Dec. 14, 2024

We are the Hansons chores

We are the Hansons chores

We are the hansons, the podcast where we talk about love, family, and all the beautiful chaos that comes with it. Today we're tackling a topic every household knows all to well: chores. From balancing the never-ending laundry pile to keeping the kids motivated to help out., we're diving into how we make it work or sometimes, how we don't! So grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and let's get real about life at home.

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Welcome to We are the Hansens, a podcast where we

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share the joys, chaos, and lessons of building our unique family. Today,

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we're diving into the topic every parent navigates getting the

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kids involved with chores at home, from instilling responsibility to

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finding ways to make it fun. We're sharing how chores

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have become a family affair in the hands and household.

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Let's talk about how we turn everyday task into meaningful

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life lessons. I mean, growing up as a kid, my

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parents have never paid us or doing chores at home.

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That was just we were a team. We all had

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to work and clean up after ourselves and help pull

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the house together when it was needed. I mean, holidays

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were a big thing for our family because my mom

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and dad always had Christmas, Thanksgiving, any holiday was at

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our home. And when anytime somebody was coming over, all

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of us girls would hurry up and clean the house

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and make it presentable so that you know, when our

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guests came, our house was clean. It wasn't like always

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having guests over. It was anytime that we knew somebody

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was coming over, Me and my sisters and my mom,

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we would whip the house into shape. I mean, there

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was no if sands or butts about it. That was

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just the thing. And that was when I was a kid,

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and now as an adult, I have tried to teach

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my kids that your house should be presentable for your guests.

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And sometimes my kids understand, and sometimes they're like, Oh,

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it's just this person or it's just that person. No,

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it doesn't matter who is coming. Your house should be

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nice and clean and presentable. You shouldn't have to be

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tripping over toys or stepping on dirty clothes on the floor.

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It's just it's not okay. So I have tried to

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instill in my children that you know, it doesn't matter

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who's coming to our house, it needs to be presentable

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and that's just that. So I've had a lot of

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people ask me questions about if we pay our children

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to do chores, and so I wanted to come on

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here today and discuss that why or why not my

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kids get paid to do chores. So I try and

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incorporate our handsome values to my children. One thing that

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I try and teach my children is independence and to

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teach them the skills of cleaning and and organizing and

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all that they're gonna need as adults. So that's one thing.

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Another thing is teamwork. We are a team, we are

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a family. We are supposed to work together to get

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whatever we need to get done. One of the other

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things is gratitude. I try and encourage my children appreciation

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for the work everyone contributes to in maintaining our home.

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And some people look at us like, oh, you're such

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a bad parent because you make your kids do chores

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and don't pay them. It's a team. We all mess

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our home, and you can tell our home is lived in.

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We have kids. I mean, anybody who has kids knows

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you're gonna find toys around, You're gonna find dishes laying around.

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We try and keep our kids maintained. For dishes to

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the kitchen. We don't like them eating in their room

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one because they make a mess, two because stuff gets spilt,

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and three stuff tends to get left in there, like

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cups and dishes and anything you can find that could

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be meant for the kitchen. A soda can. That's a

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big one for my boys. So no payment for chores

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in my home. And the pros to that to that

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are it encouraged teamwork and responsibility, and it helped kids

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understand that everyone needs to pitch in to maintain our

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household paying for chores. There are pros like it teaches

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the value of hard work and earning money, and it

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also helps kid learn financial skills like saving and budgeting.

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We do things a little bit different. So granted, our

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kids don't get paid to do their chores because they've

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made the mess they need to help clean up, but

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we pay them for other things. And some of those

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other things are maybe there's stuff that needs to be

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done outside and it's not necessarily a chore. Maybe it's

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one day we helped break yard and that not necessarily

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is a chore in our home. I'd say more of

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just helping out, and maybe the kids, especially the little ones,

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want to help do something to earn money. We will say, okay,

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we're going to go around and maybe the neighbors trash

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can fell over and some of the trash blew in

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our yard. We need to get all the garbage picked

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up in the yard. If you want to do that,

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we'll give you two dollars or five dollars or depending

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on what it is. They can earn money that way.

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I feel it's important to teach kids the value of

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pitching in without expecting something in return, because I don't

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want my kid to have to depend on making money

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or earning money off of chores. There is other things

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that they could be earning money for. Paying kids for

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tours might create the mindset that they should only help

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if there's a financial incentive, rather than fostering responsibility, team work,

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and pride in maintaining their shared home. And it's just

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to us. I mean, we don't really have a tour list.

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It's more of depends on what's got to be done,

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because our house does not really I mean it gets dirty, messy,

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but not like crazy. Sometimes there's toys laying on the floor,

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or maybe the kids watched a movie the night before

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and so there might be blankets on the couch. The

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main thing that gets dirty in our house is one

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the little girls' bedroom and our son's bedroom because they

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always have people over or they're just messy they're kids.

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And our kitchen. We do a lot in our kitchen.

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We tend to cook a lot of food just because

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we have a big family. We always have a lot

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of people at home, and not all of them live

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with us, but especially on weekends, they come and visit

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and it's wonderful that they come and visit. We enjoy it. So,

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especially on weekends, we are doing a lot of cooking

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in the kitchen, so we tend to dirty a lot

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of dishes. I have a dishwasher. I do not like

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dishwashers just because I don't feel like they get the

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dishes clean. So we are the dishwashers. I mean, I

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grew up washing dishes, My sisters grew up washing dishes.

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There is no reason my children should not know how

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to wash the dish, especially if they're going to be

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dirting them. So that's one of the things that you know,

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my kids fight over is having to do dishes. They

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do not like to do dishes. So usually I'll say, Okay, Torrin,

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you're doing vacuuming today, Anna, you're making your beds today,

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or getting the dirty laundry gathered up in your bedroom

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so we can wash it. I'll show Madison how to

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wash dishes and do that, and sometimes she doesn't always

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like it, but she does it. And so sometimes she

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doesn't like to do it, but she does it just

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because you know, it's a responsibility. I try and explain

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to her that no matter if you like it or not,

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you still got to do it. And when you become

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an adult and have children of your own, you are

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going to be saying the same thing to your children

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as I am saying to you. The boys, they usually

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have to clean up their room. I've tried to teach

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them how to do laundry. Sometimes they overfill the washer,

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so I try not to make them do laundry, just

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because I like my washing machine and I don't want

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it broke. So some of the other things they help

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with the boys, especially is maybe cleaning the garage or

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stuff like that, fixing the car because eventually they are

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going to be on their own, most of them are,

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but the younger boys are going to be out on

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their own and they're going to need to know how

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to fix the car, or their significant others car when

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they get married, or their children's car. So those are

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some of the things that we try and encourage our

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kids and teach our kids. So no, our kids do

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not get paid to do chores. That is a team effort,

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and we are a team in our home, so we

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all pitch in and we bust out what needs to

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get clean. I'm going to jump into what our kids

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have done to make money because our kids have learned

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at a young age that you have to work to

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earn a buck. So I'll start off by the older kids.

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One of the things that our kids have always had

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the responsibility of doing is doing their own oil changes

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and stuff like that. Our son Tristan wanted to get

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into car detailing, so he started doing car detailing for

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a while and he was doing pretty good. The kid

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has a very good eye for that type of work,

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so he started doing that. And his little brother Gavin

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decided that he wanted to do a business, and so

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we got him started on mowing lawn for people near

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us in our neighborhood. So he was making pretty good

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money mowing lawn. And then Madison, she helps out a

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lot with little things, and sometimes when I need her

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to go and help me clean, she is there and

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she is busting butt to help me clean a home.

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I've never really had to get after her about working.

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You know, it comes natural for her. She's very good

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about saying, Okay, what next, mom, and I'll guide her

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what needs to be done next. But other than that,

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when I put her in a in a room and

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say this, this, and this needs to be done, she's

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right there doing it, and we've cleaned quite a few

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homes together, so you know she's learning and she's only thirteen. Guys,

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then you got my torn and Anna. Before we moved

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from our old house, we had the best male lady

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we could have ever had. She was amazing torn and Anna.

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One day, I had went to Walmart and I had

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bought oranges, and mind you, they're the little cutie oranges,

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so they're they're nothing very big. And I bought apples

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and I bought bananas and I was inside putting groceries away,

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and I didn't hear the girls, and I was like,

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where did they go? So I'm yelling for him, and

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I walk over to the door to go outside, and

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I see they have a little table and two chairs

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set up on my sidewalk in front of our house.

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And I'm watching them and they have oranges, apples, and

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bananas sitting on this table and my girls. As soon

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as the mail lady pulled up, they were trying to

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sell her the fruit. And I was showing Jeremy through

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the window. I was like, come here, come here, and

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I'm showing him and we're watching and they're extracting money

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from our mail lady selling her fruit that I had

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just bought at Walmart. And Jeremy walks outside and he said,

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hi to the mail lady, and he's that. He asked

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what the girls were doing and she said, well, they're

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extracting me for money. They're selling me fruit. And she

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was a young girl, very nice. She when we had

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to move and we told her we were moving, she

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said she was going to be sad and miss us

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because she wouldn't have the girls to sell her fruit anymore.

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So it kind of it made me proud that my

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seven and eight year old would think of selling fruit

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to make money. It was just it was awesome. So

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all of our children, all thirteen of our children, are

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great kids. I mean they really are, and they all

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want to be entrepreneurs, every one of them, every single

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one of them want to do something. Madison she wants

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to have her own business, but she also has decided

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she wants to become a dentist. So we've never ever

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had a problem with work ethic in our family. Our

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kids know that you got to work hard to make

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a living, and I think that starts out at home

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with the whole tour thing. It makes them appreciate going

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to work and earning a buck, so that, you know,

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just by us not paying them to do their chores,

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it shows them the responsibility they have for when they

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get a job. And every one of our kids, you know,

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still to this day, you know, I asked them, I'm like,

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you know, would you guys rather had us pay you

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to do chores or not? And the younger ones they

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always want money. They always want to go buy toys,

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or Madison wants her nails done or little things like that.

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But the older ones are like, no, we really appreciate

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not getting paid to do chores because it taught us,

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you know, responsibility. It taught us what we needed to

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know as adults. And I'm glad, you know, I'm really

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glad to know that we instilled that in our children.

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And I mean now they can carry it on to

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their family and regardless if they're going to pay their

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kids to do chores or not, at least they know

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that they did a big part in our team at

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home by helping clean up after their self, because it

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does get to be a lot just for one person,

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especially when you have a home of thirteen children. So

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I guess if you have any questions or anything, or

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you want to hear me do a podcast about anything

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in general. You can always reach out to me at

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We Are the Hansen's Show at gmail dot com, or

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you can send me a message on our We are

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the Hansen's Facebook and I will try and answer any

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questions that you have, or I will try and do

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a show on whatever you want to hear about our family.

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You can be as nosy as you want. Thanks for

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tuning in and I appreciate you all very much. You

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guys have a good night.