Dec. 5, 2024

We are the Hanson's Life in a Big Family!!!!

We are the Hanson's Life in a Big Family!!!!
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We are the Hanson's are a lively, close-knit family who know how to navigate the chaos and joy of big family life. With love, laughter, and a few sibling squabbles, they tackle life's challenges together, proving that there's strength in numbers. From shared meals to family adventures, their story is about togetherness, resilience and the unique dynamics that come with a full house.

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Welcome to We are the Hansens, the podcast where love, laughter,

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and a whole lot of life all come together.

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We're your hosts, Jeremy and Maya.

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Celebrating twenty two years of marriage, thirteen amazing kids, a

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growing family with grandkids, and the adventure of living the

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American dream, from parenting and relationships to the ups and

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downs of self employment. We're here to share our journey,

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our lessons, and plenty of laughs along the way. So

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grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and let's dive

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into this beautiful chaos that is our lives. This is

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we are the Hansens, where family is everything. So here

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we are. How are you doing, Maya?

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I'm doing great.

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I'll tell you. She was shivering like a junebug and

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a deep river yesterday where we were powerwashing. But it

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was sixty degrees yesterday, right, it was cold. It wasn't cold.

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It was beautiful December sixty degrees. You don't get any

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better than that in this particular job. We got told

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to come there four months ago. So the day before

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that it was like twenty eight degrees. Today was thirty degrees,

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and we just happened to be able to be there

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on the day that it was sixty degrees. So the

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big guy must be looking out for.

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Us, you think, yeah, probably.

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Well, so we got an email. We didn't get a

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bunch of emails. We got a email from Linda, Linda

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from Arizona. What is your life like on a daily

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basis in a big family, Well, it depends on the day,

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wouldn't you say?

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I would say, I mean, we go through chaos, we love. Yeah,

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it's always an adventure.

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Anger, happiness, shambles. Especially with the little girls.

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There's always a crowd.

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Always friends, you know. I think that's just a teenager thing.

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Uh yeah, I think so when you were a kid.

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I mean, tell the people about when you were a kid,

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how many brothers and sisters you had.

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So I am a sibling of six. There was one

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one boy and the rest for girls. Five of us girls.

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And I think us girls fought an awful lot.

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Yeah. I would say that anybody that has the misconception

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that girls are easier, they fight less, they eat less,

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I would say, if you have that perception, you're very

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very wrong.

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I think men or boys eat more than the females.

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I don't know about that. My little Nina, she can

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put down. Well, put it this way, folks. I went

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to the store the other night. Well, Broms Bram's ice cream. Well,

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they've got these burgers in a bag. Okay, so you

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get five cheeseburgers, you know, bigger than McDonald's burgers, wouldn't.

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You say, I would say, you know, they got to.

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Be at least Oh are they third poundbergers?

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Yeah? Probably, I would say very big.

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And my little girl ate three of those. I mean,

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Paul's them all off.

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No, she's growing.

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Our teenage boy, our seventeen year old senior, teenage boy,

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he was full after two. Okay, So I mean that

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does say something when your little girl can just and

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I mean she can eat with the best of them,

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she can chomp them down. Like if you have something

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that you want, and this is part of living in

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a big family, don't think that if you buy something,

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even if you're a teenager and you put it in

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the refrigerator, that it's going to be there tomorrow.

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Right, it will not be there.

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Oh yeah, it's gonna be gone. It doesn't matter what

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the apples, fairs, candy bars, I mean, you name it,

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what is. We try to eat pretty healthy, but we're

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also realists. The kids are gonna have some candy. I mean,

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I get a little I get away with my coffee

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for now. But a couple of the boys drink coffee,

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so they drink it when they come here. So there's

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nothing really that in a big family that's just yours.

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What would you say?

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We pretty much share everything we do.

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I mean, you have a really bad habit with mountain dew.

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I do.

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That's that's probably your biggest habit mountain dew.

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Yours is coffee.

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And you know, I wouldn't say coffee is necessarily a

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habit because you know, you take mountain dew and it's

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a bunch of sugar. It's a bunch of bad stuff

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for you.

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You know that caffeine just like mountain dew.

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It'll look well yeah, but caffeine in coffee, the way

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that it's put together, it's natural. Okay, So coffee is

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kind of a life blood for fathers. Wouldn't you say?

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Okay, Well, the coffee's mine. I mean that that's the

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one thing in this house I can say that's dand's

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that's mine.

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You know, you get creamer with it, and Tristan's got

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at all.

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Yeah, But don't. I don't use creamer. I do you

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do exactly? So it's extra, always extra.

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That's all right.

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So to answer your question, Linda, it's a big, big thing,

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like daily routines and schedules. It's very very hard with

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a small group to have daily routines and schedules. Now

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we do get up seven o'clock in the morning. Mine,

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I are up. Then we got to go get the

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girls up. This year, the first year, explain to them

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the school that we're doing.

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So we are doing an online school this year. It's

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our first year, so.

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It's kind of first you're with online.

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Yeah, first year with online. It's a little different, especially

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for the kids not being in a classroom full of

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other children, which they miss, they do miss, they do miss.

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We had to move this last summer. We were renting

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somewhere for years and we had a friend of ours

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it turned out not to be a friend of ours

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that said that they were actually going to give us

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a mortgage, and anyway, she ended up being full blowing.

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So we had to find a place. So we rented

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a place and the schools where we rented are would

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you say tough? Is that a good word? Tough?

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I think I would say rough.

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Rough, tough. Okay, they probably are, So we decided at

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this point to put our kids in this school. Now,

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now we get up at seven, We get the girls up,

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get them fed, get their hair brush, take care of

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all the stuff, you know, where's this? Where's at? And

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then what time did they usually got to be on?

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They start at nine am?

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Yeah, nine o'clock, So it's kind of a late day

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compared to what we used to do, where we used

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to get up at six. We were out the door

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taking the kids to school by what seveneven seven twenty

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to seven thirty, depending on who all we had to

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drop off, And that's the beginning of our day. Now

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it can be hectic, especially if you have something like

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two kids fighting over milk because we forgot to get milk,

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or you thought you had another gallon so you didn't

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grab it at the store. What else?

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Or who ate the last of a certain kind of cereal.

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That's a big one. And you know, every once in

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a while, I think we're like most American families, eggs, bacon, toast,

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but it's not every day just because one that would

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be insane. I would say it costs us with the

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three girls and the two boys as a last time

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that I did our budget on it and we were

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spending about three two hundred dollars a month on food.

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Is that about right?

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That's all right?

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Yeah, it's insane the amount of money that it takes

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to raise kids.

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This is a milk oh.

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It's not milk burger, any sort.

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Of beef, a lot of milk.

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Any sort of eggs, any of your soda, any of

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that stuff. All of it is just like I honestly

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can say that every grocery product there is has doubled.

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Yep.

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And when you have a big family and you have

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a lot of kids, those things doubling impact you in

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a much bigger way because you have so many more

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mouths to feed. So that's one thing getting up you

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need at least I would say an hour to get

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all the kids ready before they start their day. Wouldn't

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you say? Definitely get ready, get fed, get them in

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the mood. You know, sometimes like all the they're just kids.

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They're gonna I'm sleepy today, or they're gonna, you know,

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argue and you know it's just siblings being siblings. Then

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it says, ah, she wants to know about managing meals

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for well, it would be thirteen, but it'll be fifteen

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people for me, you and the kids. Now, keep in mind,

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our oldest son is thirty. Our youngest daughter just not

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too long ago turn seven. So I mean, it's not

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like we have all of them here except for Christmas, Thanksgiving, holidays, holidays, birthdays.

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That's something different about our family. We celebrate a lot

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of birthdays. The only month that we have off is May.

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Yep. And it's almost like when we make meals, it's

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like going to a banquet pretty much.

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You got to have a bunch to stuff. Like. We

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have this tradition, so on your birthday you get your

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birthday meal.

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Yep. Each kid gets to decide what they want for

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their birthday dinner.

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And this can range from what.

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I would say, a five course meal down to something

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as simple as sloppy Joe.

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Yeah, our son Tristan, he really likes sloppy Joe. But

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then you take our son Adam and he wants beef stroganoff.

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Usually my son Logan, he wanted stuff Burgers on the Girl.

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So it varies each year.

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Morgan always wants Masta TOOLI. It's funny because all of

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our kids kind of all have their.

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Favorites, shrimper, chicken off right, always one yep.

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I mean so every time there's different, so you get

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a lot of variety, spaghetti, lasagna, those types. I mean,

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you name it. We do it. But every every single

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month but May we have a birthday, and then in

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June we have two of them. In July we have

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two of them. So it gets to be really really busy.

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And you know what, we spend a lot of money

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on food. But I would say that you know the

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banquet style she's talking about, well, I'll let her explain

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it to you about what we do when we.

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So it's pretty much, you know, everybody gets to decide

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their own meal. We whether it be play games or

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just conversation during dinner, and then it comes to the cake,

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and usually we sing our happy birthdays and then there's a.

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Cake war unless it's me and I don't like cake.

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I'm not a cake eater either.

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I like pies, I like lemon bars. I like buttery

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ouey gueye cake that's good. Buttercake is good. I like

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sour cream and raisin pie.

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I like strawberry shortcake.

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But tell the people, on a normal day supper, our.

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Normal suppers are pretty much. We always have a vegetable.

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We always have potatoes, rice or noodles of some sort.

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And we always have meat most.

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Of the time, and I believe that meats the most important.

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Sometimes we do fresh bread, sometimes we do fry bread.

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Just depends on.

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Yeah, fry bread is another tradition that we got from

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our grandma. We make fry bread. And this is like

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a family affair. Like when we say we make fry

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bread to most people are like, oh, big deal. Well, yeah,

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I mean all the kids get involved in making fry bread.

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All the kids will get involved in in one small

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part or another. Lesa if you don't know what less is,

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it's a Norwegian potato bread that looks like a tortilla

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and it is amazing.

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Yes, it is amazing. I'm glad that I was taught

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how to make it.

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Yeah. So, I mean there's those things. And then we

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have the grill, we have the smoker, we have the blackstone. Okay,

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so we do a bunch of cooking on that. We

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do a lot of cooking outdoors, wouldn't you say.

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I'd say mostly in the summer, but yes, mostly all

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summer is outdoor cooking.

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Right, and we actually do a lot, like we will

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throw the grill in the back of the truck and

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we will go somewhere and grill.

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Out Yep, creek.

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Yeah, family get togethers. It's kind of funny with all

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those people. You would think that you would get sick

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of them, but you don't. It's just like one big

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event all the time.

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My favorite is when we take the grill and we

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go down to the fish and hoole and we all

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fish and cook out and just enjoy the day.

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I like that. I also like there's a place we

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go called Vera Cruz where it's fun too. All the

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little kids can go down there and swim, and there's

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a rock to jump off there, and they actually have

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the grills right there yep.

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And they have like a little campfire thing, like a

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little metal round thing set up where you can growst

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marshmallows and everything too.

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Right, So, I mean that type of thing is fun.

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And when you live in a big family, it's hard

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when you go out. Like let's say I wanted to

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take my kids to the movies. Well, you do the math.

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If you take our kids and me and her, it's

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very easily two hundred and seventy to three hundred dollars

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by the time it's said and done.

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Yeah, it's expensive for one movie.

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I mean, it's just it's crazy. So you end up

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getting creative in the things that you do. We used

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to go to a lot of high school football games. Like,

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we've tried really hard to fit in our lifestyle, going

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to support our children.

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Yes, and now it's come down to we enjoy sitting

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at home on Saturday and doing family movie nights where

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we all sit and watch movies and eat popcorn and

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we get candy.

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Yeah, just make a night of it, like, actually really fun. Now.

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We've learned a lot of things along the way because

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that's what we do now. And a lot of people

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probably say, what is the hardest thing with that many kids? Well,

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with having that many kids, I would say for me

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from the guys perspective here, I would say, the hardest

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thing for me was getting a vehicle that could fit

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all of our kids legally. For years, we had to

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drive two vehicles.

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Yep, that's what I was going to say too.

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Yeah, for years, it's we drove two vehicles. And I

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always wanted a Chevy suburban.

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We should have just bought a bus.

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Well, I wanted to get a van, but you, my wife, folks,

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is the reason we never got a van because soccer

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moms and old ladies drove vans. Is according to her,

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that's what she said.

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Right, That still would not have been enough room. Oh sure,

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what have no?

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Sure it would have maybe not a minivan. I'm talking

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about a van. I'm talking about a Dodge Chevy fifteen

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hundred and four or five seats three people as a seat.

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It would have been fine. But just admit. It's okay

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for you to admit that you thought they were ugly

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and you didn't want to drive it.

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They are ugly.

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And I'll tell you everything gets magnified when it comes

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to financials when you have a lot of kids, and

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you know what, that doesn't stop as they get older.

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Are I would say, our children are pretty independent, now,

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wouldn't you?

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I would say, so, okay, So we've got.

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One boy that's a senior, and then three girls that

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still left the live at the house. Our other son, Tristan,

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he just moved out not too long ago. The other

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ones are all living on their own. But you know,

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the worry never stops. And I shouldn't say, you know,

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they've been really good about it. My daughter Morgan, every

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once in a while we'll make a joke about, hey,

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you got a twenty dad, just because you always used

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to have her digging my wallet, remember that.

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No, she was always wanting money.

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Well, that's just because you know, teenage girl, very popular

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with friends, wanting to go do stuff, having fun. And

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that's a little bit difficult too, when you have this

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many kids in a home, being able to let them

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go to friends, being able to pick them up, getting

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all the other kids ready to go, that's hard, especially

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when you don't have an older sibling to watch them.

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Wow, you didn't do it me of the major stuff,

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it was always maya get their boots and coats on.

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Yeah, because I had to go warm up the car.

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Uh huh.

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That's just the way that it was.

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So.

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I mean, in a big family, there is organization, if

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you can call it that, Like where does this kid's

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stuff go? Where does this stuff kids go? And at

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the end of the day, it's usually you cleaning it

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up and re sorting it, right.

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Yeah, but there's never it's always chaotic.

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Oh well, it's going to be chaotic with that many kids. Now,

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that's one of my biggest frustrations.

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Uh my, my biggest is the little ones losing their shoes.

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They find shoes, their socks.

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They're mittens. I mean, my kids are little Houdini's when

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it comes to making stuff vanish. They can walk out

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my door and one minute later their cod to be gone.

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Always at my friend's house or oh it's here.

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Right, that's the truth. I mean, the shoes are always

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a big problem. And losing their phone. Madison, her phone

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is always missing somewhere. She can never remember where she

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put it.

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That's probably true. I mean, daily routines, our daily routine.

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It even comes down to discipline. Like this sounds weird,

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but we've developed a system, and I like to call

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it the rubber band system. The kids go to Maya

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and it's a staunch no. They come to me and

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I'll say, well, go ask your mom and I give

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a little bit. However, on the back side of that,

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if they start back talking to their mom or it

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gets like what would you say something extreme that, I'm

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still the bad guy. I'm you know, the bad guy

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in the I'm the dad, I'm the disciplinarian. When it

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gets to that point, but before that, they almost come

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to me before you wouldn't you.

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Say they do? Because I always tell them.

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No, yeah, yeah, I mean it's just part of the

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daily routine. That's how you get through this, that's that's

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how you get along. And in all of this that

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we've talked about, we still haven't talked about making money.

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Because in order to have this many kids your daily routine,

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you have to buckle down, you have to go work,

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you have to make money. And we're kind of all

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over the board. It's not like we've got a nine

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to five to go to Because you tell me, do

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you think that you could have this many kids and

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live this lifestyle working a nine to five?

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Absolutely not.

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Yeah. One, I don't think you'd have the time. Two,

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I don't think you could make enough money.

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There would definitely not be enough money.

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I mean you you just can't do it. And people

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will say, well, that is kind of crazy. You know,

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maybe somebody's got, you know, multiple degrees and they could

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do it, But I would say the average person, you

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have to be self employed and you have to make

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pretty good money to be able to live a happy

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life with a large family.

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Not only that, you would never see your family if

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you worked to nine to five all the time.

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Well, I would say that we probably work more than

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a regular nine to five, but we get to take

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our kids with us a lot. We see them a

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lot of times that other people wouldn't. We see them,

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you know, in between, and we can take off when

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we want to if there's going to be a family

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day or something.

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Yeah, yep. That's the good thing about it is being

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able to if the kids have something going on, we

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can rearrange our schedule to be there.

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Right Like I'll give you an example. In the mornings,

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I'm usually up before you and the first one that

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is up out of our kids is Nina. Okay, so

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Nina gets up and me and her have a system.

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She gets up and right now we have the elves,

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the magic elves, and to explain to the people what

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the elves do.

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So the elves come around December first. Ours usually come

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about right around Thanksgiving, and they get into stuff that

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they're not supposed to do. They make messes, a.

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Lot of messes. Sometimes they're hanging from a fan, sometimes

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they'll hide a shoe, Sometimes they're in the Christmas tree.

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Sometimes they'll get into the sugar, the flour or something

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like that, and how many elves are there.

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We got seven.

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Seven elves and they're all magic. Now, if the kids

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touch them, you have to sprinkle them.

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With what with sugar and cinnamon?

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Okay, you have to sprinkle them with sugar and cinnamon

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for them to get their magic back. So the kids

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are very careful about not touching them, especially like if

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we don't have sugar cinnamon, that would be a catastrophe

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in our home.

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Yeah. Yeah, and the kids, they all all three of

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the younger ones look forward to that in the morning

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from Thanksgiving until after New.

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Year's Yeah, big time. That's Nina's favorite. And then we

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go out and I get her medicine. Usually in the mornings,

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it's me getting your medicine. At nighttime, it's you getting

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your medicine. Medicine when it starts, and that's just kind

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of like normal life. And then shortly after that she

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usually sits down, gets something to eat, and my torn

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most of the time comes walking out of the room.

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Yeah, and then Madison, she kind of drags her heels

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a little bit getting up in the morning. She doesn't

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she's not a morning person.

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Kind of is not the word. Like she is in

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her desk in front of her computer. I would say

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two minutes.

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Yeah, wrapped in a blanket most of the time. She

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just she doesn't like mornings.

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And I don't know anybody that loves mornings, especially if

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you're on your phone looking at TikTok and things like

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data all night long. It doesn't work. So if you

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catch my drift, folks, But in a big family, I

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would say, there's a lot of things that a lot

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of people don't think about.

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Yep. There is, like how you're gonna plan for dinner

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for the week. That's our biggest thing is trying to

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figure out what to make all week long or for

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the next two weeks.

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I don't even think that's a big deal. I think

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that you're just so indecisive that unless I pick it,

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you won't pick it. But even if I here's the

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way that it goes for you're picky. No, I'm not picky.

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This is the way that it goes. She will say,

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you need to pick supper. So I give her multiple

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options that I think sound good, and I'll give her

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three or four, you know, steak and potato or macaroni cheese,

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you know, with peas and hammerger in it, or something else.

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I'll give her three or four options and then she'll say,

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we just had that. None of them sound good. Well,

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then why do you ask me?

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No, what he does is he lists off things that

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I have to run to the store because I don't

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have five of the things that the ingredients that go

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into what he chooses, and I don't like going to

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the store.

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So that's why that's why you see. I just I

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eat whatever's put in front of me.

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No, you do not.

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Name the last thing I didn't eat.

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You are not a pork person, Okay.

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I love bacon, folks.

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And definitely not chicken pork tenderline.

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You know, it's very, very, very hard. I don't think

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you can cook a pork tendlren to taste good unless

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you smoke it. There's no good way to cook it's

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it's unless you like eating like cardboard pork with no

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juice in it.

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I don't know what pork you're eating.

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I'm eating that stuff that you cook.

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No, yes, I do not cook it.

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I'm telling you well, I know you don't on purpose.

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I do not cook it to taste like cardboard skin.

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The skin tastes great, it's the inside that tastes like cardboard,

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and then chicken. I've just never been a big fan

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of chicken. I had a lot of chicken when I

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was a kid. When I was very young, we didn't

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have a lot of money, so we ate a lot

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of chicken. We ate a lot of tuna. That's why

483
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I don't like tuna noodle helper. And it's funny because

484
00:26:49.119 --> 00:26:51.359
my kids don't really care for it either, or at

485
00:26:51.480 --> 00:26:53.079
least half of them.

486
00:26:53.119 --> 00:26:56.680
I think that's Morgan's favorite, one of them.

487
00:26:56.680 --> 00:26:58.680
Her favorite mosta choli that.

488
00:26:58.799 --> 00:27:01.160
Is her favorite. But I mean she really likes tunic

489
00:27:01.240 --> 00:27:01.680
cast role.

490
00:27:02.119 --> 00:27:04.480
Yeah, I don't know. Folks, if you're listening to this

491
00:27:05.279 --> 00:27:09.519
and you don't like tunic cast role, give this a like.

492
00:27:10.279 --> 00:27:13.759
If you do like teena tunic cast role, send us

493
00:27:13.759 --> 00:27:16.279
an email and tell me. Maybe it's just something that

494
00:27:16.319 --> 00:27:18.799
we're cooking wrong about it that I don't like, So

495
00:27:18.839 --> 00:27:23.400
send me a recipe. We are the Hanson's Show at

496
00:27:23.440 --> 00:27:26.680
gmail dot com. We are The Hanson Show at gmail

497
00:27:26.720 --> 00:27:30.079
dot com. Send us an email. We'll try to talk

498
00:27:30.119 --> 00:27:32.599
about what you want to talk about or what you

499
00:27:32.680 --> 00:27:35.960
want to know, but sometimes we're all over the board

500
00:27:35.960 --> 00:27:38.440
because there's a lot of things that you don't think

501
00:27:38.440 --> 00:27:46.920
about now, when my sons both wrestled, my daughter played basketball, okay,

502
00:27:47.440 --> 00:27:49.640
and Maya and I would try to switch off, and

503
00:27:49.680 --> 00:27:53.119
thank goodness we had two vehicles because guess what. Basketball

504
00:27:53.160 --> 00:27:56.559
tournaments and wrestling tournaments are never at the same school.

505
00:27:57.880 --> 00:28:01.599
Nope, they're not. They're usually at two different schools, and

506
00:28:03.400 --> 00:28:07.200
we alternate. So one week I would go with the

507
00:28:07.240 --> 00:28:10.200
girls to the basketball tournament and he would go with

508
00:28:10.279 --> 00:28:12.680
the boys, and then we'd switch. I would go with

509
00:28:12.759 --> 00:28:14.440
the boys and he would go with the girls.

510
00:28:14.839 --> 00:28:17.599
Right. And I'll tell you, when kids get into sports,

511
00:28:17.599 --> 00:28:19.160
I don't care if you got one kid or you've

512
00:28:19.160 --> 00:28:22.759
got a lot of kids. That stuff is expensive. There's

513
00:28:22.799 --> 00:28:27.480
always entry fees. They got to have these kind of shoes,

514
00:28:27.599 --> 00:28:31.920
or they got to gear, headgear, I mean, you name it.

515
00:28:32.480 --> 00:28:38.960
We've been through that. Gymnastics, football, wrestling, basketball, volleyball, for

516
00:28:39.000 --> 00:28:40.880
a short time, leading, cheerleading.

517
00:28:40.960 --> 00:28:43.880
I think cheerleading was the most expensive sport we've had.

518
00:28:44.079 --> 00:28:48.279
Cheerleading or what is the one where they do all

519
00:28:48.319 --> 00:28:52.759
the stunt stunting, shunting, That was pretty expensive. So you've

520
00:28:52.799 --> 00:28:55.079
got to factor in all of this stuff. And on

521
00:28:55.200 --> 00:28:57.599
top of all of that, I think one of the

522
00:28:57.640 --> 00:29:02.400
most important parts of being at least a father is

523
00:29:02.440 --> 00:29:05.839
you have to have a personal relationship. Like it's it's

524
00:29:05.880 --> 00:29:11.319
pretty easy to guide people, but when it's your children

525
00:29:11.440 --> 00:29:15.759
is something special. You need to have a personal relationship

526
00:29:15.799 --> 00:29:18.240
with every kid. That means you've got to spend time

527
00:29:18.279 --> 00:29:21.839
with every kid. And I would say the biggest challenge

528
00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:26.359
in a big family is to create those long lasting

529
00:29:26.400 --> 00:29:30.799
relationships where our children actually feel fulfilled, Like we spend

530
00:29:30.880 --> 00:29:33.880
one on one time with them, so they know that

531
00:29:33.920 --> 00:29:35.880
we love them, they know that we got their back.

532
00:29:36.359 --> 00:29:38.440
I like to talk to them about their future, what

533
00:29:38.480 --> 00:29:41.000
their plans are, you know, and just have those dad

534
00:29:41.039 --> 00:29:43.839
talks like well, this I think is a bad idea.

535
00:29:43.920 --> 00:29:45.880
This I think is a good idea, And I know

536
00:29:45.920 --> 00:29:50.720
you do too. But just finding the time sometimes is

537
00:29:50.759 --> 00:29:51.839
a feat all on its own.

538
00:29:52.759 --> 00:29:56.400
A lot of times he would take the kids, the

539
00:29:56.480 --> 00:29:59.559
girls on daddy daughter dates and I would do something

540
00:29:59.599 --> 00:30:05.000
with the book. And then around the holidays, my older

541
00:30:05.039 --> 00:30:09.599
boys were the elf helpers that would help me rap

542
00:30:09.680 --> 00:30:12.480
presence while everybody else slept.

543
00:30:12.839 --> 00:30:14.960
See, you know that's one thing. I'm glad you brought

544
00:30:14.960 --> 00:30:18.000
that up, because you know I've thought about this. I've

545
00:30:18.039 --> 00:30:22.079
been to a lot of daddy daughter dances, I mean,

546
00:30:22.319 --> 00:30:24.200
and I've cherished them all, but I've been to a

547
00:30:24.240 --> 00:30:27.559
lot of them, and when you go into them, it's

548
00:30:27.640 --> 00:30:29.920
almost like it's a high school dance. You know. You

549
00:30:29.960 --> 00:30:32.240
come in, there's a bunch of girls in the middle

550
00:30:32.240 --> 00:30:34.599
of the floor, and then all the guys are on

551
00:30:34.640 --> 00:30:36.480
the side, and there's two or three guys that are

552
00:30:36.519 --> 00:30:39.400
out there dancing with the girls. But usually they're all

553
00:30:39.440 --> 00:30:40.839
standing on the side, do you know what I mean?

554
00:30:40.960 --> 00:30:41.200
Yep.

555
00:30:41.680 --> 00:30:44.480
So you go into these dances and I would say

556
00:30:44.480 --> 00:30:47.400
over fifty percent of the dads are sitting on the side,

557
00:30:47.440 --> 00:30:50.000
sitting at the table, drinking kool egg coffee whatever they

558
00:30:50.039 --> 00:30:56.440
got there. But me, I have never, ever, ever been

559
00:30:56.480 --> 00:31:01.400
ashamed of myself or my kid ever. So if my

560
00:31:01.599 --> 00:31:04.519
daughters want to go out there and you know, have

561
00:31:04.599 --> 00:31:07.759
fun and dance and stuff, I do it. And I

562
00:31:07.839 --> 00:31:10.920
do it to the point where their parents might think

563
00:31:10.920 --> 00:31:15.640
that I'm weird because I'm not embarrassed about going out

564
00:31:15.680 --> 00:31:18.960
and dancing with the girls or acted funny or doing

565
00:31:19.000 --> 00:31:22.799
things like that. But I think that that allows for

566
00:31:23.279 --> 00:31:26.000
one on one connections. Like when Morgan was growing up,

567
00:31:28.160 --> 00:31:32.039
there's things that I really don't want to know. You know,

568
00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:34.000
I don't want to know if a guy grabbed your

569
00:31:34.039 --> 00:31:36.440
hand and was holding your hand at school. It's my

570
00:31:36.559 --> 00:31:38.880
duty to know that kind of things as a father,

571
00:31:39.319 --> 00:31:41.799
but I don't really want to know. But I think

572
00:31:41.839 --> 00:31:46.039
towards the end of Morgan's high school, I think that

573
00:31:46.079 --> 00:31:50.880
she really leaned on me and came to me with

574
00:31:52.319 --> 00:31:57.559
questions like boy problems. And you know, I don't know

575
00:31:58.160 --> 00:32:00.640
how much the boys came to you for girls problems,

576
00:32:01.400 --> 00:32:04.640
but they're my sons, so they have problems, but girls

577
00:32:04.640 --> 00:32:05.359
ain't one of them.

578
00:32:05.480 --> 00:32:08.400
Well, I don't know. I dealt with Gavin's girl problem

579
00:32:09.559 --> 00:32:10.640
between him and Riley.

580
00:32:11.200 --> 00:32:13.640
Yeah, I mean, yeah there was out one came.

581
00:32:13.599 --> 00:32:15.440
To me though he didn't she did.

582
00:32:16.319 --> 00:32:19.720
Yeah, that's a little that's different. I'm glad she did.

583
00:32:21.720 --> 00:32:25.559
We really do like like Riley. But it's it's that

584
00:32:25.759 --> 00:32:29.799
I would say living in a big family, at least

585
00:32:29.839 --> 00:32:35.160
as a parent, is finding the time to be a

586
00:32:35.200 --> 00:32:40.599
responsible adult, raise loving, good, healthy kids, which our kids are.

587
00:32:40.799 --> 00:32:47.039
They are making enough money to do it properly. That's

588
00:32:47.119 --> 00:32:53.720
number two. Number three is having a personal relationship with

589
00:32:53.839 --> 00:32:56.599
all of them where they feel special, like we really

590
00:32:56.680 --> 00:33:00.079
do know them and we have this connection as you know,

591
00:33:00.960 --> 00:33:05.000
father son, father daughter, that we actually have that connection,

592
00:33:05.039 --> 00:33:10.720
and mother son, mother daughter. And then after that we

593
00:33:10.839 --> 00:33:12.799
have to find time for ourselves.

594
00:33:12.400 --> 00:33:16.200
And that don't happen very often, No, it really don't.

595
00:33:16.279 --> 00:33:18.160
I mean, even if we get to talk to each.

596
00:33:18.079 --> 00:33:22.920
Other, it's usually when all the kids are asleep.

597
00:33:23.319 --> 00:33:25.480
Usually, and by that time I don't remember half the

598
00:33:25.480 --> 00:33:29.119
stuff you say because I'm tired and i'm out, and

599
00:33:29.559 --> 00:33:31.440
I know there's been days that you're that way too,

600
00:33:31.960 --> 00:33:36.279
So it's not easy peasy, and you do end up

601
00:33:36.279 --> 00:33:37.680
doing a lot of sacrifice.

602
00:33:38.000 --> 00:33:39.680
But I definitely wouldn't give it up.

603
00:33:40.000 --> 00:33:45.119
No, absolutely not. There's nothing better than what we have

604
00:33:45.720 --> 00:33:47.680
as far as I'm concerned. But you got to remember,

605
00:33:47.680 --> 00:33:50.680
I'm the guy in high school when they said what

606
00:33:50.920 --> 00:33:53.200
do you want to do when you get older? Now,

607
00:33:53.200 --> 00:33:56.759
our one son said he wanted to be a professional millionaire.

608
00:33:59.119 --> 00:34:01.640
That was not my answer. In high school. My answer

609
00:34:01.720 --> 00:34:05.720
was very simple. I wanted a large family and I

610
00:34:05.759 --> 00:34:08.920
wanted to run my own business. And here, here I am.

611
00:34:09.880 --> 00:34:12.039
I hit the nail on the head. What did you say?

612
00:34:13.360 --> 00:34:15.960
I don't think I was ever asked that question, but

613
00:34:17.000 --> 00:34:22.599
I would definitely I probably would have said a lot

614
00:34:22.599 --> 00:34:25.519
of kids, because I just kids are a blessing.

615
00:34:26.000 --> 00:34:27.960
They are Oh you know what I thought about something

616
00:34:27.960 --> 00:34:30.599
else life in a big family, something that you wouldn't

617
00:34:30.639 --> 00:34:34.039
expect because we just went through this. So last week,

618
00:34:34.719 --> 00:34:40.039
four of our kids had dentist appointments on two different days.

619
00:34:41.599 --> 00:34:45.719
So with a big family, you try to set these

620
00:34:45.760 --> 00:34:50.639
things up in a routine way where, hey, if I'm

621
00:34:50.679 --> 00:34:52.559
going up to the dentist, I might as well try

622
00:34:52.599 --> 00:34:54.920
to get all the other ones in there. Or if

623
00:34:54.960 --> 00:34:58.920
they're all having their physicals, let's try to get all

624
00:34:58.920 --> 00:35:01.119
of them in there so we're not running back and forth.

625
00:35:01.159 --> 00:35:03.239
I mean, there's a lot of that kind of stuff

626
00:35:03.280 --> 00:35:03.760
that goes on.

627
00:35:03.880 --> 00:35:06.559
We had, Yeah, we had four kids at the dentist

628
00:35:06.599 --> 00:35:11.280
at the same time. That's that's a lot just dental

629
00:35:11.320 --> 00:35:13.400
cleaning and checkups, two.

630
00:35:13.320 --> 00:35:16.039
Little girls, a teenage girl, and a teenage boy all

631
00:35:16.079 --> 00:35:16.599
at once.

632
00:35:17.360 --> 00:35:19.320
Yep. It was crazy.

633
00:35:19.360 --> 00:35:22.480
But or or here's another one. When we went to

634
00:35:22.519 --> 00:35:26.639
public school, which we've done until this year, when you

635
00:35:26.719 --> 00:35:30.920
have parent teacher conferences, you actually have to schedule around

636
00:35:31.000 --> 00:35:31.679
the other ones.

637
00:35:32.320 --> 00:35:36.960
Yep. So it was pretty much we do one at

638
00:35:37.000 --> 00:35:41.559
maybe two o'clock in the afternoon and by two thirty

639
00:35:41.599 --> 00:35:43.079
we were going into another one.

640
00:35:43.639 --> 00:35:47.920
Right, And there's other things. There's lessons, money lessons not

641
00:35:48.079 --> 00:35:51.800
with us, you know, with our kids, how you do stuff.

642
00:35:51.840 --> 00:35:54.480
We've got a system, you know. I truly believe that

643
00:35:54.519 --> 00:35:57.519
you need to save a minimum of ten percent of

644
00:35:57.559 --> 00:36:01.480
everything you make, and if you aren't making enough to

645
00:36:01.480 --> 00:36:04.199
save ten percent, then you need to get another job.

646
00:36:04.480 --> 00:36:06.519
And I would say all of my kids are pretty

647
00:36:06.519 --> 00:36:09.920
good about that. I tell them always to have their

648
00:36:09.960 --> 00:36:13.039
bills paid three months ahead and then have another three

649
00:36:13.079 --> 00:36:17.159
months worth of savings. Now that's absolutely best case scenario,

650
00:36:17.280 --> 00:36:19.079
because I don't think most people can do it. But

651
00:36:19.159 --> 00:36:22.719
that's the goal, and we're big at setting goals for

652
00:36:22.800 --> 00:36:26.400
our children. I got to say this. In my other podcast,

653
00:36:28.159 --> 00:36:34.360
I talk a lot about culture and society, and forty

654
00:36:34.440 --> 00:36:39.800
percent of the children out there Miam are on psychotropic

655
00:36:39.880 --> 00:36:42.559
drugs for mental health problems.

656
00:36:42.679 --> 00:36:44.920
I'm glad our kids are not on any of that.

657
00:36:45.199 --> 00:36:46.159
Our kids, well, I.

658
00:36:46.159 --> 00:36:49.440
Have to say, I mean, I understand why some kids

659
00:36:49.480 --> 00:36:51.559
are on there, but I do got to say, out

660
00:36:51.559 --> 00:36:58.239
of our thirteen kids, zero zero kids are on psychotropic

661
00:36:58.400 --> 00:37:02.119
and it's not because our kids haven't felt bad, depression

662
00:37:03.159 --> 00:37:06.519
or super happiness or anything else. I think when it

663
00:37:06.760 --> 00:37:08.719
at the end of the day, I think it comes

664
00:37:08.760 --> 00:37:12.840
down to a mother and a father being responsible. I

665
00:37:12.880 --> 00:37:15.719
think it comes down to having a strong support network.

666
00:37:15.760 --> 00:37:20.719
Whether that's your family, your grandparents, your parents, it's your siblings.

667
00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:24.119
It's something having a support network when you know you

668
00:37:24.280 --> 00:37:25.760
need to talk to somebody.

669
00:37:26.239 --> 00:37:29.880
I think it also comes down to our kids have

670
00:37:29.960 --> 00:37:33.599
each other and if one messes up, they know that

671
00:37:33.639 --> 00:37:34.960
the other ones are going to get them.

672
00:37:35.719 --> 00:37:40.719
Oh yeah, yeah, we had a what would I call

673
00:37:40.800 --> 00:37:45.760
that a situation happened at a park and uh, this

674
00:37:45.880 --> 00:37:49.320
is when my son was a freshman, my other son

675
00:37:49.400 --> 00:37:53.079
was a sophomore, and the senior came up and he

676
00:37:53.199 --> 00:37:57.639
flicked a cigarette at my freshman's son while they were

677
00:37:57.679 --> 00:38:02.719
playing basketball at the basketball court. And my other son,

678
00:38:02.760 --> 00:38:05.519
which is a sophomore, drugged the boy out of his

679
00:38:05.679 --> 00:38:09.000
truck and said, you don't ever do that to my brother.

680
00:38:09.079 --> 00:38:11.679
After he threw him to the ground, shoved his face

681
00:38:11.679 --> 00:38:12.239
in the dirt.

682
00:38:12.519 --> 00:38:14.280
Yeah, you know, whopped up on him a little bit.

683
00:38:14.320 --> 00:38:17.639
And here's the thing. I'm old school, folks. I'm okay

684
00:38:17.639 --> 00:38:21.840
with that. I am completely okay with that. You defend

685
00:38:21.880 --> 00:38:25.480
your family, you defend yourself. You never act like a bully.

686
00:38:25.960 --> 00:38:28.280
You work hard every day and you treat people with

687
00:38:28.360 --> 00:38:34.400
respect and past that, remember who God is. Always fear God,

688
00:38:34.800 --> 00:38:37.440
Honor your parents. Those things right there, that's the keys

689
00:38:37.480 --> 00:38:39.079
to life. As far as I'm concerned.

690
00:38:39.639 --> 00:38:43.559
This is how our kids are. Our son, Gavin, went

691
00:38:43.679 --> 00:38:48.239
to this field trip thing for school and a kid

692
00:38:48.280 --> 00:38:52.000
from another school is bullying a kid that had a disability,

693
00:38:53.199 --> 00:38:56.480
and our son took it upon himself to walk up

694
00:38:56.480 --> 00:38:58.800
to the kid that was picking on this kid that

695
00:38:58.880 --> 00:39:03.480
had the disability said leave them alone. Don't you don't

696
00:39:03.519 --> 00:39:08.079
do that in front of all these kids. Our son

697
00:39:08.280 --> 00:39:10.199
was the one to put a stop to that person

698
00:39:10.360 --> 00:39:11.119
getting picked on.

699
00:39:11.880 --> 00:39:15.239
Well, I think I think we're much as given, much

700
00:39:15.280 --> 00:39:20.239
as required. And if if you see something, and I

701
00:39:20.239 --> 00:39:23.199
think that's been the problem with America for a long time,

702
00:39:23.280 --> 00:39:28.199
if you see something happening, use your voice. Don't just

703
00:39:28.239 --> 00:39:32.000
turn the other cheek, don't be a coward. Actually face things.

704
00:39:32.159 --> 00:39:34.159
I'm not saying for you to stick your nose in

705
00:39:34.239 --> 00:39:36.960
everybody else's business, but I am saying when something like

706
00:39:37.000 --> 00:39:39.320
that is happening in front of you, it is your

707
00:39:39.400 --> 00:39:41.880
duty to stop something like that.

708
00:39:42.800 --> 00:39:47.519
Yeah, I would have to say, our kids are We've

709
00:39:47.559 --> 00:39:51.400
always taught our kids don't pick on anybody, stand up

710
00:39:51.400 --> 00:39:55.480
for people that are getting picked on, and stand up

711
00:39:55.480 --> 00:39:59.000
for yourself, stand up for yourself. Yeah, and your siblings.

712
00:39:59.320 --> 00:40:02.840
Yeah, past that, you know, it is what it is.

713
00:40:03.880 --> 00:40:08.159
We've been lucky. We had a pastor, a youth pastor

714
00:40:08.840 --> 00:40:12.800
that helped our kids tremendously. Pastor Jeff. If you're listening,

715
00:40:12.880 --> 00:40:17.400
thank you, Tracy. She was pretty awesome too. But those

716
00:40:18.039 --> 00:40:20.960
those are the things living in a big family that

717
00:40:21.000 --> 00:40:22.480
you go through. Some of these things that you don't

718
00:40:22.480 --> 00:40:26.519
think about, like setting up multiple doctor's appointments, or buying

719
00:40:26.559 --> 00:40:30.960
food in bulk, or you know, planning way ahead. Like

720
00:40:32.599 --> 00:40:37.719
when you do Thanksgiving you start getting some of excuse.

721
00:40:37.320 --> 00:40:41.920
Me, some of the products that I get. I get

722
00:40:42.199 --> 00:40:47.960
a couple of weeks before Thanksgiving and I come right

723
00:40:48.000 --> 00:40:54.960
down to the almost to the day of Thanksgiving before

724
00:40:55.239 --> 00:40:58.320
we got everything. It takes time, well, it.

725
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Takes time and it takes resource. So if you see

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something on sale, you get in it ahead of time.

727
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Yep. And I also you know, around Christmas time it's

728
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really hard because as your kids get older, they get

729
00:41:14.679 --> 00:41:17.639
harder to buy for, harder to figure out what to

730
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get for Christmas. So it's always been a struggle from

731
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the time they hit freshman year up.

732
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See, I don't think so. I think as they get

733
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older it's easier. I don't to get them. You know.

734
00:41:29.199 --> 00:41:31.840
It's just when they're kids, they want anything. They want toys,

735
00:41:31.840 --> 00:41:34.320
they want this. But if you know your kids real good,

736
00:41:34.360 --> 00:41:37.440
you kind of know what they want. And then you

737
00:41:37.519 --> 00:41:41.440
have grandkids. But I think the funnest, the oldest.

738
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The older kids always want something that's very expensive. I

739
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mean computers or gaming systems, or parts for their cars.

740
00:41:52.480 --> 00:41:54.480
That's a big one in our house. Is parts for

741
00:41:54.519 --> 00:41:55.079
a vehicle?

742
00:41:56.360 --> 00:41:59.800
Yeah it is. But I hope we answered some of

743
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your questions there, Linda. Folks Again, if you want to

744
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ask us questions, it's we are The Hanson Show at

745
00:42:07.880 --> 00:42:11.079
gmail dot com, or you are the Hanson Show at

746
00:42:11.079 --> 00:42:12.400
gmail dot com.

747
00:42:12.159 --> 00:42:14.679
Or you could shoot us a message on our Facebook page.

748
00:42:14.719 --> 00:42:18.280
We are the Hansons and we will try and answer

749
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any questions you have.

750
00:42:20.519 --> 00:42:23.480
We've got a bunch more shows coming up. It was

751
00:42:23.599 --> 00:42:26.199
kind of funny Maya got all rare and to go

752
00:42:26.840 --> 00:42:28.760
to do her shows and then you lost your voice

753
00:42:28.760 --> 00:42:29.559
for the last few days.

754
00:42:29.639 --> 00:42:30.480
Huh, I did.

755
00:42:31.039 --> 00:42:32.119
It was a break, folks.

756
00:42:32.199 --> 00:42:35.760
It was all no, No, I wasn't because I was

757
00:42:35.800 --> 00:42:40.760
having to scream even though nothing was coming out, so

758
00:42:40.800 --> 00:42:41.599
it made it worse.

759
00:42:42.039 --> 00:42:46.599
We we're going to do a show about me and

760
00:42:46.679 --> 00:42:50.880
her when we discipline, when we discipline, and how we

761
00:42:50.960 --> 00:42:54.760
handle that with the kids and then with each other,

762
00:42:54.800 --> 00:42:57.679
because that's the thing with a large family, there is

763
00:42:57.760 --> 00:43:00.159
a lot of different discipline that needs to be done

764
00:43:00.199 --> 00:43:03.639
because every kid is different and mom and dad don't

765
00:43:03.639 --> 00:43:08.039
always agree on what discipline is and what discipline isn't.

766
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So me and her are going to have a show

767
00:43:10.639 --> 00:43:13.000
about that pretty soon. We're also going to have a

768
00:43:13.079 --> 00:43:18.440
tip show for cooking, just just that because there's so

769
00:43:18.519 --> 00:43:21.440
many tips. You can't get into all of it just

770
00:43:21.519 --> 00:43:23.159
in one show, can you.

771
00:43:23.199 --> 00:43:25.840
No, there's a lot to it.

772
00:43:26.800 --> 00:43:29.760
And eventually we're going to do a finding time for

773
00:43:29.840 --> 00:43:33.480
self care as parents when we have time to do it,

774
00:43:33.760 --> 00:43:36.199
because I'll tell you I'm not the master of that yet.

775
00:43:36.719 --> 00:43:39.480
I don't know a lot of what self care is

776
00:43:40.639 --> 00:43:42.679
or even how much self care you're supposed to have.

777
00:43:43.400 --> 00:43:47.039
I don't know, do you I don't really know. I don't.

778
00:43:47.400 --> 00:43:50.519
Yeah, so you know some of that is new to

779
00:43:50.599 --> 00:43:52.360
us and we will try to only talk about the

780
00:43:52.400 --> 00:43:55.440
things that we're experts on. But if you want to

781
00:43:55.440 --> 00:43:59.199
give us some tips and tricks, again, we are the Hansons,

782
00:44:00.000 --> 00:44:03.079
than show at gmail dot com. Send us a link.

783
00:44:03.719 --> 00:44:06.039
We'd appreciate it. We want to thank you for being here.

784
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We love you. And that's it for today from we

785
00:44:09.119 --> 00:44:10.039
are the Hansons.

786
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Have a great night.