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Hey everyone, it's Maya and welcome back to We are
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the Hansens. Today's episode is a little deeper, and I
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want to talk about something that's been sitting heavy on
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my heart but also lifting me up with hope. What
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we want for our kids in life with so many
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little and not so little humans under our roof. Jeremy
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and I talk about this a lot, and I think
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it's something many parents, no matter how big or small
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their family is, think about too. Above all, I want
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our kids to feel loved fully, deeply and on conditionally.
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I want them to grow up knowing that their worth
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doesn't come from grades, trophies, or accomplishments. It comes from
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who they are. We also say this at home. Lead
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with kindness. I want our kids to be the ones
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who notice when someone is hurting, who sit with the lonely,
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who speak gently when it's hard. We don't want our
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kids to fear work. We want them to embrace it,
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whether it's schoolwork, chores, or chasing their dream job. Hard
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work builds grit and confidence. I hope our kids never
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lose their sense of wonder. I want them to ask questions,
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dig deeper, explore new cultures, read book, books they wouldn't
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normally pick up and always stay open to learning. Confidence
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comes from knowing who you are. I want our kids
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to walk into a room and feel like they belong
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without needing to prove it. I hope they choose friendships
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based on trust and laughter, not clicks or status, that
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they value real connection over surface level attention. I want
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them to know how to budget, save, invest, and give.
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I want them to understand the value of a dollar
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without being ruled by it. Failure isn't the end, it's
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a teacher. I want our kids to swing big, fall hard,
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and get back up with that fire in their eyes,
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even when it's uncomfortable, especially when it's hard. I want
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them to be brave enough to speak for those who can't.
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In fact, my daughter Morgan was a big one for
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speaking in school for the kids that were bullied. She
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was in a group called Stanford the Silent and she
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was one of those kids that really spoke up for
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the kids that couldn't themselves. Our faith is a foundation
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in our family. We want them to know God's love,
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to feel guiding their choices and comforting them in the dark.
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We remind them often that friends may come and go
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but family is forever. I hope they always come back
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to each other, supporting, forgiving, and celebrating together. We want
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them to take care of their bodies, because you know,
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health and wellness is a big thing. To eat well,
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sleep enough, and move their bodies and seek help when
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needed physically and mentally. Love that's true whether they marry
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or not. I hope our kids experience deep love, the
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kind that's safe and steady, where they can be fully themselves.
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Not every place, job, or person is meant to be forever.
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I want them to know when to fight for something
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and when to let it go. We want them to
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walk through this world appreciating all kinds of people, beliefs
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and lifestyles. This world is why and beautiful. We want
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them to laugh loud and often. Life is hard, but
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laughter that's our secret weapon. I hope our kids never
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lose their sense of humor, even in all the chaos.
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I want them to be a safe place for others.
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I want our kids to be the person others go
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to when life is messy, a gentle space. I always
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tell my kids don't take shortcuts. We live in a
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world of quick fixes, and I hope they value the
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long road, the slow, steady grind, the satisfaction of earning it,
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because that's what matters. I want them to trust their gut,
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that little voice inside. It's powerful. I want them to
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listen when it speaks, because our instincts are often right.
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I want them to love their future children well one
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day if they become parents. I want them to carry
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forward what we've tried to build. Love, structure, grace and
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lots of hugs. I want them to know their story.
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I want them to understand where they came from, our
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family history, the struggles, the triumphs, because roots matter. I
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want them to stay humble no matter how far they
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go in life. I hope they stay grounded, grateful, and humble.
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I want them to learn to say sorry and mean it.
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I want them to know that apologies aren't weakness, their
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strength and maturity because we know that our kids can slip,
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and if they fess up and apologize for something, that
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shows how strong they really are and how mature they
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can be. I want them to forgive others. Holding on
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to bitterness only hurts you. I hope they learn to
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let go, even if the person never says sorry, Every
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small step matters. I want them to notice and appreciate
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their own growth by celebrating small wins. I want them
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to create something. Paint right, build, sing, whatever it is.
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I want them to create things that didn't exist before.
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Creation is joy. Help without expecting praise is a big one.
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It's one of the most powerful acts of goodness, helping
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when no one's watching. I want them to choose joy daily.
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Happiness is a choice. It's not always easy, but it's
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definitely worth fighting for, even on hard days, even in
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broken things. I want them to find beauty in unexpected places,
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be the first to applaud others, celebrate your friends, for
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your siblings. There's enough success to go around. I want
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them to own their mistakes because responsibility isn't punishment, it's growth.
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I hope they know they don't know it all and
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that's okay. Stay open and stay growing. You're staying teachable.
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Don't rush life. I want them to enjoy being kids, teens,
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young adults, adulthood will come. Let each stage bloom fully,
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make memories, not just money. Money is an important thing
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in life, but you can always make more money. But moments,
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those are one time only things. I guess that's why
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we as parents create so many memories. And yeah, we
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do work a lot to make money to make sure
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our kids have what they need. You know, make sure
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everybody is fed, being able to go on vacations. That's good,
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But the memories you're making are important. I want them
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to protect their peace from toxic people, from over commitment,
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from their own expectations. Peace matters for their people. I
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want them to show up for themselves for what they
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believe in. Presence is powerful. I want them to speak life,
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use their words to build up, not tear down. Our
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words have lasting impact. So when you say something to somebody,
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sometimes you're gonna regret what you said. I want them
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to say what they feel. I don't want them to
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tear people down. I want them to use their words
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to impact somebody else. Good company is always a good thing.
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Who you surround yourself with shapes who you become. I
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hope they choose wisely. You got to take risks, not
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reckless ones, but brave ones. I hope they leap even
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when it's scary, stay connected to us, even when they're grown.
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I want them to know they can always call home,
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come visit. We're right here. I want them to be
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good stewards of the earth, of their time, of their blessings.
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I want them to take care of what they've been given.
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I want them to know their strengths and lean into them.
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I want them to live in alignment with how they're
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uniquely made. I want them to accept help. They don't
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have to do at all. We weren't meant to we're human.
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I want them to offer help too, because the world
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needs more helpers, more hands extended. I want them to
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enjoy the journey. Life isn't just about milestones. I want
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them to love the everyday moments that they're given. I
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want them to choose integrity, even when it costs something.
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Especially then be okay with not being liked. Not everyone
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will get them and that's okay. Stay true to yourself anyway.
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Advocate for themselves. I want them to know how to
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speak up for what they need with strength and grace.
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Laugh at themselves. Life is easier when we don't take
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ourselves too seriously. Heal their wounds, therapy, prayer, community, whatever
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it takes. Want them to work through their pain, trust
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the process, even when they don't see the ending yet.
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It's important be gentle with themselves. No one is perfect.
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I want them to give themselves the same grace they
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give others. Keep that sense of war. Look at the stars,
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watch the fireflies. Let all live in their hearts, stay
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playful even as adults. I want them to keep dancing
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in the kitchen and having tickle fights with their kids.
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Know that home is safe. I want them to always
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feel like home is a soft landing place, whether they're
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nine or forty nine. Be a light, shine in dark places,
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bring warmth where it's cold. Say I love you often
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out loud, every day, No matter how old they are.
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Our kids are good about that, all the way up
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to the oldest one. They still tell us they love us,
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whether they're going home or they're going to the friends.
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No matter what, our kids are not embarrassed to tell
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us they love us in front of anybody. I want
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them to know that they were wanted, Every single one
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of our children. I want them to know they were wanted, chosen,
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and deeply loved. Use their gifts for good. We all
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have gifts. I want them to use theirs to serve,
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uplift and inspire. Let others in. Don't build walls so
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high they can't be reached. Let people love them rest
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without guilt. Rest isn't lazy, it's necessary. Dream big. I
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want them to imagine a life that excites them and
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go chase it. Give thanks always gratitude turns what we
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have into enough, and finally live a life they're proud
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of at the end of it all. That's what I
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want for each of our children to look back one
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day and say, I lived, I loved, I mattered. Thank
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you for letting me share my heart today. As always,
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we may be just one family out of millions, but
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here and we are the Hansens. We believe every family
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has a story we're telling, and part of ours is
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hoping and praying that our children step into the life
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they were created for. Until next time, hug your people
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tight and keep building that legacy, one messy, beautiful day
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at a time. You can send us an email at
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Thank you for taking the time to listen today.