March 11, 2025

We Are the Hansons: Do We Ever Get Peace and Quiet? 🏡😂

We Are the Hansons: Do We Ever Get Peace and Quiet? 🏡😂

In this episode of We Are the Hansons, we dive into the everyday chaos of family life and ask the ultimate question—do parents ever get a moment of peace and quiet? Between kids running wild, never-ending chores, and the constant background noise of life, finding a second to breathe feels impossible!

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Welcome back to We are the Hansens. Today, we're answering

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the question everyone seems to wonder when they hear we

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have a household of kids. Do we ever get any

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peace and quiet? Boiler alert? Not really, But it's not

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as chaotic as you may think most of the time.

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So I don't know about that. I'm not quite sure

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if that's the truth or not. It's kind of weird.

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I'm sitting here, I'm in the what would you go

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us operator to seep yep, and you're in the throne

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the king spot. No, it's the King and Queen spot.

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But you know, I'm usually not over here. I'm usually

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running the board and stuff. So I'm just I'm watching

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you do it, and it's kind of nice to be

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honest with you.

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So a little bit of the background in our home

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is it's chaotic. We have a lot of kids, a

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lot of kids friends over It's crazy.

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I think we have the like, you know, the house

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that all the kids want to come to.

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Yeah, we definitely have that, like.

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You know, because of my whatever, my physical ailments. When

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I can work, I mean I work, I work at

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as much as I can during that time because I

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never know So I the other day, I go out

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and I'm working and I come home and you decided

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that there is going to be a little girl sleepover party.

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Slumber party.

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Yeah, and I was like looking forward to coming home

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throwing on a TV show. Well, whoever says that little

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boys are more rambunctious than little girls lied, I don't

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know about that one hundred percent truth.

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Well, needless to say, our house is like a theme park.

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It's loud streaming.

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Yeah, I mean I really do enjoy the couple minutes

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a year we get with piece and quiet.

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Yes, for sure. I mean we don't get that very

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often unless we go out.

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But yeah, I mean, but you know, we kind of

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chose that. Like we have had moments where and not

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very many, but we've had moments where the kids are,

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you know, like that one time they were at Bible

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Camp Youth Group YEP for one night and we sat

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there and it was you could have heard a pin

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drop in the house and it was so weird. It

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wasn't relaxing because it was too relaxing. Does that make sense?

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Yeah, Well we were kind of twiddling our thumbs trying

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to figure out what to do.

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Yeah, So we went to Walmart and walked around.

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Yes, And I mean even making dinner that night was

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weird because you make for an army and then you

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try and make for two people.

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Yeah, that's kind of weird. And then I mean, but

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even even like last Sunday, you're like, can't you just

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take a break for one minute? Just and I feel

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weird about it. I don't know.

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He just goes and goes and goes, and it's like,

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sit down, and I don't.

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Know when you're forced to sit down. You don't want

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to take for granted the time that you can do

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whatever you want. And you know, I don't know if

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i'd want a super quiet house all the time. I

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really don't know if i'd want that.

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Yeah, it's almost like I don't know. When all the

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kids are here, it's fun. It's like there's so much

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happening that it's actually fun to be at home, and

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then when they're all gone, it's like we're bored. So

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I don't know what we're going to do when they

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all move out.

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Well, it's it's like tonight I sat down and I mean,

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I'm battered and bruised because you're a sleeve driver, and

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I'm like tired, tired, and I just sit down and

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I just you know how you just kind of rub

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your butt in your spot and you just your whole

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body just kind of melts into where you sit. So

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I'm sitting there and my daughter comes up and she

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had spent all day making me a bracelet. Well the

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bracelet was too small, so I sat there for twenty

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minutes while she figured out she's seven, and she figured

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out how to finally go get mom to figure out

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how to put that on. But that's pretty much. That's

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pretty much how things go in this house.

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I have to say, even what the older kid's gone

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and the two little ones here, it tends to be

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quiet as long as they don't have a friend.

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Or well it's actually like three little ones. And then

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our seventeen year.

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Old is, well, no no one here. Yeah, when Maddie's

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with Gavin. Yeah yeah, just the two little ones are here,

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they're really quiet, they're easy. They watched TV.

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Not really they're not. I mean they did. But now

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it's springtime. So if you've noticed, every single time can

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be outside, they want to go outside.

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Yeah.

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But when we go to do podcasts, our podcast room

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is in our bedroom, our office is in our bedroom,

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so we get a window right next to where our

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podcast is. And when the kids go out there, it's

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like a mountain people that all the kids come out

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and they're running in the backyards. You can't even do

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a podcast because it picks everything up there. Even with

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the noise gate, it's wouldn't you say? Yeah, So, I

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mean the kids are like wild animals. When they go outside,

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it's loud. When they come back in, it's loud. And

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then you add more wild animals when when all their

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friends come over.

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And we really don't have a lot of kids on

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our street, but we have kids that flock to our

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street because of the other kids that are on our street.

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Well that and for like three streets over, they now

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know our house. Yeah, it's where the kids hang out.

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It's where you can have popcorn, it's where you can

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watch some movies. It's where you can play a ghosts

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in the graveyard. They play soccer out back, they play

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every sort of imaginary tag there is, like volleyball. Yeah,

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I mean, they're always doing something. And then our neighbor

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is a youth pastor, so he's out constantly running around

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with the kids and doing stuff and I don't know.

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I think that it's like a kid's having over here.

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I don't know where he gets his energy, because I

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could not run like that.

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No, it's inspiring. This kid. He's got to be twenty five,

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twenty six, really good man, really good. I call him

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a kid just because he's so young. But that guy

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can run with the kids for hours. I just couldn't

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do it anymore.

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And he keeps them entertained, right right.

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I think the main thing about having, you know, a

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little bit of piece and quiet is like your self

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care is when you've had a rough day. I know,

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when you come to bed, you're going to take a

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really hot bath. That's what you do. You go on

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there and you relax because the kids are sleeping, and

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that's what you.

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Do, yes of taking a hot bath when it's quiet.

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And for me, I go outside and take a walk.

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Yeah I just go out.

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Yeah we'll go on the back something. But that's like

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my time it used to be. And I know this

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is going to sound like an oxymron, but I used

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to go out and mow. And you know, we had

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great big yards and a couple of our places and

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I would mow and I would just think and that

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was my like, that was my peace and quiet time. Mowing.

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His peace and quiet time is more like he'll just

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sit there and you'll try and talk to him, and

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he's like spaced out into no man's land.

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Well, it's because I've got important conversations going on in

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my head. Oh that's that's what it is. But I

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think that peace and quiet, although it is great, I

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think that peace and quiet is overrated. And I think

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I'm going to get all the sleep in peace and

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quiet I need when I'm dead.

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Yeah, I mean I like our house being noisy. I

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think that once in a great while it's nice to

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just go out and have dinner with just us. But

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I don't know how we're going to do it when

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the kids are gone.

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You know that country song it says you're going to

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miss this, Yeah, I already miss it. I mean we've

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still got kids here and just some of the personalities

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and things of the older kids. And then they leave

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and you know you're readepressing stuff. Like the average child

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after they leave home, comes and visits home forty times.

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I think they just did a show on this, you know,

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them coming home and visiting when they grow up and

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move out right.

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You know, And I think that you really got to

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focus on the things that are important, like having those

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conversations and actually watching them grow and watching them learn.

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Like our youngest and I was seven, and it still

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seems to me like she's two, she's three, you know,

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And time just flies by, and until you get up

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there in age a little bit, you really don't notice

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and don't understand how fast your life flies by. So, yeah,

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sometimes it's nice to have some piece in quiet, But

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you know, most of the time, I think I want

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I want laughter, I want the bitter patter of feet

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running around. I want the occasional argument about whose pillows

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whose pillow. I want those things because that's life, that's

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that's reality, living in a large family, and I chose

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this life. This is exactly what I wanted.

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Yeah, And it's like, even when we go on like

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trips in the car, it sounds just like our house

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because it's loud and crazy in the car. So unless

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the kids are sleeping, there's no piece in ki on

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our car rides either.

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Facts.

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I mean, most of the time they're stuffing their faces

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with crackers or something, but or they're bickering.

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I think the quietest time we get is if we

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have a movie night and everybody sits down, they're eating popcorn,

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drinking kool aid whatever, and they actually get into a movie.

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Because YouTube in our house has destroyed Kid's Movie Night

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and Disney and Pixar because our kids like to watch

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this weird YouTube stuff that really doesn't have a point.

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It's like Barbie's little girls playing with their barbies on camera.

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Little girls trying out new toys, little girls trying on

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new dresses. I mean, just this type of thing. Addly,

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what are some of the other ones.

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I don't know. Some of them are just of barbies

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that are talking in Barbie voices and it's a little

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kid making a move.

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Right. We're pretty good about praying, and that's like twenty

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seconds of peace and quiet because if somebody bows are

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head in our house, you just shut up. That's the

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way that I was raised, that's the way that they're raised.

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So we do get that. In the morning, if you

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get up early enough, you can beat everybody and then

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you have quiet time.

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Yeah, and I think like we have three girls in

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one bedroom and so they tend to fight a lot.

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Yeah. I don't know. Anytime you put little girls in

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the same area. I think they're learning to cope with

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disagreements as they get older, because I have seen some

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of the dumbest fights. But that's another show, the dumbest

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fights that we've ever seen with our kids. I've literally

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seen my two little ones argue because one said the

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dress they put on their baby was ugly. Yeah, and

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they'll fight about something.

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Like that, Yep, they sure do.

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But yeah, I mean that's it for quiet time. Yeah,

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not that. We are the Hansons. I promise you that

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for sure. So if you have a story about this,

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