Feb. 20, 2025

We Are The Hansons: A Journey of Love, Strength & Caregiving

We Are The Hansons: A Journey of Love, Strength & Caregiving
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We Are The Hansons is a heartfelt journey of love, resilience, and caregiving. Join us as we navigate the challenges of caring for a sick husband, sharing personal experiences, tips, and encouragement for others in similar situations. From daily struggles to moments of hope, we provide a real and supportive space for caregivers and families facing health battles.

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Welcome to We are the Hansons. And today we're going

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to talk about getting sick. And I don't mean just

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getting sick. I mean getting sick because that's part of

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having a large family, it's part of marriage, it's part

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of being a parent, It's just part of life. And

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sometimes the struggles can be hidden. You can be with

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your children, can be with your wife, and be with

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the husband. It doesn't matter. Sickness affects everybody. And today

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I want to talk with my beautiful life Maya about

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some of the struggles that we've went through for twenty

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two years. All you got to do is work hard

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and overcome, work hard and overcome and play along with

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this thing that we call life.

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Yes, life is chaotic at times, but we pulled through.

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We try, We always try to pull through. I mean

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with our kids. We've had one of our sons had

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a multi sister kidney and that was a nightmare. We

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had another daughter that had lumps in her.

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Neck, yeah, tumors and had to be cut out. Pneumonia

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ran strong. Yeah, in our kids.

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We had one daughter that still is special needs and

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has issues. I mean, it is what it is. But

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a lot of times we forget about the parents. And

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you know, parents, no matter what, are going to try

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to do what they can do for their kids. And

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we've had some scares. I've had some scares. You've had

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some scares pretty much, way way way back.

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Thousand and four.

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Yeah, two thousand and four, I was getting really really tired,

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felt like crap. My joints were hurting, dizzy, dizzy, super dizzy,

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and it was weird. We were about three and a

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half hours away. We were visiting family at that time,

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and I just felt terrible, hard to keep my eyes open.

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It was like having the flu, but ten times worse.

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Do you remember that.

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Yeah, it was almost like you were spinning, just not

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with it right.

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So we went into the er and when I took

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my shirt off. With lime disease, they usually say that

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you have one ring around where you got bit, but

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I had both SyES over my whole body. You remember that, Yes,

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my arms. It literally looked like you had like you

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ever did that thing with a cup and you like,

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you know, sucked in it really hard when you're a kid,

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and you pulled it off and you had that ring

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around your mouth. Well, that's what it looked like around

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my whole body, and they pulled me in and they said, hey,

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something's not right here. It felt like they took about

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what about thirty five gallons of blood out of me.

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Yeah, it was a lot.

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And I sat there and I sat there, and they

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didn't call me right away. They said, well, we think

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that you have this, but we don't know, so you're

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going to have to wait. And what did we wait

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back then? Was it a week?

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Yeah, it was about a week, week and a half.

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About a week they had me come back in and

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they said, well, we found a spiral key. You have

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lime disease. We're going to give you this. And they

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gave me some Doxa cycling and well, this should clear

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it right up. And so they gave me that. I

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took it. Doxa cycling. By the way, it just it

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makes your stomach just feel like it's tore up and

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h That's really how we started our sickness type journey.

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Wouldn't you say?

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Yes? And then you were diagnosed with Maneer's disease.

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Yeah, And about about two years later, some of the

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symptoms had started coming back again. And but at that

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time the doctors believed, you know, you take doctor cycling

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and knocks it out. It's never there. As a matter

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of fact, back then, they didn't believe in long term

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lime disease or or what do they call it now,

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chronic chronic lime. They just didn't believe in it back then.

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And I went in and I saw and it felt

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like a million doctors, like five six different hospitals. When

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you're when you have a large family, that's really hard.

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I mean, even to come up with the money to

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go to the doctor. You remember that, Yeah, and time off.

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We did meet a good doctor along our journey. We

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had a lot of research on lime disease.

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Yep, she did endmnears for me. Unfortunately, she was teaching

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her sixteen year old daughter how to drive, gotten an

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accident and passed away, So that ended that, you know,

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And I just can't tell you how important it is

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to have good doctors. So, you know, we went through

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our struggles with the lime, and you know, they tried

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to help you back then with lime disease, but it

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really they really didn't know what they were talking about,

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did they. No.

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It was more of a trial and error type thing

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when it came to the doctor. So it was crazy.

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Yeah, try this, try that. About two years later. Anybody

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that rides motorcycle will know what I mean. It got

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to the point where I got rid of my motorcycles

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because I could feel it coming on. I could I

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had like two minutes, maybe five minutes sometimes, but I

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could feel it. I could just I can't really exactly

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tell you, but I could feel that, Hey, pretty soon

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I'm going to start spinning this. I'd get this vertigo

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and there was nothing anybody could do about it. So

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they sent me to man How many specialists did I

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go to fifteen.

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Twenty, Yeah, there was quite a few.

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And they came through. They were doing like they sent

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me to the odorinologist and you know, had me doing

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hearing tests and then they'd get the results and come

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back and come back in three months. So this was

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this was a long drawn out process. And they said, well,

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you might have, you know, like permanent damage from lime,

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but what we're going to diagnose you with what we

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think it is is Manir's disease. And Manir's disease it's

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an interior problem where you have tonightish sometimes it can

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make you sick all the time. It can give you vertigo.

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Just at what stage you didn't know, So but I

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actually sold my motorcycles because I was so afraid to

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get it when I was out doing that, because at

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least in a car, you can pull over and you

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have somewhere to sit in, but in a motorcycle you didn't.

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And you know, they changed some things on my diet

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helped a lot. MSG's cutting them out of my diet.

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I would say it was probably the biggest, wouldn't you.

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Yeah, it showed a lot of.

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Progression. Yeah, but there was a couple of times where

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we got up in the morning, or we're going to

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get up in the morning, and you're like, Jeremy, you're

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gonna get up, and I literally couldn't get up because

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I was spinning so bad. It was like like when

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you're young, sixteen seventeen, you go drinking and the first

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time you ever get drunk and you start spinning. That's

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what it was like. And there was no rhyme or reason.

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It just it just happened. And it was that way

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for a long long time, and I was going in

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and out of doctors trying to figure, oh, what's right,

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trying different medications and a lot of these things. We've

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learned this with our children and we for sure learned

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it with me. You're a guinea pig and they love

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doing new stuff to you, and a lot of times

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they don't get it doesn't get covered under insurance.

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Yeah, especially if it's trial medicine, right, And we.

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Deal with that to this day with our little Anna

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as well. We got to try this. Well, it's not covered. So,

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I mean, you got a lot of money going out

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for medications and it's a crapshoot. You don't know if

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it's going to work, and you don't know if it

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is gonna work, I mean, and then you know is

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this gonna work with this one? And there's so many

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variables that it gets almost to the point of depression,

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like I can't beat this. I don't know what I'm

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gonna do. But I did notice it in my situation

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that stress was probably the biggest factor that I had

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for the lime or for the minierres. Wouldn't you agree?

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Yeah? I would have to agree at the same like,

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anytime stressful situation happened, you were down a couple of days.

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Yeah, And it wasn't just that it was extreme exhaustion.

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I'm talking about like when you work eighteen hours straight

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at a super physical job. You come home, you're so

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tired you don't want to eat. The problem was is

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that a lot of times I wasn't even doing anything.

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I would just be that tired. So we went through

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this for how long until two thousand and nine and

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two thousand and nine, I didn't get the rings on

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my body again, but.

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You had the muscle achs, muscle aches.

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And I I was walking weird because my hips hurt,

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my shoulders hurt, my elbows hurt, my ankles. For every

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joint that I had, it wasn't just like it hurt.

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It was like you opened it up and took a

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blow torch to my joints. And this is in the

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middle of trying to do things with the kids, like

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Morgan was in back basketball and the boys were in wrestling,

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and my other boys with my ex wife, they were

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in wrestling. So we were constantly doing stuff all the time,

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and you're trying to get around all this stuff and

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live a normal life and it is damn near impossible.

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So I go in in two thousand and nine and

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Maya was with me, and we knew something was wrong.

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And keep in mind, in this in between time, we

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were also dealing with with Gavy with the multi sistic kidney,

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in and out of the doctor for that, and luckily,

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you know, praise God, he was he fixed himself.

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Yeah, I mean so I think he still has some issue,

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but I think the kidney itself fixed itself.

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Right. They were at one point saying, well, we're gonna

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have to go in and take that kidney, and he's

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gonna be fine, he's gonna have one kidney. But we

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watched it and it was like every week he was

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going in and having another test and having another test.

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So this is in the middle of all that, and

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I go to the doctor and they're like, well, we

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think you might have lime again. So again, they took

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about thirty five gallons of blood. I have me go

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to fifteen different doctors and they come out and they say, yes, okay,

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now you have three spiral keys instead of one. Yeah,

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for lime disease. And they're like, and at this point,

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they've switched everything up. They've got different medicines. They put

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you onto oxacycling to start. They've got regiments that you're

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supposed to eat this way and do this and not

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have stress and walk, you know, just this whole regiment

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that wasn't there before, But by this time, my joints

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were already bad. I had arthritis throughout my whole body.

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I still do. It's something that's degenerative. It started then

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I started getting staff infections around that time, wouldn't you say?

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Yeah, And it just.

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Comes from the line that's attacking your immune system, it

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attacks your vital organs. So it was just it was

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everything from that point on, and trying to live relatively

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stress free is almost impossible.

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Which it's very impossible to live stress free, I.

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Mean, but I was still going through the vertigo, though

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not as bad. I you know, I had trained myself

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what I should focus on and try to take mental breaks,

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you know, what to eat. We got we even got

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deeper into that where we started eating a lot healthier,

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at least from the way that we were eating before.

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Yeah, we were. It wasn't easy, for sure, but it

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seemed like it was improving from what we changed.

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Right, And you know, the funny part was my doctor's like,

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you know, you can't smoke, you can't drink, you can't

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eat pizza, you can't have this. And Maya was sitting

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in there and my doctor at that time, she was

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just awesome. But she looked at both of us and

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she goes, but you can have as much sex as

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you want.

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You remember that, Yes, I do remember that.

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So you know, I was very happy to have a

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good doctor that you know, tried to help me through this.

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And you know, we went through this up there where

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we used to live and tell what twenty fourteen.

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Yeah, twenty thirteen, twenty fourteen, Yeah.

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And we're going through this medical stuff and this stuff

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just never ends. I mean, it's always something you know,

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it's just it's always something you can't ever get ahead.

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You know.

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At this point they're saying, well, you got to have

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reconstructive surgery on your left shoulder and on your right shoulder,

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and we don't know what we're going to do with

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your hips. Do you remember all those?

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Yes?

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And so we're sitting at home one day. We had

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moved from our farm, which I so regret not being there.

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Our family had such a wonderful time there, but we

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didn't have any choice. We had leased it with option

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to buy, and the family that owned it we didn't

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know it at the time, but the uncle of the

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family we leased it from actually owned it. So when

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it came time for us to buy it. The uncle said, well,

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I wasn't aware of that. I don't want to sell it.

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So we moved. And even at that time, it was

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getting pretty hard to rent a place for a large family,

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like you just couldn't find it. So we finally found

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a house and we're like, this is a dump. You

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remember us when we walked in there.

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Yeah, it was horrible and it was.

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Three bedroom, two bathroom, but it was it was in

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rough shape. And so I told the guy. I was like, listen,

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we will pay for half the rent for a year

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and then we will come in here. We'll put new

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carpet in, we will fix the cabinet doors, we'll fix

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these doors, will put these windows in, we will you know, basically,

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we redid the whole apartment. Yeah, it was nice, and

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again we thought that he was the owner. That's the

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way that he presented it. So we're sitting there and

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our rent is paid through October and in May. You know,

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things are going pretty good. We made it nice. We're

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in a town, but we're in the country kind of.

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The kids liked it. We had friends or fruit trees.

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I mean, it was it. Life was good. And we're

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sitting there one day in was that it was May.

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It was the beginning of May, and sheriff shows up

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at our door. And keep in mind, we're just we're

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just starting to get through or at least understand the

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physical sicknesses that we had. And you know how to

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deal with lime, and you know how to deal with

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our son with the kidney. We're learning all that. This

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sheriff shows up and he says, mister Hanson. I said,

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can I help you? And he says, yeah, I have

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a ten day vacate eviction for you. And I said, sorry, man,

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you must have the wrong guy, because I've got the receipts.

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I'm all the way paid up through October. And he said, well, sir,

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this is not from your landlord. This is from a

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bank in California. The bank in California foreclosed on your landlord,

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and you have ten days to get out of your home.

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You remember that.

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They told us the bank when we called them, they

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told us that if we were out in twenty four hours,

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they would give us one thousand dollars.

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Yeah, but there was no way.

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There was no way.

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You know, we had all the kids and the kids

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is stuff and we had a little shed out there

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full of stuff. I mean, there was no way and

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we didn't even know that this was possible. So anyways,

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I'm stunned. I'm literally stun sitting there. I can feel

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like I'm getting sick, and I think anybody at that

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point would be getting sick. My stomach's starting to hurt,

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and I can feel rage just building up because I

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am so angry about what's going on. And then he

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says that the sheriff. He says, well, sir, if you

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want to go get your money back, you're going to

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have to go to your landlord Bear, mister Bear. And

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I was like, Okay, I don't know what to do,

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but I guess we're gonna have to go do that.

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So we go to mister Bear's house and I know

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we're kind of getting off subject here, but it's a

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good story. It's a true story, so we'll tell it.

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And we get to mister Bear's house and a city

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cop shows up. After we're knocking on the door for

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how long?

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Probably twenty minutes.

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Yeah, fifteen to twenty minutes. Cop shows up. They come

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up and they say, well, mister and missus Hanson and

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we're like yes, and they said, well, We're just here

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to inform you from mister Behar that he has filed bankruptcy.

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This is his number. And so I'm talking to to

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the cop, the city cop at this time, and I

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was like, this is what just happened to me. We

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got a ten day eviction notice. We got a bunch

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of kids at our house, this is where we live.

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We have nothing we can do. And he says, well,

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you can't talk to mister Bhaer about it anymore. He

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has federal protections. You're never going to get your money

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from him. He's filed Chapter seven. You can file with

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the court, but the chances of you getting it, you

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know better just to move on. And I remember Maya

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and I on the way back home, you know, thinking

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we got we got ten days left here. We had

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grown grown into this community. We had wonderful friends there.

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But we knew, you know, because four months prior, but

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when we were working on that house, we had been

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looking for a house all over that area and we

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couldn't find any could.

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We no, And we didn't want any eviction either.

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Right, so you know, this is one of them cases.

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We're paid in full. We're a great tenant. The landlord

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loses it in foreclosure. The bank comes to us and

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we had no idea none. So we packed up all

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our stuff and we put it in a storage and

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we went and lived with my grandmother for what a month.

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Yeah, about a month or so.

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About a month, and we diligently looked. I mean this

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in between time, we're both working what we can from

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where we're at. We're self employed, so we're doing the

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jobs that we have, but it's very hard because we're

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three and a half hours away from our home base

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and where most of our work is. Our house has gone.

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We're paying for the storage sheds for our stuff to

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be in there, and we can't find a home. We

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had the money to get a home, but we didn't.

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We couldn't find a home. There was nothing nobody would

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rent to us because you know, we had four kids

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at that time, and then we had our other kids

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that came down every other weekend and then the summer.

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But it didn't matter to them. There was a young couple, husband,

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wife and four kids, and that was too much for

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a three bedroom even with two boys and one and

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two girls in the other. They didn't want that. Nobody did. Yeah,

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So we struggled and struggled, and Maya's parents were having

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some problems where her dad would be calling us and

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you know, very active man, very active, but he would

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call us and he was having cognitive problems.

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Do you remember that, Maya, Yeah, not knowing where he

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was at.

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And you were very, very scared for him. You know,

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you love your parents and were you know, six hundred

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and eighty miles away from them, And we're like, what

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do we do? You know, we can't stay at Grandma's.

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There's nowhere for us to go here because nobody's renting

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to us at all. One was our kids, and two

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nobody wanted to rent to anybody that was self employed.

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We packed up hall and came to Missouri, yep.

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And we came down here to Missouri. And one of

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the things that I learned about Missouri when it came

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to the medical side was there's not a whole lot

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of doctors compared to there. No, there's fewer doctors, but

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usually they have pretty good doctors that specialize in things.

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And I found a doctor here that actually dealt with

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lime disease and that you know, you remember back in

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the late nineties early two thousands, lime disease was not

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a Missouri problem. It was a Wisconsin, Minnesota, northern Illinois maybe,

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and then out there on the east coast Connecticut, you

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know those areas. So I got very lucky and I

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found this doctor here. We moved down here. We found

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what I thought before was a bad house. We came

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down here, had the same problem. But we were listening

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to a morning show, morning radio show called swap Line.

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Yeah. It was like they sold stuff on there. People

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could call in and sell their products or whatever they

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had for sale on there or giveaway.

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So this guy gets on there and he says, I

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got a house a rent out in the country. It's

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like a four bedroom, one bath, maybe some more bedroom,

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but yeah, give me a call. And I don't remember

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what the number was, but that's what it was. And

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I was like, oh, great, here we go. So I

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call this number and the guy says, you got a

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lodge family and I was like, yes, sir, it's like

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this would be perfect for you. And I was I

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didn't know what to expect because I said, Okay, we're

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going to come out there, and he said, well, don't

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bring your kids. The first time, you know, I got

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to talk to you about a couple things, so don't

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bring your children. And I was like, okay, So my

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wife and I go out there.

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I didn't even want to get out of the car.

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The weeds were what six foot tall?

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Yeah, they were taller than the house.

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And remember we are in poison the snake land here.

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And there's like laminate flooring.

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Well, no, before that, before that, we get there and

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here this guy's got a bad tenant that wouldn't pay

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him rent. And he's like, well, if you want to

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rent it, you got to get this guy out. And

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I'm not sure if he's out or in. So yeah,

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remember that it was rough. So we go up to

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the door and on the on the sign on the door,

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it says trespassers will be shot. Yeah you remember that. Yeah,

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But me and you, we've been living with my grandma

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up there. We came down here and we'd been at

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your parents about three weeks. Yeah, and I was like,

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we need our own home. And in the meantime, keep

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in mind, I still got lyme, I've still got myn ears.

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I'm still going through all this stuff. And at this point,

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the kids are starting to get stressed out because they

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don't have their normal home life. So I'm like, all right,

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I'm gonna do what I gotta do. So I climbed

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through a window, announced myself, you know, say some expletives

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at anybody that potentially is in there. And there's not

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there's not anybody in there.

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No, but he had the doors boarded up.

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Boarded up, and he locked out, and you name it.

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It was bad. And I get it open and I

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was like, here's the deal. I'll rent this from you,

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but I'm going to gut this whole thing and I'm

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gonna make it nice. And when we started gutting that,

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like the bathroom sink, we touched it and the one

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side broke down and like meth pipes fell from underneath it.

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You remember that, it was horrible.

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We ripped everything out, We rented a wood floor sander,

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we sanded everything, We put newlanolim in, we put new

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carpet in, we redid the wooden floors, we repainted everything,

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we put new stuff in the bathroom. I mean, we

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did a lot of work. And yeah, we did a

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bunch and then we started going through the yard and

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we made it a home and we were there for

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six years.

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Yeah, it took us a long time to get the

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weeds chopped down. It didn't think we were ever going

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to get that done.

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And I'm when I say poisonous snakes. We probably ran

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into probably forty copperheads, a couple of rattlesnakes in the yard,

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that's how tall it was. And then they had haybills

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randomly laying around the yard. They had logs that we

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didn't even see. I'm talking like, you know, four or

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five foot round pine tree logs.

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There was a pool that the liner was ripped out,

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but it was a pond right all the snakes and

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the frogs.

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So we started working and we got this and in

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the meantime we had two months. We moved down there.

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We got in there in June sometime, and then we

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found out in Missouri kids start school about three weeks

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before up north, so we got ready for them to

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go to school while we're putting this in, while we're

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fixing the house, and we're doing all this, And needless

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to say, we did it, and the house was great

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for it was.

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It didn't look the greatest on the outside, but we

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made it a home and we made it.

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Look The yard was beautiful, and to this day we've

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lived in a couple of nicer houses than that, but

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the kids still love that house.

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I think it's just the yard. I think we had

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so many fun memories there well.

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00:26:31.319 --> 00:26:35.200
And I think that's what it was too. But so

475
00:26:35.480 --> 00:26:38.160
so we move in there, and you know, you think

476
00:26:38.200 --> 00:26:40.559
your hardship's over, but your your hardship is just part

477
00:26:40.599 --> 00:26:44.680
of life. And you know, we're living there and this

478
00:26:44.720 --> 00:26:48.079
is in two this is seven years ago. Maybe it

479
00:26:48.119 --> 00:26:49.319
maybe a little bit.

480
00:26:49.440 --> 00:26:50.200
Eight years ago.

481
00:26:53.119 --> 00:26:59.880
And I'm still dealing with my stuff. And we go

482
00:27:00.079 --> 00:27:03.000
and we have anlin which we didn't even know about.

483
00:27:03.119 --> 00:27:07.880
This was like a very big surprise. And she goes

484
00:27:07.920 --> 00:27:10.480
into the nek you and I just thought I was

485
00:27:10.519 --> 00:27:14.960
stressed out, but I was two hundred and seventy seven pounds,

486
00:27:15.039 --> 00:27:19.000
was yeah, And when we left the hospital eighty seven

487
00:27:19.079 --> 00:27:23.000
days later, I was two hundred and one and my

488
00:27:23.160 --> 00:27:27.240
wife and my mom probably the two people in my

489
00:27:27.400 --> 00:27:29.599
life that want me to go see a doctor more

490
00:27:29.599 --> 00:27:35.000
than anybody. It's like she talked to her and then

491
00:27:35.079 --> 00:27:37.880
MI was like, you're going to the doctor today. So

492
00:27:38.319 --> 00:27:40.839
we go to the doctor, and keep in mind, I

493
00:27:40.880 --> 00:27:46.839
just thought, you know, I'm so stressed. Yeah, I really

494
00:27:46.839 --> 00:27:50.240
didn't think anything was really wrong. I just thought, I'm

495
00:27:50.279 --> 00:27:53.559
going through a really stressful time. My daughter's in here,

496
00:27:53.599 --> 00:27:56.119
and I saw stuff the neak you that I never

497
00:27:56.160 --> 00:27:56.960
want to see again.

498
00:27:57.599 --> 00:28:02.400
And they tell you the worst possible things that you know,

499
00:28:02.920 --> 00:28:06.440
this is what t make it right. It's not looking good.

500
00:28:06.519 --> 00:28:09.920
They always tell you the horriblest news nobody wants to hear.

501
00:28:10.480 --> 00:28:12.359
The chances are she's not going to make it. I

502
00:28:12.359 --> 00:28:15.440
remember them saying that to us, and then they told us, well,

503
00:28:15.480 --> 00:28:17.440
she's never going to walk and she's never going to talk,

504
00:28:17.480 --> 00:28:19.200
and she's you know, so you're hearing this as a

505
00:28:19.279 --> 00:28:23.000
parent and as the father. You're sitting there because it's

506
00:28:23.039 --> 00:28:26.480
your job to comfort and be the backbone of the

507
00:28:26.480 --> 00:28:30.400
family when these situations happened, and I was. I made

508
00:28:30.440 --> 00:28:34.200
sure that, you know. I don't remember how many times

509
00:28:34.240 --> 00:28:37.559
in front of the doctors when the doctors would say something,

510
00:28:39.839 --> 00:28:42.640
I would say, they're full of shit. Don't listen to amya.

511
00:28:42.720 --> 00:28:43.319
Do you remember that?

512
00:28:43.599 --> 00:28:43.799
Yep?

513
00:28:44.559 --> 00:28:45.960
And they would say it again and I was like,

514
00:28:46.200 --> 00:28:48.480
just listen. I don't believe you. I don't think that

515
00:28:48.559 --> 00:28:52.119
you know what you're talking about. And we both went

516
00:28:52.160 --> 00:28:56.359
through this for a long time. Anyways, we get out

517
00:28:56.759 --> 00:29:00.400
I've lost seventy five, seventy six pounds. You make me

518
00:29:00.440 --> 00:29:02.920
go in to the doctor. We go in there and

519
00:29:02.960 --> 00:29:11.440
there's this just like this turky, older female doctor. And

520
00:29:11.480 --> 00:29:15.200
she was a spitfire. I really liked her. And she

521
00:29:15.359 --> 00:29:17.720
draws blood and does her thing, and you know, I

522
00:29:17.799 --> 00:29:21.920
tell her about stuff and she goes, honey, your blood

523
00:29:21.960 --> 00:29:24.799
sugar is at five hundred and eighty six. Right now.

524
00:29:25.319 --> 00:29:29.720
I'm surprised. I'm I'm surprised you're standing talking to me,

525
00:29:30.680 --> 00:29:32.839
and to me, I felt like every other normal day

526
00:29:32.960 --> 00:29:37.759
just whatever. So found out I've got type two diabetes,

527
00:29:39.000 --> 00:29:41.759
which is complicated by everything else that's going on in

528
00:29:41.799 --> 00:29:46.319
my life, including my other sicknesses. And you know, Maya's

529
00:29:46.559 --> 00:29:48.400
right there along with it. As a matter of fact,

530
00:29:48.519 --> 00:29:50.519
Maya's one like, hey, you need to take this medicine.

531
00:29:50.559 --> 00:29:52.359
You need to take that medicine. We need to refill

532
00:29:52.400 --> 00:29:55.519
this medicine. That's almost like a full time job, wouldn't

533
00:29:55.559 --> 00:29:56.640
you say it is?

534
00:29:57.440 --> 00:29:59.559
Now I've got two people to do.

535
00:29:59.519 --> 00:30:03.400
That for, right, Well, and then you can't just cook

536
00:30:03.440 --> 00:30:06.079
the food that you want, because now you're cooking for

537
00:30:06.240 --> 00:30:08.279
medical reasons, not just.

538
00:30:08.279 --> 00:30:10.680
How good it tastes, right, that's for sure.

539
00:30:11.359 --> 00:30:13.920
And then we got to go to this doctor. We

540
00:30:14.000 --> 00:30:15.720
got to have gas for this, We got to pay

541
00:30:15.720 --> 00:30:17.640
this insurance. We got to figure out a way to

542
00:30:17.680 --> 00:30:19.880
do this because insurance isn't going to cover this. I mean,

543
00:30:20.279 --> 00:30:26.279
it's a myriad of things about Oh, it was probably

544
00:30:26.319 --> 00:30:30.359
about two years after that. I'm getting my blood sugar

545
00:30:30.440 --> 00:30:34.519
under control. My lime disease is uh is still acting up,

546
00:30:35.400 --> 00:30:38.839
you know. Manears it's getting better, but I still my moments,

547
00:30:39.640 --> 00:30:43.160
and my teeth keep cracking, you know, and I'm getting

548
00:30:43.599 --> 00:30:46.440
pain and stuff. So I go in and they're like, well,

549
00:30:47.400 --> 00:30:49.720
all of your roots on, all of your teeth are dissolved.

550
00:30:50.440 --> 00:30:52.599
And I cleaned my teeth like I brush my teeth

551
00:30:52.680 --> 00:30:56.000
every night, did I not? Yeah, And because of the sickness,

552
00:30:56.000 --> 00:30:59.359
my teeth literally rotted in my gums and my jaw

553
00:31:01.200 --> 00:31:06.079
the bone was decomposing. So they went in, they ripped

554
00:31:06.079 --> 00:31:08.839
out all my teeth, they cut, you know, along my jaw,

555
00:31:08.920 --> 00:31:12.799
they bone grabbed my jaw. Change this this, this, you

556
00:31:12.880 --> 00:31:15.720
got to take this, this, this and this, you know,

557
00:31:15.759 --> 00:31:17.839
and we're just rolling with the punches, right, I mean,

558
00:31:17.839 --> 00:31:20.279
it's just because that's what you gotta do. Yeah, And

559
00:31:20.519 --> 00:31:24.480
you know, in anline at that time, every week at

560
00:31:24.480 --> 00:31:27.359
the doctor, every week at the doctor test after tests.

561
00:31:27.400 --> 00:31:30.720
Sometimes it was two three times a week. And that

562
00:31:30.839 --> 00:31:34.680
really takes a toll on the family, because mom's gone,

563
00:31:34.839 --> 00:31:38.960
or dad's gone, or mom and dad are gone, you know.

564
00:31:39.039 --> 00:31:40.839
So this was not just affecting me and Mi, this

565
00:31:40.960 --> 00:31:45.000
was affecting our whole family. Yeah, and uh so we

566
00:31:45.039 --> 00:31:48.599
go through that and we just about get in the clear.

567
00:31:49.599 --> 00:31:56.319
Torn was five, Aneline was four. Yeah, I think that's

568
00:31:56.319 --> 00:31:59.160
about what it was. And we come back from a

569
00:31:59.200 --> 00:32:02.359
trip down to Baptist Camp, which is like our local

570
00:32:02.519 --> 00:32:05.799
rock jumping and kids playing in the water, just everybody

571
00:32:05.799 --> 00:32:08.759
getting together. And if you've ever lived in the South,

572
00:32:08.799 --> 00:32:10.920
you know how fast a storm can come in. So

573
00:32:11.119 --> 00:32:15.400
we leave there in its beautiful sunshiny, and we pull

574
00:32:15.480 --> 00:32:18.039
in the driveway and we're right on the edge of

575
00:32:18.519 --> 00:32:22.200
a thunderhead cloud and we're all jumping out getting in,

576
00:32:22.480 --> 00:32:25.000
and I, you know, Nina Maya got her and I

577
00:32:25.039 --> 00:32:28.200
went to grab Torn, and I grabbed Torn and I

578
00:32:28.319 --> 00:32:32.799
set her out of the Yukon and lightning struck the

579
00:32:32.880 --> 00:32:37.960
Yukon and blew me sideways and where the thank goodness,

580
00:32:38.079 --> 00:32:41.279
I wasn't holding on the torn but where my heels were,

581
00:32:41.599 --> 00:32:44.680
fire had went through my heels and burnt the grass

582
00:32:45.359 --> 00:32:48.240
where I was standing. And at first, I mean I

583
00:32:48.319 --> 00:32:51.640
was stunned, but I wasn't. I really didn't feel anything.

584
00:32:51.680 --> 00:32:56.440
You remember that, Yeah, And it scared me more than anything.

585
00:32:56.480 --> 00:32:58.480
But I didn't want to go to the doctor because

586
00:32:58.519 --> 00:33:00.400
we really didn't have the money to keep going to

587
00:33:00.440 --> 00:33:05.319
the doctor. But my hands, where my hand was touching

588
00:33:05.359 --> 00:33:08.359
the yukon was all black, you remember that, yeah. And

589
00:33:08.400 --> 00:33:10.599
the and then where where I was standing, the grass

590
00:33:11.200 --> 00:33:12.160
was all burned.

591
00:33:11.839 --> 00:33:14.119
And your leg had a black streak going up it.

592
00:33:14.519 --> 00:33:18.200
Yep. Uh. So I you know, I really didn't think

593
00:33:18.279 --> 00:33:21.599
much about that for about a year. I just felt

594
00:33:21.680 --> 00:33:26.720
different after that always, like my minears started getting worse again,

595
00:33:26.920 --> 00:33:31.759
my lines started getting worse. I think it was affecting

596
00:33:31.920 --> 00:33:35.240
my diabetes too, because I was getting if you remember,

597
00:33:35.400 --> 00:33:36.960
like cotton mouth constantly.

598
00:33:37.240 --> 00:33:41.559
I was affecting everything, yeah, like you were forgetting a lot.

599
00:33:43.440 --> 00:33:45.359
Yeah. And that's that's one thing that I still have

600
00:33:45.440 --> 00:33:48.599
problems with. It's just brain fog in general. And I

601
00:33:48.640 --> 00:33:50.599
don't know if it's because I'm you know, forty six

602
00:33:50.680 --> 00:33:53.799
years old, or I don't know how much of it is,

603
00:33:53.839 --> 00:33:57.240
but I do know that I have it. And uh. Anyways,

604
00:33:57.720 --> 00:34:03.359
about a year later, I been having chest hurting for

605
00:34:03.480 --> 00:34:09.360
how long, probably six eight, nine months, and there was

606
00:34:09.440 --> 00:34:13.000
just one night that it just would not it would

607
00:34:13.239 --> 00:34:14.159
not stop.

608
00:34:14.519 --> 00:34:16.880
Yeah. I came home from the hospital. I was like

609
00:34:16.880 --> 00:34:19.119
two thirty in the morning. She was working, I was

610
00:34:19.159 --> 00:34:23.440
working and came home and he was acting kind of funny,

611
00:34:24.719 --> 00:34:27.159
and I asked him if he was okay, and he

612
00:34:27.199 --> 00:34:32.440
said yeah. Well, I went and showered, got dressed, ready

613
00:34:32.440 --> 00:34:35.639
for bed, got in bed, and he was like standing

614
00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:37.679
in the doorway, almost like he was ready to do

615
00:34:37.719 --> 00:34:40.880
a push or a pull up on the doorframe, and

616
00:34:40.920 --> 00:34:43.239
he was just like stretching his body out. And I

617
00:34:43.320 --> 00:34:47.519
was like, you okay, No, he wasn't okay. I made

618
00:34:47.599 --> 00:34:48.440
him go to the er.

619
00:34:48.880 --> 00:34:53.400
Yeah. Well, so I agreed to go to the er.

620
00:34:53.480 --> 00:34:55.360
And when we got to the er, they hooked me

621
00:34:55.440 --> 00:34:58.760
up to all this crap and they started an IV

622
00:34:58.920 --> 00:35:03.079
and what did they give me. It was liquid the

623
00:35:03.119 --> 00:35:05.360
same thing that you put under your tongue. It wasn't

624
00:35:05.440 --> 00:35:10.679
nitrogen nitroglycerin. It was liquid nitroglycerin. And they put that

625
00:35:10.840 --> 00:35:15.320
in me and then they're like, well, and after this.

626
00:35:15.559 --> 00:35:18.960
After this, We're there for what four hours? And I

627
00:35:19.000 --> 00:35:22.320
still didn't feel right, but I felt way better, and

628
00:35:22.360 --> 00:35:25.719
they're like, well, we're going to take you to Cox,

629
00:35:25.760 --> 00:35:28.559
and I was like, you're not taking me anywhere because

630
00:35:28.599 --> 00:35:30.760
that was an eighteen thousand dollars bill and it really,

631
00:35:31.079 --> 00:35:33.800
you know, it pisses me off in America that you

632
00:35:33.960 --> 00:35:38.440
have to worry about healthcare like that. But I was worried.

633
00:35:38.480 --> 00:35:41.039
I was like, I don't have that money. I've got

634
00:35:41.159 --> 00:35:43.519
enough people with their hands out for money. I can't

635
00:35:43.559 --> 00:35:46.599
spend that. So in my she was trying to get

636
00:35:46.599 --> 00:35:48.400
me to go because at that point she was just

637
00:35:48.480 --> 00:35:50.400
you know, scared that I was going to die or something.

638
00:35:51.559 --> 00:35:55.400
So they do their test there and whatnot, and you know,

639
00:35:55.880 --> 00:36:00.239
they're like, you've got a severe problem. You know, you're ekage.

640
00:36:00.679 --> 00:36:02.320
They did like what four different tests.

641
00:36:02.599 --> 00:36:06.119
Yeah, and then she was pretty angry because you didn't

642
00:36:06.119 --> 00:36:07.519
want to stay in the hospital.

643
00:36:07.840 --> 00:36:10.519
Well, right, well, here's the thing. I didn't really have

644
00:36:10.599 --> 00:36:12.199
the option. I didn't have the money to have the

645
00:36:12.239 --> 00:36:15.480
option to stay there. Because I asked her, what are

646
00:36:15.480 --> 00:36:17.800
you going to do for me here that I can't

647
00:36:17.840 --> 00:36:21.119
do or can't drive up to Cox and get or whatever,

648
00:36:21.679 --> 00:36:24.440
and anyways, I made the decision to come home, so

649
00:36:25.320 --> 00:36:28.360
it was almost right away. I had to go in

650
00:36:28.480 --> 00:36:32.760
for a stress test and they didn't want me walking

651
00:36:33.159 --> 00:36:35.920
so because they knew something just by the ekg something

652
00:36:36.000 --> 00:36:39.840
was really really wrong. So they gave me a chemical

653
00:36:41.159 --> 00:36:44.519
stress test and I can't remember what I think it

654
00:36:44.559 --> 00:36:47.400
was at seventy seven beats a minute, which is, I mean,

655
00:36:47.559 --> 00:36:50.000
you are flying. I thought they were trying to give

656
00:36:50.039 --> 00:36:55.679
me a heart attack again, and you know, they did

657
00:36:55.719 --> 00:36:58.239
it to get it going, and my body wouldn't act right,

658
00:36:58.360 --> 00:37:00.519
so they put in another one and then finally they

659
00:37:00.559 --> 00:37:03.519
got the beats up. But I remember when I think

660
00:37:03.559 --> 00:37:06.599
it was at sixty nine or seventy. He's like, all right,

661
00:37:06.679 --> 00:37:09.320
start bringing him down. And I got up to seventy

662
00:37:09.400 --> 00:37:12.280
seven and I could tell like they're panicking and putting

663
00:37:12.320 --> 00:37:16.000
different stuff in me. And at seventy seven I finally

664
00:37:16.039 --> 00:37:19.280
started coming back down and the doctor after all this,

665
00:37:19.360 --> 00:37:22.000
there's like four or five nurses in there and two doctors,

666
00:37:22.119 --> 00:37:25.920
and he comes up and he's like, well, on a

667
00:37:25.920 --> 00:37:29.199
good note, you would make a terrible drug addict. And

668
00:37:29.239 --> 00:37:33.559
I was like, oh, thanks, But after all my stuff

669
00:37:33.599 --> 00:37:37.400
came back and they measured the bottom left quarter of

670
00:37:37.440 --> 00:37:41.039
my heart had just quit working. It's dead and it

671
00:37:41.119 --> 00:37:42.960
will never work again. And they, you know, they were

672
00:37:43.000 --> 00:37:47.199
asking me about it, you know what what happened. So

673
00:37:47.760 --> 00:37:51.000
I told them about my whole medical history. I told

674
00:37:51.039 --> 00:37:55.360
them about getting struck by lightning, and the days just

675
00:37:55.519 --> 00:37:58.280
basically said, well, we think this is because of you

676
00:37:58.360 --> 00:38:02.360
being struck by lightning. It screwed things up down there.

677
00:38:02.400 --> 00:38:05.039
But this is why this part's missing in your EKG.

678
00:38:05.840 --> 00:38:08.079
And then there's something about the enzymes in the blood.

679
00:38:08.119 --> 00:38:09.800
They can tell that you know, part of your heart's

680
00:38:09.840 --> 00:38:14.119
dead and this is what you need to do. And Maya,

681
00:38:14.320 --> 00:38:17.840
at this time, you're still keeping up with all this stuff,

682
00:38:17.920 --> 00:38:19.719
like you know, this is what you got to get,

683
00:38:19.719 --> 00:38:21.599
this is your medicine. You got to go to this

684
00:38:21.840 --> 00:38:27.639
doctor's appointment. So we've had a very very long stretch

685
00:38:28.320 --> 00:38:34.239
of really bad, hard medical stuff. Yeah, you know, and

686
00:38:34.280 --> 00:38:36.440
still people with their arms out and their hands out

687
00:38:36.480 --> 00:38:39.360
for money, and well, we don't care about that, we don't.

688
00:38:39.400 --> 00:38:43.119
You know, that's just the way things go. So life

689
00:38:43.400 --> 00:38:48.639
is never easy, and with a large family, problems usually compound.

690
00:38:48.679 --> 00:38:51.480
Wouldn't you say, Yeah, it's almost like they hit us

691
00:38:51.519 --> 00:38:52.239
a lot.

692
00:38:52.400 --> 00:38:56.519
But you get really good at at problems when you're there,

693
00:38:56.559 --> 00:38:59.000
you know what I mean, Like stuff other people will

694
00:38:59.480 --> 00:39:03.119
complete stress over, We're like, oh we got that, we

695
00:39:03.119 --> 00:39:03.559
can do that.

696
00:39:04.480 --> 00:39:08.719
Yeah, we're experts in a medical field.

697
00:39:09.480 --> 00:39:12.159
I mean, there's a lot of things we're experts. And

698
00:39:12.639 --> 00:39:16.039
it's not necessarily because we've wanted to be experts. It's

699
00:39:16.079 --> 00:39:18.920
because life has made us experts in the in this

700
00:39:19.079 --> 00:39:23.920
type of thing. So you know, there's always hope. There's

701
00:39:23.960 --> 00:39:26.840
always hope in everything you do. Here, I am forty

702
00:39:26.840 --> 00:39:29.920
six years old. I've got thirteen kids, a beautiful, wonderful wife,

703
00:39:30.480 --> 00:39:35.079
We've got wonderful extended family. We live a pretty good life.

704
00:39:35.400 --> 00:39:38.239
I think that our standard of living is pretty awesome

705
00:39:38.239 --> 00:39:40.800
and the things that we get to enjoy, and you know,

706
00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:44.199
I really shouldn't be here. I remember when we were

707
00:39:44.239 --> 00:39:48.639
talking to the old doctor that gave me by my

708
00:39:48.920 --> 00:39:53.960
diabetes diagnosis. She said, I'm going to be really surprised

709
00:39:54.119 --> 00:39:56.519
if you live longer than ten years, so get your

710
00:39:56.519 --> 00:40:01.440
affairs in order. You remember saying that, And here I am,

711
00:40:01.599 --> 00:40:06.360
and I think I'm I think I'm healthier right now

712
00:40:06.400 --> 00:40:07.920
than I have been in a long time.

713
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Comes with a lot of prayer to.

714
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It does it does, and you know it's just don't

715
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ever think that you can't get through something. And May

716
00:40:20.639 --> 00:40:22.599
and I have been best friends for a long time,

717
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so I think that that helps a lot. And I

718
00:40:27.280 --> 00:40:30.440
think just the way that our kids are raised, I

719
00:40:30.480 --> 00:40:33.000
think helps a lot because they know they know what's

720
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expected of them, they know how to act. They know

721
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that we don't. We don't put up with mediocrity, and

722
00:40:43.719 --> 00:40:48.039
I think that's helped us and made things inside the

723
00:40:48.079 --> 00:40:51.559
home less stressful, so we can deal with all these

724
00:40:51.599 --> 00:40:56.760
other things, especially the medical side of things, or how

725
00:40:56.800 --> 00:40:59.679
we eat in this house, because we eat to make

726
00:40:59.719 --> 00:41:02.599
sure that we don't get sick, or the things that

727
00:41:02.639 --> 00:41:05.239
we don't bring into this house or things like that.

728
00:41:05.480 --> 00:41:12.280
We're very I guess we clean a lot, especially so

729
00:41:12.400 --> 00:41:16.440
our kids don't get sick. We try and eat right,

730
00:41:17.280 --> 00:41:18.599
make sure we drink water.

731
00:41:19.440 --> 00:41:25.719
We've adjusted our life. Like with me, there isn't a

732
00:41:25.800 --> 00:41:29.559
chance in a hundred million years that somebody would hire

733
00:41:29.639 --> 00:41:33.519
me to do a full time job. So we have

734
00:41:33.719 --> 00:41:37.239
these things like you own a couple of companies and

735
00:41:37.280 --> 00:41:40.519
I do a podcast that we make money at and

736
00:41:40.559 --> 00:41:42.880
we work really hard at it. There's just some times

737
00:41:42.880 --> 00:41:45.760
that I can't work, so we we mix it up.

738
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And we've always made this work even when everybody else

739
00:41:49.320 --> 00:41:51.320
said that we couldn't, or we should be doing this,

740
00:41:51.440 --> 00:41:54.519
or we should be doing that to our own detriment,

741
00:41:54.599 --> 00:41:57.880
that's what they would say, and we're like, no, we've

742
00:41:57.880 --> 00:41:59.719
got this figured out. It might not be the way

743
00:41:59.719 --> 00:42:01.480
that you like that we do things, but it's the

744
00:42:01.480 --> 00:42:04.480
way that works for us. Yeah, And I think that

745
00:42:04.599 --> 00:42:06.159
a lot of families out there. I think if you

746
00:42:06.199 --> 00:42:09.440
take that approach and you have a strong wife and

747
00:42:09.480 --> 00:42:12.840
you have a strong husband, and you really are a

748
00:42:12.880 --> 00:42:16.760
team and you love your family, there's literally nothing that

749
00:42:16.800 --> 00:42:21.480
you can't get through ever. Absolutely, So I hope that

750
00:42:21.519 --> 00:42:24.480
you guys like that. That's a little bit. If you

751
00:42:24.519 --> 00:42:27.159
guys want to know more, tell them where they can

752
00:42:27.639 --> 00:42:28.320
email you at.

753
00:42:28.519 --> 00:42:31.880
You can email us at we are thee Hansens Show

754
00:42:31.960 --> 00:42:34.199
at gmail dot com, or you can send us a

755
00:42:34.239 --> 00:42:37.880
message on our Facebook we are the Hansens and please

756
00:42:38.000 --> 00:42:41.159
go subscribe to our YouTube channel we are the Hansens.

757
00:42:41.519 --> 00:42:45.719
Yeah, and you have it was really cool when Maya

758
00:42:45.800 --> 00:42:50.000
first started this, this company noticed her right away and

759
00:42:50.039 --> 00:42:53.639
they sent you a pan Yes, and you did a

760
00:42:53.679 --> 00:42:55.760
review on this pan and now it's like your favorite

761
00:42:55.800 --> 00:42:58.599
pan that you've ever had. Yes, so you're going to

762
00:42:58.639 --> 00:43:01.079
be putting that review out and we are the Hansens.

763
00:43:01.480 --> 00:43:03.599
If you're a company out there that wants to see

764
00:43:03.679 --> 00:43:06.400
if your stuff can make it through a big family

765
00:43:06.599 --> 00:43:10.239
with a lot going on, send her an email, let her,

766
00:43:10.320 --> 00:43:16.159
let her know what it is. If you're a husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend,

767
00:43:16.639 --> 00:43:20.679
If you guys are having problems, if it's medical problems

768
00:43:20.679 --> 00:43:22.960
and we can we can help. We'll give you any

769
00:43:23.000 --> 00:43:25.559
advice we can. If it's raising kids, we'll give you

770
00:43:25.599 --> 00:43:28.119
any advice that we can, and we'll for sure tell

771
00:43:28.119 --> 00:43:31.920
you what worked for us. Yes, so thank you and

772
00:43:31.960 --> 00:43:32.960
I hope you love the show.