March 28, 2025

We Are The Hansons - Live Life to the Fullest

We Are The Hansons - Live Life to the Fullest

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Welcome to We are the Hansons.

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I'm your host, Jeremy Hanson with my lovely wife Maya.

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How are you.

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I am great?

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Well.

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Today we wanted to talk about, you know, something that's

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kind of dear to our hearts. If you're going to

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do something, go have fun, do it well, like go

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live life like for real. Like that's my biggest wish

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for all of my kids. I want to see them

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all successful and things like that. But you know, at

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the end of the day, what I really want from

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them is to go live life to its fullest. I

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don't mean like, you know, like wake up in the

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morning and go to work and pay your bills. I mean,

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that's that's all that stuff's important. But I mean go

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live life like you don't got tomorrow.

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Yeah, for sure, Gotta just go out and do because

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there's no time like the present to start.

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I think so. And here's the thing.

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I mean, every you know, you get those dog days

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of summer, you know what I'm talking about, But that

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can happen, like getting cabin fever in the winter time

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and stuff. There's always something to do if you actually

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go look for something to do.

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Yeah, for sure, especially in the summertime here, there's always

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we always find things to do, and we don't usually

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have to pay to do it either.

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I mean, you can do stuff that doesn't cost a

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lot of money. Like last year we went out and

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we went morale hunting with the girls.

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Yeah, that was fun.

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We I mean we went down some hills. I mean

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it was fun. We were in poisonous snake land.

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And tick infestation.

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Yeah, it was so fun. We walked. I'll tell you what,

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the kids.

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I don't remember the last time the girls slept that

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good from going and doing something like that.

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I think those hills really did the trick.

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I think so too.

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You know, I think that we have always prioritized our

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quality time over quantity. And sometimes it's just because you

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don't get a lot of time with your family because

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you're trying to pay.

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The bills, right, And all those times that we just

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go out and sporadically find something to do, our kids

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remember that forever.

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Absolutely, And it's I would say for the kids, it's

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much more than that. You know, for the adults, it's

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we're going to do something. It's almost like presence. You know,

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when you're a kid and you're waiting under your waiting

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for Christmas morning because you want the Christmas presents.

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Right.

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What you don't realize when you're a kid is you're

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not going to remember any of those presents. But if

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you do something fun, or you hear somebody laugh, or

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somebody tells a Joe, or those are the things that

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last forever.

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Yeah, it's the real strong memories that you never forget, right.

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And I think it's the day to day things.

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I do not believe in these great, big grand viewer things.

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I think it's every day to get out and go

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do something and have fun, and even the little things

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like my little Nina. She wakes up every morning and

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what does she expect from dad?

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Coffee?

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That's right.

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I have coffee with my seven year old daughter. It

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seems to me that it helps calm her nerves. And

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I think that her medical problem gets helped a little

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bit by some coffee. But she doesn't drink it for

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the coffee. She drinks it for the coffee creamer, which

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makes it taste more like hot chocolate.

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However, she feels like defined like she's an adult or

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something when she sits there and has coffee with me,

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and you know, we talk about I mean, we've had

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conversations from like today having coffee and today was scribble

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day or no, yesterday, excuse me, it was National Scribble Day.

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So she got to scribble and she was looking forward

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to scribbling making a picture and we you know, we

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talked about that while having coffee.

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I think she's got you wrapped her on her fingers.

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No, it's not that.

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It's just you know, or my other daughter. You know,

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just going out and watching her ride bike. That's a

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big deal to her. Yeah, you know, it's the little things,

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but go out and do something.

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It's sad.

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I see so many kids today that And I'm gonna

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get some heat for this because some parents aren't gonna

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like this. But some parents have gotten really lazy with

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their parenting and they have used video games as a babysitter.

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Yeah, our kids, it's formal. Our kids will be outside

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all the time.

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Now.

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Yeah, and it's a constant fight with me. Now, I've

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played video games, and I think video games have a

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time in place. But man, I think I remember way

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way back when with them talking about the stress level

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that come from video games, and now with my daughters

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coming around, boys are not that big into social media.

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I mean, they're on there, but they're not like they

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don't get devastated by any of that stuff. Now the girls,

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on the other hand, that is like drama central. And

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can you believe what this person said or that person said,

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or if somebody was to say, you know what I'm saying,

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I think you got to cut some of that out.

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If you're going to prioritize quality family time. How can

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you have quality family time if you're all sitting around

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going to watch movie and everybody's got their phones on.

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Well, I usually leave mine on the charge or somewhere.

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Or or like, if you're having supper, what's our.

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Rule, no electronics at the table.

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Yeah, it used to be no phones.

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And then they got iPads or whatever those pad things tablets,

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and they were bringing that and you know what, the

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dinner table this is. See, this is my kingdom, and

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I'm the king. So when I put my foot down

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and I say, this isn't going to happen, and the

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most wonderful things come out of that, being able to talk.

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And you know, the great thing is that usually there's

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no bickering with dads sitting at the table, and it's

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kind of nice. And you create moments and you learn

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a little bit and you're fully present, you know what

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I'm saying, And then game nights. We played one the

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other night. The kids will remember forever. I wasn't playing,

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I was just watching called what was it bamboozled?

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Yeah, bean boozled. Yeah. It's where they have these jelly

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bellies and they're you can either get the good flavor

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or a bad flavor. But you spin the thing and

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it says on your turn, you get to pick that

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whatever jelly bean it tells you, and it's all mixed together,

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so you don't know if you're going to get a

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bad one or a good one.

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And you can't even smell them. They don't they don't

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have a smell.

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No, but they definitely have a nasty taste if you

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get the bad ones.

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But it got okay.

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So it was two girls and then three boys, two

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girls and then three boys and three times in a row.

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It started with the boys and the first one got

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what dirty bandage?

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Yeah, and that's the second.

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One got bugs or something like that. Oh that was.

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Gross, and they threw up. And I don't think that

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they're ever, ever, ever going to forget that. But you

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know what, be present. If you're going to go do something,

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go do it to its fullest, you know what I'm saying.

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If you're if you're with your family, go absolutely go

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out there and be there. Okay, Yes, there's that country

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song that says Daddy's gone and Mama's on Mama's home,

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but she's on the phone, and there's some truth to

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that in a lot of families.

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Yeah, definitely not our family. I'd rather be outside running around.

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So we kind of touched on a little bit, you know,

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creating meaningful family traditions. We have a lot of traditions,

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probably none bigger than making lesa.

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Yeah, lefsa or Sunday football. Yeah, making chili.

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Oh yeah, and different types of chili. We have our

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good green pepper chili. We have white chicken chili. Ye,

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we have regular chili. And then if we don't do chili,

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we do something on the smoker like pulled pork or

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ribs or something amazing.

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We do that. And food is kind of like a

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common denominator with everybody.

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Yeah, food, football. You don't just movie nights with the

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kids just whenever. Usually it's Saturday nights.

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But right or I mean, okay, so this is a

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typical day in the Hansen home. Just out of the blue,

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two sisters might have a dance off. Yeah you know

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what I'm saying, and we pay attention. You know what,

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Your phone goes down, TV goes off unless they're using

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that for the music. But yeah, it could be a

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dance off. It might be a play.

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Or Gavin and Morgan they do duets together.

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Yeah, karaoke. I mean.

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The thing is, folks, I think that those types of moments,

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I think that's what strengthens your family.

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It creates those bonds that are never going to let go.

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And from when I was very young, I wanted the

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big family, and I wanted my big family to stay close,

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to be important to each other, and in a moment's notice,

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if one of the siblings needs each other, they would

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drop everything to go help.

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Them, for sure. And our kids are definitely those kids.

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Yeah, I mean, and I think that that's something to

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strive for. I mean, having your independence and being independent.

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But also I got your back type thing.

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Yeah, so we do.

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I shouldn't say we this this almost exclusively comes from me.

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I don't know.

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I will get bored.

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I mean, and when I say bored, I mean like

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I'd rather watch paint dry type thing, and I'll be like,

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jump in the car we're going, and you'll be like where,

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and I'm like, I don't know, and literally, because I

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don't know. I just want to go have an adventure.

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I want to get in my vehicle and leave and

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drive somewhere and check something out.

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He likes to drive around looking for old cars so

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he can stop and try and buy them.

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Old cars, boats, trucks, you know, kind of anything. Sometimes

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you just stop in because you see something interesting.

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Sometimes we're not in the good side of town to

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be doing.

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That, that's true, but the kids absolutely love it. I

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don't know, and I don't know how many times we've

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ended up stopping getting ice cream.

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Yeah, that's my favorite, Andy's ice.

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Or stopping just somewhere new because my wife is one

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of those people that is kind of mundane, like she

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would rather go to the same place every time because

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she knows it's good where. I am the type of

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person like I want to try every different place there

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is out there, everywhere, wouldn't you say that's true?

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Yeah?

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Probably, yeah, So whether it's burgers, pizza, you know, could

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be ice cream.

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I mean we've.

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Stopped just to get fruit before fruit stands. I mean,

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just just going out and doing something, creating some memories,

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you know, having fun. And I want my kids to

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do the same thing. Like if you're bored, the reason

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that you're bored is because you're allowing yourself to be bored. Yeah,

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you know, so I get out and I do stuff

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and I and I really do want our kids to

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like make that a tradition, like let's go. When I

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was a kid, and I think this got instilled from me.

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You know, up there in Badgerland, we would go and

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we just jump in the car and didn't matter if

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it was winter or summer or whatever, and we would

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drive around and stop and look at boats and stop

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and look at snowmobiles and you know, get to know

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people and talk to them. And I mean just we

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did that kind of stuff all the time.

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Yeah, it was more. We used to travel with my

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dad all the time, but nothing like that. We never

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did anything like that. We'd go fishing, but.

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Well, and that's that's one thing.

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If you are going to go traveling, I don't think

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you have to go travel and make it this great,

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big destination like everybody wants to go to disney World,

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and it's like you go to disney World and you

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spend a few thousand dollars and you're there for eight

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hours and then you're like, okay, let's go back to

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the motel and the kids have more fun in the

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swimming pool than they did at Disneyland.

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Oh yeah, I always wanted to do that. Well, I

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mean the experience scare me, not the not the whatever.

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It's just to be able to say you did it.

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It's kind of like skydiving. You jump out of a plane.

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Yeah I've done that.

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Well.

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The big difference is you probably are not going to

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die going to Disneyland.

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Never know.

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But the point is I do that stuff all the time,

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but I don't have to have the big money like

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most families don't, and I'll go do something really fun,

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like going to Louisiana and going out and checking the

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gator guy.

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Yeah it was pretty cool.

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Yeah. Well the girls. How many girls their ages have

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been able to hold alligators? How many of the girls

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have been able to hold alligators with two jaws?

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Yeah? That was weird.

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You know, it's just creating the experience. And what I

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have found is when you do have destinations like that,

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those kids are super happy just to go to the pool.

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That's like they talk about that the whole time. It's

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not actually the destination you go, it's the little thing

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you do on the way to the destination.

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So yeah, yeah, So teaching by doing, not just saying

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so like us being taking them out and doing stuff

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and not just saying yeah, we've done this, this and this.

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You just take them and do it and that is

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fun for them. They love that. Our boys love that.

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Just one phone call, come on, we're going somewhere, jump

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in the car, let's go, and they go.

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Yeah, it could be fishing, could be going down to

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the swimming hole. I mean, there's a million things that

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it could be. Could be the other day we got

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to call, Hey, the storm chasing truck. That like the dominator,

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the dominator, you know it's up here to go look

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at stuff like that, or you know, it could be anything.

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But anything we do is we're doing it fully. And

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I think that's that's the whole point is no matter

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what you do, go and have fun, but don't kind

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of like slack off. Go do it. Don't be afraid.

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Understand this life, this is it. You get one chance,

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this is it. So I would rather make a couple mistakes,

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you know, measured mistakes in my life and go live

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a full life. So when I'm ready to die, I

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can literally say I have zero regrets. I have no

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regrets because everything that I wanted to do I tried.

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Yeah, I would have to say the same thing. I mean,

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we we've done a lot with our kids.

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You have to, and I think that makes your kids

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well rounded. I think the more that the kids are

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around you and in those situations where you know you're

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meeting new people and stuff like that, they get to

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pick up like you were saying, they get to pick

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up how to act by what you're.

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Doing and not what you're saying.

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Yeah, in all situations, we have spontaneous ideas all the time,

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just to get up and go and do.

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I'll give you an example.

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The other day, we were going and I don't remember

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where we were going, but my daughter has this thing

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where she likes to watch YouTube, and I try to

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limit what she watches.

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Anyways, this guy cuts.

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Me off and he's being a prick, and my daughter said, Dad,

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fly him the bird, and I turned around, I'm like what.

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I looked at her and I was like, just because

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you can doesn't mean you should. And she's like, you're right,

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You're right, you know it's stuff like that. It's by doing.

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Now.

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There's obviously a time for righteous anger, and I don't

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want my kids to get walked on and pushed over

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and stuff like that. And I think there's been plenty

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of opportunities where they've learned the other side of that coin, too,

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don't you think.

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I do think so. And I also think, like, you

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don't want to show them something like that, and then

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as they grow up, they start to follow on your

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footsteps in that sense.

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Right, So I think that, Okay, this is probably more

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for the guys, but at some point you really need

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to say yes to experiences and sometimes you got to

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bend the responsibilities or you know, bend what you have

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for your budget. I'm not saying being stupid with money,

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That's not what I'm saying. But if you're the type

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of guy that is, hey, I need one hundred thousand

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dollars in the bank, and we're not doing nothing until

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we got that hundred thousand dollars in there, it's probably

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your family's probably.

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Not going to be very happy, are they?

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For sure?

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Not?

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No, So I mean sometimes say yes to experiences like

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and then be spontaneous. Like some of the funnest times

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we've ever had is when you said no, I don't

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want to go anywhere, and I'm like, well see if

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you're not coming with and then I purposely say that,

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and then you're like, let me get ready and then

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we go and you have a blast.

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Yeah we do. But he never you never like to

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go and do what we like to do.

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Well.

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I don't like shopping. I don't. I don't like shopping.

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And I will walk around bass Pro, but that's not

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really shopping. That's like going to a store where you

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have a wish list and you're like, oh my goodness,

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I want everything in here. I don't want to go

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look for shoes because the shoes I got, unless you

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know what, I'm a need buyer. I think I'm like

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most guys. When my shoes wear out, I'm like, okay,

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now it's time to go get shoes. And I walk

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into the store, I'm like, I like that pairs out

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of my size, and they say yes, and I take them,

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I buy them and I put them on and I

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wear those ones out. Now you girls, you will go

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into a shoe store, and you will look at them

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and you will pet them, and you will smell them.

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Now you will put them on and try them.

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On and look them into thirteen thousand different ways in

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the mirror.

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Now, clothes maybe, but not shoes.

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Shoes, clothes all the same. Candles.

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I mean, I go into a candle store and I

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can get three sniffs of three different candles, and I

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can smell most of them. And after that I'm noseblind. Okay,

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I just can't smell anymore. Now, you guys will sit

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there in the front of the candles.

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The tool stores like that for guys.

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Well, but the tools habitat.

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Now, you guys have probably thirty of the same wrench.

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No, yes, we probably have three because one's lost and

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we need to if one on each side.

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Sure, that's just the way it is.

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Yeah, you know, I would say that, you know, you

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can never quit investing in your own self growth. But

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I'll tell you the truth of it is, and I

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never really hear people talk about this is a lot

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of times the growth you have as parents is what

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you learn from your children.

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Yeah, you have to keep growing.

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Well, and the only way that you're going to learn

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from your kids is by spending as much quality time

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with them as you can.

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Yeah, and the same for kids. Like our kids learned

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from us, they learned from their cousins. They have learned

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from their siblings, right.

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And I think, you know, most of all, I think

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that it's important that you and I alluded to this

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when we when we first started this celebrating the small stuff.

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You know, I've talked to plenty of people that they

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are long in the tooth, if you know what I'm saying,

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And I've talked to them about, you know, the things

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that they were glad they did, the things that they

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wish that they would have done different. And the one

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thing that I can say that you know, all of

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them have told me, all of them, is celebrate the

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little stuff, because you know, life is made up of

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all these little, tiny moments and little victories, and you know,

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who knows what it is. It could be something that

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you do for somebody. It could be your kid. Like

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our youngest son hit the honor roll, okay, and I

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told him, I was like, well on, he took you

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three and a half years to do it, you know,

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but I was so happy for him just because I

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know he's smart, and I know that he can do it,

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but it was something that I celebrated and he celebrated.

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He was definitely proud of himself.

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Oh yeah, yeah.

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Or you know, have you ever as a parent, just

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had a tough week where you just had that crap

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knocked out of you all week, whether it was work, home,

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You're not feeling good. I mean, unexpected bills, you know

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what I'm saying.

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Yeah, for sure, Yeah, I mean you just.

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Get It's like you're tossed around in a dryer, except

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there's a bunch of tax in there.

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I mean, when you.

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Get through that, you got to celebrate the little victories. Okay,

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that's what makes your life happy. I'll give you an example.

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One of my proudest moments was I came in I

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just had a terrible, terrible day and night at work,

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and I walked into my house and Maya had I

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don't know, it was like ten twelve kids sitting at

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my table and all of them were there. I didn't

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know there were neighbor kids and they were all there

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and they were having birthday cake when I came home,

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and I don't know, there was just something there that

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made me feel good that my wife is taking care

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of the community. And I walk in and I saw

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that food and I was like, it feels pretty good

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to know that my blood and my sweat paid for that.

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And it was making the kids happy. Like, go ahead,

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and I'm telling the story.

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About nothing better than putting a smile on a child's face.

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Right. We lived next to a shelter.

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It was a druggy shelter like people that were you

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know it was it was just a really bad mix

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of different people. They were trying to get their stuff

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together and some of them could and some of them couldn't,

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if you know what I'm saying. And there was one

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person there that it was their kid's birthday and they

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got money for a cake, and the mom went and

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bought something that wasn't supposed to be bought with that money. Anyways,

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a kid didn't get the cake, right, And that's the

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moral of the story. And there was all these I mean,

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most of the kids, what would you say under ten Yeah,

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and you know, a couple of them, two twins, actually

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had a crush on my son. It was just it

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turned out to be a wonderful, great thing. But they

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were just sitting there eating cake, yeah, and having a

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great time.

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I mean, just to see a kid smile is the

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best feeling in the world. And if you can make somebody's.

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Day, do it, absolutely if you can, because you have

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to prioritize the little stuff, celebrate the small stuff. Invest

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in your family. Remember you got to say yes to experiences,

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not just responsibilities.

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Teach by doing, not by saying.

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Balance your life and make sure that you provide your

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kids with some adventure while providing them some stability. Okay,

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create meaningful transitions, and always prioritize time with your kids

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and with your I'm going to say wife, but it

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could be husband too.

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Yeah. Well, we are going to end that here tonight.

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