April 11, 2025
We Are the Hansons: Hot Mess & Holy Moments
In this heartwarming and hilariously real episode of We Are the Hansons, we dive deep into the unpredictable rollercoaster of parenting a large family. From spilled milk and sibling meltdowns to spontaneous hugs and unforgettable bedtime prayers, this episode captures the beautiful chaos we call life. Join us as we reflect on the “hot mess” moments that make us laugh (or cry), and the “holy moments” that remind us why we wouldn’t trade this wild journey for anything. Whether you're a parent of one or thirteen, you'll feel seen, supported, and maybe even a little more sane after listening.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/we-are-the-hanson-s-family-life-practical-tips-self-care--6044253/support.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
WEBVTT
1
00:00:20.679 --> 00:00:24.559
Hey, y'all, welcome to We are the Hansens. It's just
2
00:00:24.719 --> 00:00:28.239
me today, that's right. No Jeremy hijacking the mic, no
3
00:00:28.440 --> 00:00:35.159
kids barging in yet, just me, Maya Hanson wife, mama
4
00:00:35.200 --> 00:00:40.960
of thirteen bonus parents, survivor of chaos, lover of laughter,
5
00:00:41.719 --> 00:00:45.479
and believer in the power of love, grit in God.
6
00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:51.359
This episode is raw, it's real. It's from my heart
7
00:00:51.439 --> 00:00:54.679
to yours. I want to talk about what it means
8
00:00:54.880 --> 00:00:58.039
to be a woman holding it all together when everything
9
00:00:58.119 --> 00:01:02.320
around you is falling apart, or at least it feels
10
00:01:02.439 --> 00:01:07.120
like it is. Because here's the truth. I'm not just
11
00:01:07.280 --> 00:01:12.640
Jeremy's wife. I'm not just the mom. I'm a whole
12
00:01:12.719 --> 00:01:19.680
woman with dreams, doubts, victories and failures. And today I
13
00:01:19.719 --> 00:01:23.319
want to share a little of my story. So grab
14
00:01:23.359 --> 00:01:30.200
your coffee, your laundry pile, or that steering wheel. Let's talk.
15
00:01:32.280 --> 00:01:36.799
So many people know me as the woman behind the scenes,
16
00:01:37.439 --> 00:01:44.519
the planner, the peacekeeper, always has wipes, snacks and extra socks.
17
00:01:45.280 --> 00:01:51.159
But underneath all that, I'm a woman who's battled insecurities,
18
00:01:51.719 --> 00:01:55.879
who's wrestled with my self worth, who's learned to love
19
00:01:55.959 --> 00:02:02.280
herself through the stretch marks, the heartbreak and the healing.
20
00:02:03.719 --> 00:02:07.760
There were seasons I didn't recognize the girl in the mirror.
21
00:02:09.599 --> 00:02:14.039
There were nights I cried quietly so no one else
22
00:02:14.080 --> 00:02:20.000
would hear. And through it all God whispered, You are
23
00:02:20.159 --> 00:02:24.840
more than what you carry. You are not just what
24
00:02:24.879 --> 00:02:30.360
you give. You are mine. I've learned that strength doesn't
25
00:02:30.400 --> 00:02:36.360
always look like shouting. Sometimes it looks like showing up
26
00:02:36.879 --> 00:02:45.400
again and again, even when your tank is empty. Let's
27
00:02:45.960 --> 00:02:52.960
talk about mama life, shall we. People see thirteen kids
28
00:02:53.159 --> 00:02:58.319
and they say, you must have patience of a saint.
29
00:02:59.319 --> 00:03:04.039
I don't. I have the patience of a woman who
30
00:03:04.120 --> 00:03:09.759
locks herself in the pantry to eat fruit, snacks and peace,
31
00:03:11.000 --> 00:03:16.400
or in the bathroom. But I love these kids, all
32
00:03:16.479 --> 00:03:24.560
of them biological step adopted their mind, and loving them
33
00:03:25.400 --> 00:03:29.719
means learning how to lead them, how to hold them,
34
00:03:29.840 --> 00:03:35.800
and yes, how to let go. Some days I feel
35
00:03:35.840 --> 00:03:40.319
like a superwoman, and if you have kids and you're
36
00:03:40.360 --> 00:03:45.000
a mom, you may feel that way too. Other days
37
00:03:45.759 --> 00:03:48.680
I'm googling how to make dinner with nothing in the
38
00:03:48.759 --> 00:03:54.560
fridge but mustard and string cheese. And that's okay, because
39
00:03:54.680 --> 00:04:00.400
motherhood isn't about performance. It's about presence. It's me see
40
00:04:00.919 --> 00:04:06.719
holy work and Mama's you're doing better than you think.
41
00:04:08.960 --> 00:04:15.000
Let's get into it. Marriage is beautiful, but it ain't
42
00:04:15.039 --> 00:04:19.879
always cute. Jeremy and I have been through so much stuff.
43
00:04:20.680 --> 00:04:25.480
We fought, we've failed, we've forgiven. But what makes our
44
00:04:25.560 --> 00:04:31.160
love strong isn't that it's perfect. It's that it's chosen
45
00:04:31.519 --> 00:04:40.279
every single day. Real intimacy. It's not just physical, it's emotional,
46
00:04:41.160 --> 00:04:47.560
it's spiritual. It's that moment when he holds me even
47
00:04:48.279 --> 00:04:52.720
when I'm mad, or when I look at him and remember,
48
00:04:54.319 --> 00:04:59.639
this is the man who fights for me. But real talk.
49
00:05:00.160 --> 00:05:05.480
I'm also the woman who needs space, who needs a minute.
50
00:05:05.680 --> 00:05:10.759
So if you're in a relationship, married or not, don't
51
00:05:10.800 --> 00:05:15.399
lose yourself trying to keep it together. Bring your full
52
00:05:15.519 --> 00:05:20.399
self to the table, flaws, fire and all. Love doesn't
53
00:05:20.439 --> 00:05:26.199
just ask you to shrink. It asked you to show up.
54
00:05:28.519 --> 00:05:32.199
I wouldn't be who I am today if it weren't
55
00:05:32.279 --> 00:05:38.519
for God. I don't say that to sound holy. I
56
00:05:38.600 --> 00:05:42.480
say it because I have been broken. I've been tired,
57
00:05:44.160 --> 00:05:50.199
I've been at the end of myself, and he still
58
00:05:50.240 --> 00:05:56.439
showed up. There were times that I felt unseen unheard
59
00:05:56.680 --> 00:06:03.240
and unworthy. And yet he said, you are called, you
60
00:06:03.279 --> 00:06:09.399
are covered. You are mine. To the woman listening who
61
00:06:09.439 --> 00:06:15.319
feels like she's drowning in dishes, debt or doubt, hold on,
62
00:06:17.480 --> 00:06:23.720
you are not forgotten and you are not finished. Here's
63
00:06:23.759 --> 00:06:28.759
the code I live by. Laugh when you can, cry
64
00:06:28.800 --> 00:06:35.360
when you need to apologize, often wear that dress, light
65
00:06:35.439 --> 00:06:40.040
the candle even if the house is messy, and never forget.
66
00:06:40.439 --> 00:06:45.639
You are worthy of love right now, not once you
67
00:06:45.759 --> 00:06:52.040
lose the weight or once life slows down. Now, just
68
00:06:52.160 --> 00:06:57.240
as you are, you are a masterpiece, even with spit
69
00:06:57.360 --> 00:07:03.560
up on your shoulder. I can't stress that enough two people,
70
00:07:04.639 --> 00:07:12.920
because everybody goes through a hard time. Everybody, you know,
71
00:07:13.079 --> 00:07:18.920
sometimes you just want to get away, and that's fine.
72
00:07:19.439 --> 00:07:30.959
Do it because that is your relief. That is your getaway.
73
00:07:31.120 --> 00:07:37.639
Everybody in this world struggles. Go do self care, you know,
74
00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:40.879
Go take a break in your room with the door
75
00:07:40.959 --> 00:07:46.680
shut and maybe some soft music on. Everybody needs a break.
76
00:07:48.560 --> 00:07:54.040
I have been broken. I have been a mess, and
77
00:07:54.079 --> 00:07:59.399
I fought through it because I want my kids to
78
00:07:59.480 --> 00:08:02.120
be tough. I don't want them to see their mom
79
00:08:02.240 --> 00:08:07.360
crying or see me broken. I want them to be
80
00:08:07.439 --> 00:08:12.279
strong and I also want them to know that if
81
00:08:12.319 --> 00:08:17.399
they feel that way, there's always somebody to talk to,
82
00:08:17.560 --> 00:08:26.199
regardless and no judgment. Not every person in this world
83
00:08:27.319 --> 00:08:34.360
is perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect person.
84
00:08:36.080 --> 00:08:43.360
And marriage isn't about avoiding storms. It's about holding each
85
00:08:43.399 --> 00:08:49.320
other through them. So to anyone listening, love each other, loud,
86
00:08:50.639 --> 00:08:55.240
dance in the kitchen, write the note, kiss even when
87
00:08:55.279 --> 00:09:02.919
you are annoyed, and laugh, laugh a lot. Some funny
88
00:09:03.000 --> 00:09:09.480
quick questions that I sit and think about is favorite
89
00:09:09.559 --> 00:09:14.120
kid this week? Is there a favorite kid? I don't
90
00:09:14.159 --> 00:09:19.360
have favorites. I've never ever had a favorite. But sometimes
91
00:09:19.360 --> 00:09:25.360
you think, man, Keenan did great this week. You know
92
00:09:25.480 --> 00:09:32.039
he helped out so much, or Tristan mowed the lawn,
93
00:09:32.679 --> 00:09:38.799
you know, stuff like that. I sit there and think
94
00:09:38.840 --> 00:09:42.639
about that stuff like I see what my kids are
95
00:09:42.679 --> 00:09:51.200
doing weird. It's habits that we have. What's hotter a
96
00:09:51.240 --> 00:09:56.679
six pack or a man who folds laundry. These are
97
00:09:56.679 --> 00:10:00.200
some questions I honestly sit and think about when I'm down,
98
00:10:00.200 --> 00:10:07.480
out to bring myself happy and laundry all day? Oh
99
00:10:07.559 --> 00:10:14.279
my goodness, It's a parenting motto, literally, like who else
100
00:10:14.360 --> 00:10:20.240
is going to do it? Lessons from stuff that we've
101
00:10:20.600 --> 00:10:25.720
gone through. We don't fake it here. We've been through
102
00:10:25.840 --> 00:10:34.039
real stuff, stress, sickness, betrayal, loss, And the thing about
103
00:10:34.120 --> 00:10:38.320
us is we don't walk away. We walked through it.
104
00:10:39.840 --> 00:10:44.440
We walked through it every time. There were nights we
105
00:10:44.480 --> 00:10:49.039
didn't talk, mornings we didn't want to, but we kept
106
00:10:49.120 --> 00:10:56.879
choosing love, not the feeling, the action, even when it
107
00:10:57.240 --> 00:11:04.720
meant sitting in silence, but still sitting together, their strength
108
00:11:04.759 --> 00:11:11.480
and staying, not imperfection, but in presence. We teach each
109
00:11:11.480 --> 00:11:15.600
other and if you're listening and going through it, don't
110
00:11:15.639 --> 00:11:20.679
give up just because it's messy. Sometimes that mess is
111
00:11:20.720 --> 00:11:25.799
the proof that something real is happening. What it's like
112
00:11:25.919 --> 00:11:30.159
being married. We're going to go through this. It's like
113
00:11:30.519 --> 00:11:35.519
living in a sitcom, but one where the main character
114
00:11:35.840 --> 00:11:40.559
never remembers where he left his keys or his pants.
115
00:11:42.039 --> 00:11:47.279
My husband is a lovable tornado, but he's got a
116
00:11:47.440 --> 00:11:51.799
heart that fights for his family every day. And even
117
00:11:51.919 --> 00:11:57.600
when we butt heads, and you know we do, I
118
00:11:57.639 --> 00:12:05.279
never doubt where he stands. He's always got my back always.
119
00:12:06.559 --> 00:12:11.559
It's almost like a heartbeat. You bring grace. You know
120
00:12:11.600 --> 00:12:18.440
when to hug and when to just not talk. Walk away.
121
00:12:18.759 --> 00:12:23.519
Just don't say anything. It's better not to say anything
122
00:12:24.200 --> 00:12:30.919
than say something that you'll regret later. That's marriage. Know
123
00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:36.759
when to pray, no, when to patch it, and how
124
00:12:36.759 --> 00:12:41.279
we got here, So let's take it all the way back.
125
00:12:43.440 --> 00:12:46.759
We were two people, both with a lot of life
126
00:12:46.840 --> 00:12:54.320
behind us, already, kids, stories, scars, and somehow we found
127
00:12:54.320 --> 00:12:59.639
each other in the middle of that mess. I wasn't
128
00:12:59.679 --> 00:13:03.720
necess sssarily looking for love when I met Jeremy. I
129
00:13:03.759 --> 00:13:10.080
was just trying to keep myself together. But Jeremy came
130
00:13:10.080 --> 00:13:15.759
in with that fire, that faith, and somehow he looked
131
00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:21.200
at my life and said I can handle that. And
132
00:13:21.240 --> 00:13:25.519
I sat there thinking, are you kidding me? But I stayed.
133
00:13:27.879 --> 00:13:31.279
I did it because deep down I saw Jeremy's heart
134
00:13:31.600 --> 00:13:36.519
and I saw what he could build even with the chaos,
135
00:13:37.200 --> 00:13:42.039
even with the pain. That's the thing. Love isn't just romance.
136
00:13:42.559 --> 00:13:47.279
It's choosing each other when it's hard, when it's real.
137
00:13:49.799 --> 00:13:53.720
I want to thank everybody for spending time with me
138
00:13:53.919 --> 00:13:59.440
here today this episode. It's a piece of my heart
139
00:14:00.840 --> 00:14:04.960
and if it spoke to yours, share it with someone
140
00:14:05.240 --> 00:14:09.960
who needs it. We're all just trying to find peace
141
00:14:10.600 --> 00:14:17.759
in the chaos. Strengthen the struggle and purpose in the ordinary.
142
00:14:17.840 --> 00:14:21.919
You are not alone, You are not too much, You
143
00:14:22.120 --> 00:14:28.480
are enough. We are the Hansens, and girl, We've got this.
144
00:14:30.279 --> 00:14:36.080
You can get over to our YouTube channel and subscribe,
145
00:14:36.200 --> 00:14:38.759
and you can send us a message on our We
146
00:14:38.799 --> 00:14:43.600
are the Hanson's Facebook page, or you can also send
147
00:14:43.639 --> 00:14:49.080
me an email at We are the Hanson's Show at
148
00:14:49.120 --> 00:14:54.759
gmail dot com. Till next time, I'm Maya Hansen. Keep
149
00:14:54.879 --> 00:14:59.879
loving hard, living loud, and walking in grace.
1
00:00:20.679 --> 00:00:24.559
2
00:00:24.719 --> 00:00:28.239
3
00:00:28.440 --> 00:00:35.159
4
00:00:35.200 --> 00:00:40.960
5
00:00:41.719 --> 00:00:45.479
6
00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:51.359
7
00:00:51.439 --> 00:00:54.679
8
00:00:54.880 --> 00:00:58.039
9
00:00:58.119 --> 00:01:02.320
10
00:01:02.439 --> 00:01:07.120
11
00:01:07.280 --> 00:01:12.640
12
00:01:12.719 --> 00:01:19.680
13
00:01:19.719 --> 00:01:23.319
14
00:01:23.359 --> 00:01:30.200
15
00:01:32.280 --> 00:01:36.799
16
00:01:37.439 --> 00:01:44.519
17
00:01:45.280 --> 00:01:51.159
18
00:01:51.719 --> 00:01:55.879
19
00:01:55.959 --> 00:02:02.280
20
00:02:03.719 --> 00:02:07.760
21
00:02:09.599 --> 00:02:14.039
22
00:02:14.080 --> 00:02:20.000
23
00:02:20.159 --> 00:02:24.840
24
00:02:24.879 --> 00:02:30.360
25
00:02:30.400 --> 00:02:36.360
26
00:02:36.879 --> 00:02:45.400
27
00:02:45.960 --> 00:02:52.960
28
00:02:53.159 --> 00:02:58.319
29
00:02:59.319 --> 00:03:04.039
30
00:03:04.120 --> 00:03:09.759
31
00:03:11.000 --> 00:03:16.400
32
00:03:16.479 --> 00:03:24.560
33
00:03:25.400 --> 00:03:29.719
34
00:03:29.840 --> 00:03:35.800
35
00:03:35.840 --> 00:03:40.319
36
00:03:40.360 --> 00:03:45.000
37
00:03:45.759 --> 00:03:48.680
38
00:03:48.759 --> 00:03:54.560
39
00:03:54.680 --> 00:04:00.400
40
00:04:00.919 --> 00:04:06.719
41
00:04:08.960 --> 00:04:15.000
42
00:04:15.039 --> 00:04:19.879
43
00:04:20.680 --> 00:04:25.480
44
00:04:25.560 --> 00:04:31.160
45
00:04:31.519 --> 00:04:40.279
46
00:04:41.160 --> 00:04:47.560
47
00:04:48.279 --> 00:04:52.720
48
00:04:54.319 --> 00:04:59.639
49
00:05:00.160 --> 00:05:05.480
50
00:05:05.680 --> 00:05:10.759
51
00:05:10.800 --> 00:05:15.399
52
00:05:15.519 --> 00:05:20.399
53
00:05:20.439 --> 00:05:26.199
54
00:05:28.519 --> 00:05:32.199
55
00:05:32.279 --> 00:05:38.519
56
00:05:38.600 --> 00:05:42.480
57
00:05:44.160 --> 00:05:50.199
58
00:05:50.240 --> 00:05:56.439
59
00:05:56.680 --> 00:06:03.240
60
00:06:03.279 --> 00:06:09.399
61
00:06:09.439 --> 00:06:15.319
62
00:06:17.480 --> 00:06:23.720
63
00:06:23.759 --> 00:06:28.759
64
00:06:28.800 --> 00:06:35.360
65
00:06:35.439 --> 00:06:40.040
66
00:06:40.439 --> 00:06:45.639
67
00:06:45.759 --> 00:06:52.040
68
00:06:52.160 --> 00:06:57.240
69
00:06:57.360 --> 00:07:03.560
70
00:07:04.639 --> 00:07:12.920
71
00:07:13.079 --> 00:07:18.920
72
00:07:19.439 --> 00:07:30.959
73
00:07:31.120 --> 00:07:37.639
74
00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:40.879
75
00:07:40.959 --> 00:07:46.680
76
00:07:48.560 --> 00:07:54.040
77
00:07:54.079 --> 00:07:59.399
78
00:07:59.480 --> 00:08:02.120
79
00:08:02.240 --> 00:08:07.360
80
00:08:07.439 --> 00:08:12.279
81
00:08:12.319 --> 00:08:17.399
82
00:08:17.560 --> 00:08:26.199
83
00:08:27.319 --> 00:08:34.360
84
00:08:36.080 --> 00:08:43.360
85
00:08:43.399 --> 00:08:49.320
86
00:08:50.639 --> 00:08:55.240
87
00:08:55.279 --> 00:09:02.919
88
00:09:03.000 --> 00:09:09.480
89
00:09:09.559 --> 00:09:14.120
90
00:09:14.159 --> 00:09:19.360
91
00:09:19.360 --> 00:09:25.360
92
00:09:25.480 --> 00:09:32.039
93
00:09:32.679 --> 00:09:38.799
94
00:09:38.840 --> 00:09:42.639
95
00:09:42.679 --> 00:09:51.200
96
00:09:51.240 --> 00:09:56.679
97
00:09:56.679 --> 00:10:00.200
98
00:10:00.200 --> 00:10:07.480
99
00:10:07.559 --> 00:10:14.279
100
00:10:14.360 --> 00:10:20.240
101
00:10:20.600 --> 00:10:25.720
102
00:10:25.840 --> 00:10:34.039
103
00:10:34.120 --> 00:10:38.320
104
00:10:39.840 --> 00:10:44.440
105
00:10:44.480 --> 00:10:49.039
106
00:10:49.120 --> 00:10:56.879
107
00:10:57.240 --> 00:11:04.720
108
00:11:04.759 --> 00:11:11.480
109
00:11:11.480 --> 00:11:15.600
110
00:11:15.639 --> 00:11:20.679
111
00:11:20.720 --> 00:11:25.799
112
00:11:25.919 --> 00:11:30.159
113
00:11:30.519 --> 00:11:35.519
114
00:11:35.840 --> 00:11:40.559
115
00:11:42.039 --> 00:11:47.279
116
00:11:47.440 --> 00:11:51.799
117
00:11:51.919 --> 00:11:57.600
118
00:11:57.639 --> 00:12:05.279
119
00:12:06.559 --> 00:12:11.559
120
00:12:11.600 --> 00:12:18.440
121
00:12:18.759 --> 00:12:23.519
122
00:12:24.200 --> 00:12:30.919
123
00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:36.759
124
00:12:36.759 --> 00:12:41.279
125
00:12:43.440 --> 00:12:46.759
126
00:12:46.840 --> 00:12:54.320
127
00:12:54.320 --> 00:12:59.639
128
00:12:59.679 --> 00:13:03.720
129
00:13:03.759 --> 00:13:10.080
130
00:13:10.080 --> 00:13:15.759
131
00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:21.200
132
00:13:21.240 --> 00:13:25.519
133
00:13:27.879 --> 00:13:31.279
134
00:13:31.600 --> 00:13:36.519
135
00:13:37.200 --> 00:13:42.039
136
00:13:42.559 --> 00:13:47.279
137
00:13:49.799 --> 00:13:53.720
138
00:13:53.919 --> 00:13:59.440
139
00:14:00.840 --> 00:14:04.960
140
00:14:05.240 --> 00:14:09.960
141
00:14:10.600 --> 00:14:17.759
142
00:14:17.840 --> 00:14:21.919
143
00:14:22.120 --> 00:14:28.480
144
00:14:30.279 --> 00:14:36.080
145
00:14:36.200 --> 00:14:38.759
146
00:14:38.799 --> 00:14:43.600
147
00:14:43.639 --> 00:14:49.080
148
00:14:49.120 --> 00:14:54.759
149
00:14:54.879 --> 00:14:59.879
