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Well, welcome to We are the Hansons. I'm Jeremy Hanson,
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the husband and the dad, and you.
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Are Maya Hanson, the mom and the wife.
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Mom and the wife. Okay, and today we're going to
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do a little bit different of a show, mostly because
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somebody pissed me off about what they said, so I
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thought I would come up with some of the things,
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at least some of the the ten things that people
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say most to us that are just kind of weird.
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You know, we chose to have a lot of kids.
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We have thirteen kids, just so people know a large family.
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We're entrepreneurs, both self employed. We have been four years
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ups and downs, Like we're going to do a show
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one of these days about being homeless with our kids,
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which we were. Yes, you know, lots of surprise. Is
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not like any I mean, we're not any different than
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any other family. Instead of like you know, you going
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and grabbing a couple of chicken breasts to make supper,
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we got to go to Costco and bring a tank
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with to load up the food.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, it's kind of the same thing. But you wouldn't
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believe how rude some people are very very rude, like
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to the point like they almost want to pick a
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fight with you. Yep, you know, and they will say
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some of the rudest things, you know, and you get
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to a point where you get tough skin and it
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kind of rolls off your back. But today I don't
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know why this person kind of made me angry. It
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wasn't even in person, it was actually online.
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Yeah, people are rude.
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Yeah, well, I'm going to say I'll tell you which
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one it was as we go through them. But the
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number one thing that gets asked of us are are
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they all yours? In twenty two years, how many times
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have you answered that question? Are they all yours?
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I think I've answered it quite a bit.
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Yeah, what a thousand?
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Yeah? Yeah, Yeah.
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I don't know if it's because you know, people are stunned,
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or you know, do they wonder if all your children
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are biological? Are they adopted? Are they blended? It's ad
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a mix, but they got to know. It's like it's
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something with the gossip. You know. You can even even
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in church sometimes you will feel like people talking like, man,
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they got thirteen kids? Yeah, I mean, don't you feel
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that I do.
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I look at it like, you know, we don't have
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to explain to anybody, and just because we're a blended family,
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that doesn't change that those kids are ours, all of ours.
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Yeah, I mean, it's it is. It is a weird dichotomy,
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and people really don't understand it. I don't think that
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people understand anything if it's not about selfishness, if it
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takes you not to be selfish, I don't think people
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can understand it.
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Do you No?
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How about this one? And this is basically what the
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guy said today. This is number two. But this guy
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was responding to a post of all our pictures together
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and it wasn't even all the kids, it was just
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kids I think from maybe it was Easter, I can't remember.
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But this guy responded to He's like, and this one
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gets probably the second most of all time. Do you
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know what causes that hurt?
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Yeah?
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Have you gotten that?
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Yes?
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Yeah? Well no, we have no idea what causes it?
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You know, because when they say this, usually they have
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a smirk on their face. They're trying to be funny,
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they're trying to be nosy, they're just they're trying to
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be pricks. How do you usually respond to that?
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I tell them, like, it's none of your business. There
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are kids regardless, and I'll do what I want because
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guess what we pay for our children.
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We pay our own way, right.
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Not only do we pay, but we spend the proper
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amount of time with them. We've done things even though
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it's extremely hard. We've done things the right way, and
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some people just can't get around that. They just can't
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understand that. And then you get people that will say
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that that are like super tree huggers, and they will
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say things like the world's overpopulated, or they'll say something
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like why don't you let the rest of the world
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have some kids? And I'm like, hey, I'm not stopping
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anybody from having kids, you know what I mean? Like,
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here's the thing that'll really make them mad. I chose
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to have this many kids, especially those people. I chose this,
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and I did it, and I love it. And I
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wouldn't change my life for anything, wouldn't change my kids
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for anything, wouldn't change the struggles we went through. I
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wouldn't change a thing. And I absolutely love it. And
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if it makes you mad, well compliments to me. I'm happy, right,
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Isn't that the way you feel about it?
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That is how I feel.
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So I mean that one's probably the one that will
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get me the most, you know, hot and bothered and angry,
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just because they're not coming usually from a place of like,
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you know, how do you do this? How do you
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do that? They're coming from a place like, well you pricks,
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or you know, what's wrong with you? Or they're you know,
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there's something wrong with you, or don't you care about this?
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Or don't you care about that? Those type of people.
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Yeah, yep.
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And they often try to flip it that they're being.
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Not enough time being spent with them.
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Yeah, or they try and make it sound like they're
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not being jerks winch. In reality, the way they say
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it and the way they respond to your response shows
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there how they are.
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Yeah, some people are just a holes, right, yes, and
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that they are. And you're a little bit nicer about
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it most of the time than I am. Like I
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have no problem calling somebody, uh you know, I got
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a plethory dirt bag. Well that'd be mild for me.
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But you know, just because when you're doing it to
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try to start something, I have no problem meeting me
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at the line. Yeah, that's kind of where I'm at.
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So and then then we get questions from people and
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usually these are people that have already had a kid
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or two, they will say something like, oh, how do
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you afford all those kids? And you know, for me,
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that's just a practical question, that's you know, definitely rooted
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in understanding or or concern. Maybe it's just disbelief because
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they know how expensive it is to raise a big family.
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Yeah, it is expensive, and we've had our struggles. But
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one thing I can say, our kids have never gone
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without right.
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They've always had something come hell or high water. I mean,
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we've done what we need to do. And I think
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I think every family gets into a jam once in
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a while. Most of the time you can get out
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of it yourself if you are willing to pay and
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sacrifice the things that you need to. And usually that
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sacrifices time, you know, like more time at work, or
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more time doing a side hustle or something like that.
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But what I have found is we've created systems in
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our house, even down to the way we cook food,
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how we dish food up, how we eat, how we
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wash the dishes, what we do before we go to bed.
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All those things are systems. And when you have a
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lot of kids, systems really really help, especially when it
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comes to well, how do you afford all those kids? Well,
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we have systems.
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Yep, we have systems, and you know, whatever it takes
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to make sure our kids have.
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We do it.
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Yeah. That's it's almost like it's an attitude. Also, it's
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the way that we look at things.
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We wanted these kids, so we're going to make a way.
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Right And you know, trust me, it was not all
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sunshine and rainbows. It wasn't that way at all. It
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was a lot of hard work. It was a lot
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of sacrifice, especially for the parents. I mean, that's just
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what we do as a parent, is you sacrifice to
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make sure that the dreams of that your kids come true.
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And even for our kids. I'll give you an example.
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My daughter, she's going to college and you know, she
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got a lot of like a grant and scholarships and
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worked very hard, and she's still struggling right now. And
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I see it. And I you know, I was telling
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you the other day, I was like, you know, this
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struggle is actually going to benefit you later. Like you know,
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I understand, you're never going to go hungry. You can
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stay at mom and dads if you need to for
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a while, as long as you follow the rules, like
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none of your crap TV on my TV. But no, seriously,
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I think that struggle benefits you way more, especially in
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the long run, than having it everything easy.
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Well, you don't want your kids to have everything easy
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or handed to them.
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No Otherwise, when I'm dead and gone, how are they
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ever going to do for their kids and their grandkids
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unless you learn the struggle and you learn to accept everything.
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And I think that's when people say, well, how do
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you afford that? That's what we did. We did our struggling.
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You know, we went through and said, it doesn't matter
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what it takes, We're going to do it.
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There's a lot of calling the electric company and getting
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the payment postponed or you know, just to set it
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so we could pay this bill on this day and
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then next pay this day and just on and on.
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And we did it to make sure that our kids
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could have right.
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So I mean, yeah, and that's not what a question
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I don't I don't get mad at that question. If
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they want to ask, well how do you do this? Hey,
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I'm all here, we went through the struggle, we know
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what it's like. We can give you the tips and
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tricks that work for us.
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We still to this day tell our kids, like when
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we see them struggling, especially the ones that have kids
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themselves already, are like, hey, if you do this and this,
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you'll have more to do this, or.
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If if they listen, Yeah, and that's that's a big if,
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if they listen, you know, because you know, kids are
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humans and after you turn eighteen, you got to become
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your own person. So we try really hard to support
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them and what they want to do with being also
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being cautious and trying to tell them what we would do,
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but trying to support them for what they want.
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To do, trying to guide them in the right direction
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and the right path, right.
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So, and that kind of I don't know, it's just
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kind of one of them learning curves that you have
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as a parent. And another question I get quite frequently
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is do you have a favorite? How many times have
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you been asked that?
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A lot?
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Yeah, And the truth is I have never honestly had
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a favorite, maybe a favorite to discipline, just because each
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one of them have their own persona, their own you know, ego,
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their own Some listen all the time, some didn't listen
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at all. I mean, every kid is different, but you
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you love them all the same. Yeah, And you know,
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I don't think you can say that you have a favorite.
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I don't have a favorite.
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I don't have a favorite.
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No, it's it's but they're they're definitely different kids, and
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there's some things that you like about them, and there's
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some things that you don't like about them. And it's
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just a lot of those things that you don't like
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about them they grow out of. Like I've noticed that
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kids are like in stages, like right now, my daughter.
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You know, when you're young, you have a heart, when
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you old, you have a brain, And she's kind of
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in the have a heart thing right now and just
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this this total bleeding heart and it's like, what are
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you thinking as a dad? That's what I'm saying. But
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I love her to death and I know that it's
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just a phase. But we went through that with all
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of them, wouldn't you say, Yeah, give an example.
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Okay, So our kids are well, especially the girls, they
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tend to watch really sappy movies. Well, yeah, they will
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watch them and then they'll come in later and they'll
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be crying about something that had nothing to do with
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the movie, but they think.
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That it's happened.
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Like when our son Gavin moved out Maddie came in
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bawling her eyes out, and we try to explain to
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them there's no sense in crying. You're not gonna not
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ever see them again. You'll see them, right, you know,
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they just won't be living here.