Dec. 16, 2024

The Daddy Daughter Connection

The Daddy Daughter Connection

“Daddy-Daughter Connection” is a heartwarming and insightful podcast dedicated to exploring the importance of building strong father-daughter relationships through quality time and meaningful connections. Each episode dives into the benefits of intentional bonding, including boosting self-esteem, fostering emotional security, and setting standards for future relationships. Whether it’s through simple outings or deep conversations, this podcast shares practical ideas, heartwarming stories, and lessons learned from fathers who prioritize their daughters. Tune in to discover how these moments create lasting memories, strengthen family ties, and help fathers and daughters grow together.



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Welcome to We are the Hansens where we talk about

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family life, large family.

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We have thirteen kids.

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We've been together twenty two years. That makes me an

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expert when it comes to raising kids thirty years old

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to seven years old. And these are some tips and

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tricks that we like to tell people to make your

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adventure as awesome as it can be in your life.

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Now, today, I want to talk about daddy daughter.

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Dates because I don't think people realize how powerful it is.

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Daddy daughter dates the way to strengthen the bond between

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fathers and the daughters. Their contention, moments of one on

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one time and memory creation like no other. This is

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the stories of me doing it and why I think

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it's so important for.

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You to do it.

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People say, yeah, that's kind of weird. Well, it's only

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weird if you're a weird person. You got to understand

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the purity of daddy daughter dates. It's nothing like dating

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a girlfriend or a wife. People should know better than that.

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But I see a lot of people talk about that.

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I see people.

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Bring up the fact that a lot of daughters don't

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have daddies and it's unfair to them. And what I

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think about that is it's heartbreaking. Like you go to

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these daddy daughter dances and you'll see a lot of

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girls there without their father a on whether he's working,

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whether they don't have one. But I still think that

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it's important to set an example as a father of

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what a father should be.

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Even if it's not your kid, at least what you

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think a good father is.

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Know that can be subjective to some people, but I

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think over all we have an idea of what is

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healthy for young girls as far as a father, what

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creates and molds them into the awesome, independent, fierce loving

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women when they get.

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Older, And daddy daughter dates are a key to that.

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Like I said, it strengthens your bond because it's one

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on one time or one on two times.

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Whatever you have when you're bringing your daughters with and

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it makes them feel important. It doesn't.

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You know. There are benefits for the father here, there

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are benefits for the daughter here, and I think benefits

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for society as a whole. But we're not too worried

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about society. It's just kind of one of those good

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effects that roll off from doing the right thing. Now.

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I would say some of the benefits for the daughters

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are as follows. I think that there is nothing in

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this world that can boost a young lady's self esteem

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more than when her father prioritizes his time with her.

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I mean, kids see it, Kids see how busy we are,

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and for their dad to say, you know what tonight's

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about you. You are my priority tonight, not like you're not.

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The kids aren't your priority all the time. But you

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know what I'm saying, It sends a message to her

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without saying it, that she is prioritized, she is valued,

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she is loved.

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You know.

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This helps build their confidence, It gives and this is

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so important. It gives a young lady a positive self image.

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It's so important, especially you know with all social media,

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all the studies that are coming out about how hard

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it is and how damaging it is in this social

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world for their self image. And something as simple as

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a dad saying, come on, we're gonna go have a

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date to daddy daughter date, go to eat, go to

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do something. It makes her feel wonderful to get that time,

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to feel that she's a priority. You know. I think

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it sets a standard for them, and not only how

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you treat their mother. I think it's so important for

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husbands to realize that your daughter is going to pick

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somebody just like you. So if you want your daughter

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to be in a loving, healthy, positive, passionate, fun.

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Relationship, you better be that way with their mother.

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You know, a father's behavior during these dates should include

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things like kindness, respect, attentiveness.

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Okay, don't be a.

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Dad like some of these boys today that's sitting there

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on your phone while you're on a date. It should

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be talking to her. It should be learning about her.

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You should be kind, you should have respect, and.

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You should be very attentive to her. It teaches her

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how she deserves to be.

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Treated in future friendships and romantic relationships.

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Don't you want.

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Your daughter to have the life that you only dream

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that she could have, Well a good start to that.

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Remember their own person. They're going to pick those people.

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So by example, the best thing you can do take

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her out on that daddy daughter date, show her what kindness,

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respect means, to make her a priority, show her what

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that means, because that is sorely lacking today with young

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girls that really don't know how they should be treated.

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I think it also gives our daughter's emotional security, you know,

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spending quality time. I'm not just time because finding time

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is hard enough, but spending quality time with your daughter

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helps her feel safe. It's got to make her feel loved.

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And here's the thing she needs to feel understood from somebody,

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you know. I think that's one of the things with

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young girls and teenage girls.

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Nobody understands me.

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How many times have you heard that, Well, the father's

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there literally spending his time making an effort to try

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to understand.

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I think in doing that, you're.

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Fostering emotional resilience within her, because all of these emotions

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become something. It's the communication that you have with them.

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You know.

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It's a safe space for them to open up to

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you about things that you wouldn't even think they would

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open to you, up to you about, you know, teaching them,

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engaging in meaningful conversations about them. Like, here's the thing,

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I guarantee you a lot of the things they say

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to you, you don't really care.

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Besides, it's your daughter.

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Like when we go out and we would have my

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daughter Morgan, for example, we would go on a daddy

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daughter date and I would listen to things and I

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would intently listen about the cheer team. I would listen

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to things about what boy liked her about what boy did,

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something that made her mad. You know how her homework

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was going, what she liked to do, what she didn't

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like to do, what she wanted to do when she

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got older. All of these things, the dreams, the fantasies,

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these these things come.

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To light when you spend time, one on one time.

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With your daughter and you express an interest in her remembered.

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You're prioritizing her during these daydaddy daughter dates and it

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makes them feel comfortable, which they should feel comfortable with

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their father. They should have a communicable relationship with their

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father where communication is going back and forth and you

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can know everything that she's afraid of, everything that she

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aspires to, everything about her that makes her her you

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can learn on daddy daughter dates. You come up with

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some of the most meaningful conversations that you ever have.

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You see their eyes light up in ways that you

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haven't ever before.

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I went to a daddy.

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Daughter date with all three of my daughters, Madison, Torn

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and Anlin, and there was I don't know, probably half

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the girls had their dads there, and the girls were

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just as nervous about dancing in front of people as

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anybody else was. But when the dad walks out there,

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and guess what, he's risking social rejection from the other

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dads there and everything else. But he goes out there

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and he prioritizes his daughters and he starts dancing with them.

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And they go off and start dancing, goofy and having fun,

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and their eyes light up because they're having a blast.

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And guess what, the outside world doesn't matter anymore because

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they're spending time with dad, and Dad doesn't care what

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other people think. Dad is out there dancing, even.

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If he's a terrible dancer.

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Like me, I'm a terrible dancer, but I'm willing to

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go make a fool out of myself.

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I don't care as long.

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As it creates a memory and it makes my daughters happy.

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And that's the thing.

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The memories that you get from daddy daughter dates, they're

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going to remember long after we're dead and gone. It's

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special moments. It's their cherished memories. And guess what that

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gives them a positive view. It reinforces everything that you're

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trying to teach your daughter about future relationships, about her husband,

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about how they treat their children. It reinforces everything.

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Just from a simple.

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Daddy daughter date where you make them the priority. You talk,

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you learn how to communicate, You teach them things by example,

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not by just browbeating them with the same talking points.

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You're doing something that they're going to remember forever. And

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as far as fathers go, there's nothing better than to

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see that flicker in your daughter's eye when you're out

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dancing with her, when she throws caution into the wind

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and she doesn't care anymore.

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She gets to be herself, she gets to be happy.

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It does. It deepens your bond.

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We get to gain a deeper understanding of their personalities,

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their dreams, you know, challenge is that they have in

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their life, strengthening you know, this father daughter connection that's

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so important.

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Remember after doing this my five year old at the time.

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Now she could be dramatic, don't get me wrong, but

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she would come up to me and say things to

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me after, you know, going out and having these these

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one on one times, and she'd be like, Dad, you

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need to listen. There's bad things happening to me. And

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I would ask her, well, what is it. Well, this

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kid is calling me this name or this and we'd

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get to the bottom of it. But I don't know

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if we didn't have these one on one times in

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this communication. If we would actually have these moments, if

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would she just go to mom usually or is she

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going to come to dad as well? I think that

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that type of thing strengthens when you actually find out

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who they are the one on one time. Because I'll

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tell you this. You know, some people say that there's

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a parenting style. I actually want to do a show

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on that, because there's four main parenting styles. Well, folks,

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I better get really good at all of them because

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every child is different. The parent, if they're a great parent,

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shouldn't be dictated by the way they think their parenting

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style fits in. I think that your parenting style changes

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and evolves when you know who your child is, when

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you know their personality, what do they respond to It's

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so simple when you start realizing and seeing them from

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a personal connection, and anything that you can do is

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going to deepen your bond with your kids. Like knowing

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their dreams is so important to me, strengthening the connection

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that we have that my daughters can come to me

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for anything. Now I might not like what they have

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to say, but they can come to me in confidence

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knowing that anything I say back to them is out of.

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Place of love and concern.

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I think as guys, as dads, I think that it

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improves listening skills, and I think this could even be

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for mother and daughter.

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Listening skills. How do you listen to your kid?

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Have you ever noticed that when you're talking to your

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teenage kids, especially, you say one wrong thing and they

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just shut down. You can see this emotional curtain come

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right over their eyes and conversation's over. I think that

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it makes you more intelligent when it comes to your

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listening skills, and it allows you to navigate any challenges

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that they're facing easier because of times like this. I

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think that also as a father, I think, yes, it's

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a feather in your cap, but I think it's so

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much more than that. I think that building a strong

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role model image is just part of who you are,

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it's part of how you live. But I think that

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father's model positive behaviors. Okay, and there's some that are

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good and some that are bad, but the positive ones,

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these strengthen and reinforce those things. It helps you become

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not just a parent, but it helps you become a

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trusted figure in your daughter's life. Okay, now, my daughters

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know when they come to me, they're not going to

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always get the answer that they want. But they do

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know that they can trust me, and they know that

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I love them and I would never steer them wrong.

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It happens all the time. One daughter's in college right now.

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She comes and asks for advice all the time.

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I don't sugarcoat things.

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I tell her exactly the way that it's going to be.

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She's a grown woman.

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She's independent, she's super smart, intelligent, loving, caring, empathetic, all

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things that I admire her for. And I think all

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of those came down to parents in the situational parenting

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that we did that allowed her to become this awesome

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kid that she is. And I think that a lot

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of it started with memories from wonderful times and memories

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from the not so good times.

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Shown that stress relief, especially for fathers, spending time with

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your children and in a relaxed environment is super therapeutic

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and it's joyful for both reduces stress.

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You know, there are things that every time you go out.

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That are almost almost always there, Like, for example, you

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are going to learn about what they like. You're going

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to discover what excites her, what motivates her, and it

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opens the door for all these future things that they

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can do, not just with me, but with a future partner.

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It allows them the security to go out and try

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different things. You know, I've taken my daughters fishing. I

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have taken them to movies. Obviously, we usually go out

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to eat.

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We've went and we've picked mushrooms in the woods. I

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took my one daughter out she wanted to go deer hunting.

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We went deer hunting. These things are not typical of

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what society would say that normal girls are. I think

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that all of the above, just because I like something

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doesn't mean that they have to. However, giving them the

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opportunity where they're not judged to go try something and hey,

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if you like it, you like it. If you don't,

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you don't. That is a confidence builder. Yeah, I've done that,

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It's just not mine. Well awesome, but you got to

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do it. You know, you're going to learn from her

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what her challenge is are you know what, as a

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dad on a daddy daughter date, it is your job

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create the safe space, start talking to her, let her

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open up to you about her friendships, her relationships, school.

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Anything other concerns.

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Let them talk, let them give you the information that

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And I'm telling you, when you take your daughters out,

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they love an attentive father.

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They love that. Oh my goodness, my dad has taken

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an interest in what I'm saying. They eat it up.

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They love it.

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I think you're going to see when you take your

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daughters out on a daddy daughter date. I think you

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will actually see and feel your impact as a father.

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I think you're going to see firsthand how much your

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attention and your guidance shapes her confidence number one, and

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throughout the years, you're going to see how it shaped

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her values. And hopefully, hopefully, if you do a correct job,

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you're going to see how you impacted her happiness without

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you and the equation, you know, the power of presence,

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the being there, the spending time. You're going to realize

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that some guys right now are saying, well, if I

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can find the time, I can't find the money. If

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I can find the money, I can't find the time.

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it's not about extravagant outings. It's really not it's about

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the time, the effort, the love, and the attention that

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you give her that matters most.

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It really is.

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It makes a tremendous difference in their confidence. You know,

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if you're if money's tight, go for ice cream, take

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them down just for a walk in the park. Literally,

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take them somewhere cool that you went as a kid.

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You know, maybe it's a maybe if it's a movie night.

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change to spend, take a mini golfing or one of

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you know, we have sometimes we have these daddy daughter

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dates with you know, three or four of the girls

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at one time. But mom gets a night off and

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dad goes and gets stuff for homemade pizza and we

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literally make pizza and they get to make whatever pizza

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they want. Now, of course, it requires some planning because

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you have to go to the grocery store, and some

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like pepperoni, some like sausage. Some of the girls like

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pineapple on their pizza, and that did not come from me.

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It could be doing crafts, just doing something cool. It

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could be working on your car together. It's so many things,

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and what it really boils down to is just their

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opportunity to spend some time with you where they are

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your priority. I think think that you have to dedicate

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time in your life for this type of special moment.

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You are literally laying the foundation with your daughter for

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a lifelong bond that's going to positively shape her character.

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It's going to strengthen her relationships, and at some point

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it's going to affect her happiness. And I hope that

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this little podcast does something to inspire you to go

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take your daughter out on a daddy daughter date, allow

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her to be her, create the safe space, open up

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the channel of communication, and sit back and smile and

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know that you're creating a magical moment she's going to

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live with forever. Thank you very much. I appreciate you

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guys being here. Check us out over on spreaker. We

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are the Hansens. I love you, and bye bye.

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