Feb. 5, 2025

"We Are the Hansons: Teaching Kids About Money – The Good, The Bad & The Crazy!"

"We Are the Hansons: Teaching Kids About Money – The Good, The Bad & The Crazy!"

In this episode of We Are the Hansons, I bring my husband along to dive into the wild world of teaching kids about money! From the good to the bad—and even the crazy—we’re sharing our journey of raising financially responsible, happy, and independent children. Tune in as we discuss practical tips, real-life experiences, and how we’ve helped our kids chase their dreams while understanding the value of a dollar. Whether you’re just starting or looking for fresh ideas, this episode is packed with insights and laughter!

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Welcome to We are the Hansens. Today, we are diving

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into a topic that influences nearly every aspect of our lives. Money,

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more specifically, the role of family in shaping our attitudes

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towards money, from the way we save and spend, how

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we handle financial stress. Our family plays a huge role

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in shaping our beliefs about money, whether it's lessons passed

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down from our parents, experiences from childhood, or the financial

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habits we're now instilling in our own kids. Money is

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more than just dollars and cents. It's about values, priorities,

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and even emotions. As a big family, who've had to

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be intentional about how we approach money, teaching our kids

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financial responsibility while balancing wants, needs, and unexpected spenses. In

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this episode, we will share our upbringing influenced our own

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financial mindset, the money lessons we want our kids to learn,

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and how we navigate finances as a family. So grab

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a cup of coffee and join us as we talk

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about money, family and the lessons that last a lifetime.

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Let's get started.

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Well, let's get started. I'm the husband. She's letting me

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come in on this one today. How are you good? Well?

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I say, we do it my way and we change

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things up a little bit. Oh yeah, we're talking about

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kids and money.

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What are you laughing at I'm laughing at you.

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Boy, it's got to be fun. It's we're talking about money.

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Money are crazy making money. We're talking about the money.

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We're talking about saving money.

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Well, you don't have a problem sending it.

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No, you're the one that doesn't have a problem. So

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you can literally go ask our children, and that's how

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Dad's the saver.

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No, not even clothes.

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No, today we got to do a little bit something

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more fun, if you know what I'm saying. Once in

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a while, and money is one of those things that

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you can teach your kids. You can have a bunch

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of fun doing it, but there's always the hard lessons

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you got to learn, Like, uh, how about this. Do

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you think that just because your kid does chores that

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they should get money for every kind of choice they do.

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No, doesn't teach them anything.

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Well exactly, but then there's some things that they do

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make money on. Yes, Okay, so it's a delicate balance.

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Out of all of our kids, out of all thirteen,

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who do you think is the best with money?

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Probably Tristan Yeah, Tristan is very good.

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Adam is also very good. Colin is also very good.

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As a matter of fact, we don't have any kids

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that are just bad with money, except for the.

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Little ones are pretty bad with money.

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Yeah, maybe are very very little ones. But you know,

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where's the responsibility in money under eight years old?

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Yeah?

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You know, I work for that. I want that doll.

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I'm gonna get it bad, right, that's the truth. Well

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let's get this going. Okay, that's enough of that, but hey,

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sometimes you gotta have a little bit of fun, right, Yeah,

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you know, I think when it comes to kids, number

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one thing, number one thing is you got to teach

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them money is not the love of money. Like you,

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you don't want money to have money because money is

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completely worthless unless you use it as a tool.

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Right, Yeah, you.

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Don't give them an example of having money but nothing

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to spend it on.

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I would have to say, well, there's always stuff to

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spend it on. It's just once first needs.

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And that is my wife showing her true colors about

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saving money. You see, if you ask me, there's not

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always something to spend it on.

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Wait, I'd rather save money and go on a vacation

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with the family than just go out and buy stuff

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that I don't need.

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Well, I agree with that, but you know, we're talking

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about kids. I taught my kids a long time ago

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because I used to be the guy that would go

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out and I wanted tools. So I wouldn't save up

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to get the tools that I wanted I'd get. I'd

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save up enough to get a tool that was kind

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of like I wanted, but I could get it quicker,

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like instant gratification.

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Yeah, Like a lot of times he would just get

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something that he wanted.

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Not exactly what I wanted, Like I would settle for

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a Harbord freight tool versus in Milwaukee.

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Yeah, but they're still as good, I would say, And.

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See, I would say they're not. But you know, that's

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the good thing about being being right and the good

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thing about you being wrong.

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Now, I like, I like to buy where we might

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save a little money, and he likes to buy the

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expensive stuff.

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I wouldn't say expensive, I would say value. There's a

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value proposition there. And I try to teach the boys this.

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Excuse me, when you're buying certain items, it's like you

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should just buy the good one, buy it once and

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be done with it instead of buying things multiple times,

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you know, And I've showed the shown the kids that

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multiple times when it comes to tools or things like that.

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And then like the girls like, how many dolls if

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you're not careful, how many dolls can your child end

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up with? After three years? Wow? We have a lot, exactly, So,

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but how many dolls do they actually play with?

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Probably five or six?

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Right, that's it, that they have five or six and

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the rest just sit in the toy box and look

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unhappy because they're not being played with.

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That's true.

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That's true. So you got to teach your kids that

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money is a tool, and you really should before wasting money.

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You really should know what you want and then it's

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very simple, work really hard and just go get it.

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Yes, we've always from the time our kids were able

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to know, you know, how money, like how to save

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and how to spend, they've known how to do that,

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and we've always instilled like you got to save. If

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you want this, or if you need something for your vehicle,

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you better have the money to spend it on.

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Right. And I think it comes from, you know, from

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our parents. I think that's a lot of it is

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learn behavior. I think you can nickel dime yourself. Like

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if you stop at the gas station. Every time you

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go in the gas station, you're buying this, or you're

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buying that, or you know, like two three sodas, you

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can literally go through, you know, three four hundred bucks

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a month just stopping at the gas station and buy

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an extra crap every month.

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I would have to agree. I mean, growing up my family,

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my mom and dad worked twenty four to seven and

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we were always broke. So I've learned that save as

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much as you can because you never know when something's

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gonna happen and you're gonna need that money.

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Right, So I think there's some foundational principles like know

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what you want, don't buy garbage, and never ever go

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spend money on instant gratification, you know, like instead of

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saving today, I'm gonna buy that candy bar because I

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want that instant gratification today.

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Yeah, our kids are very good about not spending like that, right, you.

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Know, all the kids I taught that you needed to

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have a well it's not what I called it, but

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an emergency fund.

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Yeah, it's the oh shit fund.

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Yes, the oh shit fund. That's what I always told

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the kids, especially as they get older in their teenage years,

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you're going to have problems. At some point, you're going to.

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Have problems, Yes, And it's almost like our kids have

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seen what we struggled with, so they've learned that. You know,

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mom and dad struggled and they saved and they got

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what they needed. And I see them doing the same thing.

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Yeah, so do I. I mean, it's just it's one

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of those things like sometimes you're going to go through

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Murphy's Law. You can be the hardest worker, you can

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do all the right things, but at some point something

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is going to go wrong. So you have to have

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a fund. You have to save for that fund. I've

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truly always believed in ten percent of everything you earn,

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you just put away another ten percent of that goes

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into the oh shit fund, and you never touched the

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first ten percent. You act like it's not even there.

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So you have a saving so as you get older,

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you're not depending on anybody, including Social Security, to have

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a retirement that just gets put away invested. It can

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come in handy later if you want to reinvest it

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into like a business you have or something like that.

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But I think you've got to set the base, like Okay,

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for every dollar you make, ten cents of it goes here,

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ten cents of it goes there. The other eighty cents

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you do with what you want.

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Yeah, it's like I've done a podcast on this in

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the past, but every time our family takes a trip,

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something always happens. A car breaks down, we get a

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broken windshield, we hit something. It always happens. And you

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always have that money if you need it.

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Right and then you know, I think something that I've

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always told my kids is if you borrow money, if

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you borrow money to somebody, especially if it's family.

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What's my rule, Maya, don't ever expect it back.

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It is in gift. Yeah, pretend it's a gift. If

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they happen to give it back to you, well hallelujah.

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But if they don't, you gave it as a gift

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because you were in the financial position to give it.

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And I try to tell my kids, you know, it's

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good to have empathy, but it's bad to put yourself

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in a bad position. So if you can help other

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people and you want to help other people, help them,

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but do not expect anything back, because that is a

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fast way to ruin relationships, especially with money, because money

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is a weird thing. Money changes people. If they have

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very little money, it changes people. If they have a

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whole bunch of money, it changes people. It's usually the

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middle of the road people that stay the same.

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Yes, And I would consider ourselves middle of the road.

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Yeah, absolutely, And that's kind of where I want to stay.

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I mean, we've been way up there, and we've been

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way way down there, and right in the middle it

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kind of seems like the happy spot.

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I don't want all these like fancy cars and all that.

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I'd rather have an older car and have it bought

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out right and not have that payment than to go

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out and buy an eighty thousand dollars vehicle that it's

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not going to be worth eighty thousand dollars by the

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time you're driving it for a couple of years.

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Well, I've got a saying that I live by. It's

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in a friend of mine that passed away. I used

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to say it all the time. It was one of

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his tenants of life, and it was just because you

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can doesn't mean you should. And you know that really

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really shines through when it comes to money. Just because

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you can go buy a new car, you make enough

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money and you can skim by. It really doesn't mean

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that you should. And I try to teach our children that,

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all of them, they're all pretty good with that. But

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sometimes that's one of those life lessons. For example, my

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daughter wanted a Nissan, really nice, newer Nissan, and I

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was like, honey, that is an expensive payment. Well it's

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only four hundred and thirty dollars dad, you remember that, yep.

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And I was like, honey, you make enough to do it. Financially,

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you can do it. But there's a there's a difference

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from being able to can do it to you start

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not wanting to do it. And where's she at today.

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Well, she's in a position where she's made three payments ahead. Well,

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when she switched jobs and started college again, she fell

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down to one payment ahead, and she panics at that point,

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so she starts, well, it's not.

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Just that, it's the new wears off. So you get

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this buyer's remorse, like, man, I got to pay four

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hundred and thirty dollars a month again, and you know

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we've we've done the thing where you split up the payments.

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So more goes on principle, and she's paid ahead, but

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now she's really learned the value lesson and you know,

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next time, I'm probably going to get a car that

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fits my needs more than this thing that I just

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wanted to have that. Don't get me wrong. She can

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make the payments. She's still making the payment, she's still

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doing all of that. But it's a it's a mind

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thing about what you want in the moment versus what

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you want you know later on. And here we are,

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you know what, two and a half years. Two and

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a half years. She's got the same payment, but the

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wants that she has now we're different than the wants

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that she had two and a half years ago. So

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it's just you know, as you go build it up

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and the thing is four hundred and thirty dollars, it

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doesn't sound like a lot of money, even though it

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is a lot of money, and everybody goes through this.

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I can make that payment, and then you know, there's

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always too much month at the end of the money.

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And then you have the boys who just go and

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buy old cars outright, fix them up and tear them.

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Up right, and then fix them up again and then

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tear them up. Yep, it's somewhere in between. I think

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there's a happy medium. But a lot of this stuff

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is you want to make sure that when you're teaching

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your kids about money, they've got the fundamentals, and they've

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got the basics, Okay, basics in investment, basics in how

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to buy things, basics in setting up a budget, basics

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in you know, make sure that if you do checkbooks anymore,

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that you always have a balanced checkbook, that you're banking

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is always balanced. How to pay things so you can

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pay less interest, how or why you shouldn't get anything

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high interest. Or if you have a credit card, you

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never you never have any more than thirty percent of

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the card that's available, and you always pay it off

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by the end of the month, because if you don't,

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it has no value. Those things are imperative for your

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kids to be able to live in today. And the

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one thing with money is you can't teach your kids

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like our parents taught us about money because the financial

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world today doesn't the world that was back then doesn't

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even exist today, yep.

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And we've always taught our kids you do whatever you've

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got to do to make money to live and our

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kids have done that right.

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And so we put a big stressor on the content

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of character of people. And there's a lot of people

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out there like have you ever met the type like

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whoo who they got money? You know, to me, how

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much money you have has nothing to do with if

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you're a good person or you're not a.

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Good person, I would have to agree with that. I

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think that you know, all of our kids as friends

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have thought we had money, and I'm like, oh god,

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you guys are badly mistaken. With thirteen kids, we're kid broke.

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Well broke, yes, But the amount of money you make

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is you know, directly dependent on the bills that you have.

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So when people think that it's you know, they're probably

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right in their situation. In our situation, you know, if

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you make you know, one hundred and fifty grand, then

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you got thirteen kids, you're really not doing very good.

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But if you have a husband and wife living together

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and they're making one hundred and fifty grand, you know,

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and I'm talking like ten years ago, that to them

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they were rolling in the dough. Yeah, So it's all

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about perspective. And you know, wealth is completely different than

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having money. You know, I tell the kids all the

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time that you know, being truly happy, truly successful, living

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life in abundance It literally is not about the money

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you have. It's about the money, and it's about the knowledge,

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and it's about the relationships that you've built, and it's

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about your time managed. And you know you're at home

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and your work life. You know, what do you get

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to do with that? Are you chasing your dreams? I

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hope so, because I don't want you just chasing a dollar,

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because if you're chasing a dollar, you're wasting your life.

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That's what I think.

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I think so too.

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I feel really lucky. We've been blessed with wonderful kids,

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and I hope you know, no parent's perfect. I can

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tell you things that I've been wrong about, but I

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can tell you this. You can't tell your kids something

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and then do the opposite thing. You can't say, well,

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do as I say, not as I do, because kids

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learn a lot more from watching you do things than

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listening to what you say.

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Yep, it's the actions, right.

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So I remember the days when when we first started

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building our family, and it was hers, mine and ours

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type thing, and it was very hard to go anywhere

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long distances because at the time they didn't really have

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a car that was big enough to haul all of

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us legally. Yep.

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We were driving two cars.

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Two cars, and or we drove illegally. Yeah, I mean,

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it's just it is what it is. We were lawbreakers, rebels,

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rebels with a cause, and our causes are kids.

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And our game was don't get pulled over with all

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the kids misplaced in the car.

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Yeah, don't. I mean, don't get me wrong. It wasn't

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like we were, you know, just trying to break the

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law or putting our kids in danger or anything like that.

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That's not what we were doing. But I would say

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you did it more than me.

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I don't know about that. You got pulled over when

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I was in the hospital with Anna, I did, and

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with the kids out of seats, I did. They didn't

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catch you all.

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Well, we hid. I think he saw me. He knew

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what was up, he knew what was going on. I mean,

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we had a full size GMC yukon Excel. Okay, three

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in the bag, two in the middle, two up front,

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and we had let's.

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See, there was two kids out of seats.

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Yeah, two kids, and they were sitting in the middle.

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One was and then the other one was double buckled.

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And I had no other choice. You were in the hospital,

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our littlest baby was in the hospital. So you do

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what you got to do to live, and you try

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to be as safe as you can, and you try

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to save money, and you try to make as much

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money as you can to live the happiest life you can.

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But that's the key is getting out there, getting off

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your ass, going out and living life, having fun with

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your kids, letting them learn by example. And here's the

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other thing. When you make a mistake as a parent,

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do not be afraid to share that mistake with your children.

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Don't try to act like you never made a mistake.

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Don't try to act like, oh, I'm perfect, so I

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expect you to be perfect, because that puts unrealistic expectations

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on them. And I think that pain is the best teacher. Yes,

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especially when it comes to money, when they see you

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make a mistake or they see you over spend. I'm

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trying to think of the worst, the worst mistake I

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ever made. Okay, I'll give you an example. We had

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a guy that worked for us, and it was in

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our pressure washing company, and I couldn't figure out where

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all the money was going. We were living down here

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and we would send him up every other weekend to

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do a two way, two day wash up in Wisconsin.

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And he would leave here and he would go up there,

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and you'd give him what six seven hundred dollars in fuel, yep,

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fuel money, just fuel money, and he'd get up there,

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and now we do what it costs to go up

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there back wash. He should have been coming back with

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three four hundred dollars at that time every turn. But

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he would come back and he'd be like, yeah, I

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had to use fifty bucks of my own money to

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make it back.

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Or he'd get up there and call us and say,

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can you send me more money?

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I'm out right, and you transfer money. And I couldn't

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figure it out because he always had receipts and we're

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because we're always like, we'll get receipts, get receipts, get receipts.

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You couldn't figure it out either, could you.

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No, But we did.

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So I'm sitting there and you know, this is costing

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my family big money, and I'm trying to figure out

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what's going on here. So I called up a couple

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of the gas stations that this worker stopped at, and

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I started talking to the one gallon I'm like, listen,

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I'm trying to figure out where all my gas money's going.

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And she goes, well, I have my manager call you.

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So later on in the day, the manager calls me

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back and she says, well, you're talking about and she

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said his name, and I was like yeah, and she goes, well, honey,

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he always just comes in and he prepays and he

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gets a receipt and then he goes out to the

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van and he'll put fifty in and he'll come back

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in and get one hundred, one hundred and fifty whatever.

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So he was putting fifty dollars in the van, but

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he was pocket He was going in and paying two

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hundred dollars for the fuel, and then he would get

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that receipt. He'd go in pocket the money and then

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give me the receipt for the whole thing. Well, that

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was a mistake. I should have never allowed that to happen.

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I should have figured it out quicker. But that's probably

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the biggest mistake that I've ever had. And that cost

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us literally thousands because it happened for a long time.

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Yes it did. And then Mike, people don't care about

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your stuff, so they don't ruin it.

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Right, And that's that's another thing you should teach your

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children about money. I think that value is added when

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you work hard for something. Like you look at our

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kids cars. They care about them. They're not kicking the

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sides of them and doing stupid things with them. I

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shouldn't say stupid things. Some I got it, some that

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really likes to drive fast, But they take care of them.

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They're washed, they're cleaned, they're you know why, because it

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was their money that they worked hard for to get that, yep.

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And you know what, when they break them, they fix

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them absolutely.

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So you know, I think at the end of the day,

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when you teach your kids about money, you know, you

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start when they're little. You know, have them do little jobs,

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put money in the bank. You know. My brother in

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law did something really cool one time. My nephew he

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wanted this certain rifle. So he's like, well, you want

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that rifle, son, You're going to have to save for it.

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So my nephew saves up for it, I don't know,

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three hundred, three hundred fifty bucks whatever it was the

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whole summer. Mullen Lawns goes out. He's like, Dad, I

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got enough money. I got enough money, take it up

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to get it. So he says, get in the car.

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They drive up there, they go to get this rifle.

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I think it was like a twenty two, you know,

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but for all the big stuff about you know, thirteen twelve,

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thirteen year olds couldn't have rifles. This was at that

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time when kids were normal. And they go up there

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and he puts his money down on the table, points

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to it, and his dad comes up and he grabs

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some money and he handed the money back to him

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and he says, put your money away, I'm buying it.

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But at least you know what it's like to work

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for something.

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Now remember that, yep, I do remember that, and that

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is appreciation.

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It was. It was appreciation of working your ass off

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or something and getting exactly what you wanted. And those

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are the types of lessons that we should be teaching

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our kids, you know, make your kids learn and make

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them value the things that they buy, because if they

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can value and cherish the things that they buy because

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of effort, they're also going to value and cherish their wife,

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or if you have a daughter, they're going to value

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and cherish their husband because they work at things together.

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And the harder they work and the more effort they

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put in, and the more they think and they save

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and they sacrifice, the more value that thing has. Yes,

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and that in a nutshell is about money, like we

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can get in. Maybe we'll do another show one day

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about exactly how we taught them to save or exactly

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like all of our kids are entrepreneurial minded. Yeah, all

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of them. None of them really have money problems. Our

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daughter that's going to college has money problems, but money

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problems in college is imperative to become a thriving adult.

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But she doesn't. She doesn't ask for money. She'll go out,

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like she donates plasma to get that extra money, and.

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She works or door dash, yeah, and she does DoorDash

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and she has a regular job.

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And she goes school full time and she.

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Goes yeah so and she has scholarships. So like she's

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a busy gal and she works really hard and she

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does what she needs. But again she's very independent. And

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that's the thing. When you teach your kids about, you know,

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being financially responsible, being personally responsible, those things just kind

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of fall into place because they think that it's their

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duty to take care of themselves and do those things.

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Yes, and they do what they need to do. To

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make ends meet.

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So remember, hard work and responsibility and treating people well

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always lead to good places. So there's nothing wrong with

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giving your kids jobs, nothing wrong with giving your kids chores.

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Entrepreneurial activities will always teach them financial independence, and if

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you really love your children, you want them to be

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independent people with finances, hopefully that they don't have to

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go through all the struggles that you did. But remember,

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struggles is what makes us who we are.

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So why don't you guys get on over to our

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YouTube channel and subscribe to our YouTube We are the Handsens.

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You can also send us a message on we are

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the Hanson's Facebook or you can email us at we

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are the Hanson's Show at gmail dot com. We'll see

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you next time.

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Amen, and thank you

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