives by. Those criticize, but

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give a reason for the criticization.

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Tell them why this isn't good. Now.

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Sometimes, and every father out there knows us, there are

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going to be times where pain is going to teach

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them because they don't listen. They don't fall within the

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boundaries of protection that you made. But that is completely normal.

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You did it.

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I'm sure that your dads did it, and I'm sure

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their dads did it.

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That is just part of life. So be very.

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Careful about judging them or criticizing them unless it falls

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outside the boundary of the principles that you've laid down

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for them to.

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Be good men or women.

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And this whole time, you should be at the same

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level as your wife with all of these things. Don't

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ever criticize your wife in front of your children.

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Don't ever tell her she's wrong.

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Even if she is wrong, You don't say it in

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front of the kids. You talk about it later away

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from the kids, and I know some guys are going

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to say, well, she doesn't. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter.

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We are two different vessels and we're built two different ways,

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and our responsibilities are two different things. Leadership is an honor,

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an honor to be a good leader, but leadership has

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many responsibilities that don't feel like honor. Leadership sometimes requires sacrifice,

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and that is especially hard when you're dealing with a wife. Okay,

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you know what wives are really really good at. Wives

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are very very good pushing your buttons because they know

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what bothers you. If you get into a war of

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words with your wife, telling you right now, you're going

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to lose.

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Okay. They're better at that than we are. Okay. So

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being a leader means you lead.

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Yourself out of that situation and talk about it later

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where logic can be used instead of emotion. You see

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how that works. So just be be careful with that,

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be there when it matters. Show interest in your spouse

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and kids and let them see that you have interest.

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Be a role model.

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Do the things that you say, practice what you preach,

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encourage with your wife, Encourage with your kids, open and

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honest communication. My daughters will come and tell me about

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guys they're thinking about dating or problems they're having with dating,

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and I'm glad I have that relationship with my daughters.

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I really, really am glad. Now I stuff I don't

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want to hear.

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I promise you that, But that allows me to give

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them at least wisdom, at least ways to protect themselves,

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at least I know what's going on. And I just

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let them talk, and I try very hard to let

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them get through everything because I'm actually listening, and I

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don't judge, and I don't criticize until later, because there's

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emotional boundaries that you can't go in at the moment.

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In that time.

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That's a whole nother show. But make sure that you're

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carving out time for your family. Remember time is your

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greatest asset. Carve out time. Take a little bit of

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wisdom from my father and say, you know what, I

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wish I wouldn't have worked so much. As you get older,

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create the wisdom to make sure that you can make

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enough money while saving time for the things that really matters,

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like creating memories with your family. Now, out of all

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the good men that I have seen be good husbands,

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that I have seen be good fathers, that I have

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just seen be good men. One thing that you notice

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with them is with good family values. You know, you

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observe your holidays, and you know your religious things, and

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you know, maybe cultural rituals and family traditions, things like that.

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Good men are always making traditions, building new traditions, cherishing

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the old traditions. It can be very very simple. It

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can be going to church on a special day for whatever.

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It can be that.

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It could be like my family, they get together as

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a family and we make lefsa okay, we celebrate our birthdays,

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we create memories, we create tradition because in the end,

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that's literally your legacy, and your children are going to

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see it, and your children are going to get instilled

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in them family values. Not what the society says is okay,

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it's what the family tradition says is okay. And within

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family traditions, most people don't see it this way, but

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family traditions provide safety for our children and our grandchildren

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and our great grandchildren. Anyways, I did want to make

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this too serious, but I think this was important to

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talk about because I see a lot of men out

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there working their fingers to the bone, not taking time

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for their family, for their kids. And you can have

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all the stuff in the world, but if you don't

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have anybody to share it with, and you don't have

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anybody to share happiness with, success feels like a ball

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and chain. It doesn't feel good, all right, folks, I

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am Jeremy Hanson. Thank you for listening to We Are

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the Hansons. Check out the website. If you'd like to

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email us, you can. You can email us at we

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are the Hansonfamily at gmail dot com. We are the

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Hansonfamily at gmail dot com. Go out, be great, do

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more than mediocrity, and remember success and happiness is not

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a destination.

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It is our journey of life. Thank you,