March 5, 2025

From Cribs to Bunk Beds: The Parenting DIY Struggle

From Cribs to Bunk Beds: The Parenting DIY Struggle

In today’s episode of We Are the Hansons, we take you on the wild ride of assembling furniture for your kids—from the first baby crib to the inevitable bunk bed battle. What seems simple on the box turns into a test of patience, endurance, and sometimes, sanity. Join us as we share the frustrations, unexpected laughs, and hard-earned wisdom that come with building a home for a growing family.

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Welcome to We are the Hansens, where family fun and

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sometimes sought.

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Us flies.

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With thirteen kids, we have built our fair share of cribs,

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beds and everything in between. Join us today as we

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tackle DIY projects, share some tips and some moments, and

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maybe we even make a few mistakes because we just

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did this today. So from simple builds to custom creations,

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will show you how to make some affordable ideas. You

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know what, I can't say beautiful because beauty is in

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the eye of the beholder, and at least you can

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say that what you do is built with love and

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some chaos. So grab your tools and subscribe because we

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are the Hansen's home is built by the hand and

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heart and go to we Arethehansons dot com or we

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are Thehansons dot Family.

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What is it?

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We are the Hanson's family.

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Oh we have the Hansonsfamily dot com.

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Yeah, you see, I can't even build a website, so

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this is a weird show because I don't see too

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many out there, but we have. We have built a

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lot of cribs, bunk beds, our own beds, headboards, bookshelves, bookshelves,

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TV stands. What else have we built? I know, we've

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done a lot of fixing besides building.

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Yeah, for sure.

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Like I'll give you an example that you know most

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people take for granted that little shelf above the washer

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and dryer.

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I know I do.

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Okay, people take that for granted all the time, like

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they look at it. But when you have this many kids,

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how much laundry soap do you think we go through?

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I'd say about a gallon every week and a half

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two weeks.

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I'll bet you it sooner than that.

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No, it's that's about close.

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It's a lot. I mean a lot, a lot.

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So there's constantly stuff up there. Like you know, like

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our family's just like everybody else's family. Socks disappear, But

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what I notice in our family is space disappears.

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Yeah, there's not enough.

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I just I never know where this stuff comes from.

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I need a shed that I could just put stuff

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in and you know, like stuff like that.

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Yeah, for your.

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Stuff, I would say it's got to be about six

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thousand feet long and about forty two hundred feet wide,

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three four levels, because that's the way it is.

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So today.

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We built a bunk bed and I don't know what

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it is. When I'm doing the kids stuff, like that,

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I either pinch my finger, I break something, or we

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ordered like today, what was wrong with it?

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It had a hole for the stairs that was about

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two inches too far away from where it was supposed

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to be.

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Facts well, and I think that one was supposed to

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be there, but I think there was supposed to be

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another one and it just didn't work. And none of

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the other ones worked. They were all, you know, drilled

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the same way and everything else. But how often does

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that happen when we do stuff.

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Like this all the time. We never have one project

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that goes like it's supposed to.

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I would agree with that, like it gets I mean

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very very bad.

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Or sometimes the holes are drills on the wrong side.

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That happens quite often.

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I don't know what advice would you give to people

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that are first starting out.

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I would have to say, read the reviews before you order,

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because yes, sometimes the reviews are good, but you get

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the product and it's not great, and sometimes the reviews

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are you know, so so you just got to read

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the description. And if you get the product and there

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is something wrong with it, make sure you rate that

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product and tell why so that somebody else doesn't have

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the same issue.

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I think It's hard because there's always that thing in

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the back of your mind like, well, these people just

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didn't know what they were doing, so that's why they

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gave it a bad review. But I'm going to say

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this is the on skeed truth. I'm going to say

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sixty percent of the bunk beds, the beds, the headboards,

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or especially the cheap ones or cribs. Now, what was

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that thing that swung that we had to put together,

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that had a bolt missing and that actually had a

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little bit of an electric motor where you put the

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baby in it. It's like a it's got the little

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bass and that thing in there.

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It swings back and forth.

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Every single one of them, especially if you buy him

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from China, they have nuts missing, bolts missing, holds missing,

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And when you go to look at the directions on

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how to do it, what do you think of that?

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Yeah, I don't think the directions are always accurate.

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To be honest, I personally think that doing this type

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of thing that do it yourself, the DIY projects, I

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think it's pretty good.

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For bringing husbands and.

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Wives together if you can get through it without strangling

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each other first.

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What do you think?

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Yeah, I think we do pretty good. I don't like

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the particle board stuff.

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No, I'm not saying that.

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I'm saying like, okay, so the husband or the guy

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usually starts out and this is the way that it's

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going to be, and then the wife halfway through things

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that she can do it better, and she jumps.

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In, oh, honey, we know we can do.

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Come on.

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Well, and then the guy has to come back, you know,

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and say, okay, well this doesn't work this way, and

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then it always ends up being no. I wouldn't say

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an argument about a huffy puffy session.

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What do you think?

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Yeah, I would have to say yes.

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Just because it is so hard.

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They give you a piece of paper and there's usually

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English words on it, but half of them are misspelled,

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and then like there's steps missing.

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Like more frustrating than hard.

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Well, for sure, Yeah, it's not hard work at all.

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It's just very, very frustrating, like trying to put it together.

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Like like today we ended up with three bags of

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stuff that weren't even in the directions.

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Did you notice that?

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Yeah? I did.

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So there's a b CD different bolt lengths, and then

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there's you know, like F and J will be washers,

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but they're the same washers and you're trying to figure

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out why, you know what I mean, why they're different,

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but they're really not different. Yes, so I think the

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engineers got together and they're like, ah, we're going to

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play a joke on these people, or like today. I mean,

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if this bed would have came when me and you

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first got together, it would have been like, Okay, well,

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time to send it back because a bolthole's not it

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there right. Yeah, now we've learned, Okay, we got to

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make a complaint to the company because there's going to

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be a whole bunch of people that are younger than

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us that aren't going to be able to put this

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thing together. And we'll see what they do. They'll probably

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send us back, you know. Sorry, blah blah blah. But

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we just went and grabbed a drill and a drill.

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Bit yep, and we made it thirty and safe.

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Yeah, I mean we put it right where it was

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supposed to be. It just wasn't there. Now here's the

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thing with the DIY though, you saved so much money. Yeah,

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Like we had friends when we were when we first started.

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I was twenty ford, you were eighteen, and we had

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more GHI and we had friends that were buying like

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fifteen sixteen hundred dollars cribs.

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Yeah, and we're like, uh, week dollars, yes, sixty bucks,

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seventy five bucks.

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And then you know, you bring it home and you

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try to put it together, and I'm telling you, one

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of the most frustrating things in the world, I don't

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even know what it's called, is the little latch on

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the bottom of the crib that you pull and then

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lift up and then the thing comes down.

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Do you know what I'm talking about.

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Yeah, that, for fathers is one of the best learning

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tools ever.

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You think, so oh, you get so.

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Frustrated that that you're ready to bend that metal and

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little pieces and take a blowtorch to it because.

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You get so pissed.

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But then you put in hours, blood, sweat and tears

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think about it. You know, you think about throwing the

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whole thing, and every guy out there knows exactly what

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I'm talking about, and then you get it and it

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finally works, and you're like, yeah, that's no problem.

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I knew I was going to get that. You remember

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those days, yes, yeah, Or.

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You know, sometimes we would go places and we would

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buy like and I wouldn't say, antique furniture, but good

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used furniture. We'd throw it in the back of our truck,

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we'd bring it home, we'd get it in there, and

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literally it was like as soon as we walked in our.

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Door, it started falling apart, right.

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didn't know what good furniture was back then.

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Do you remember the bookshelf we put together that the

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holes were on both sides of the bookshelf?

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I do? I do?

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And yeah, that was like one of them things where

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it was a factory screw up and it was sent

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to like a liquidator and we bought it, but it

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was done backwards but with the same piece. Yeah, so

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the other side was supposed to be the same thing

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but backwards, and we didn't. We got two of the

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same symmetrical pieces. But we made it work. We use

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that thing for a long time.

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Good thing. My ingenuity was there to take it on.

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Just kind of looked a little funny, but it was unique.

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I wouldn't call it funny looking. I would call it

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unique nostalgic. Okay, yep, wouldn't you sure? I mean a

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lot of people would love to have that thing.

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What else. What was your favorite thing that we ever

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put together?

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I would have to say probably the kids's cribs and

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maybe their bookshelf.

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I'm not I'll my favorite thing that the kids and

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I put together. One was when we were at one

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of our old old houses and we went up and

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alls we did was we made like a deck in

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a pine tree for the kids to go up. It

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wasn't even a treehouse, it was just like a little

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deck in the pine tree.

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Oh, you're talking about just building stuff.

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Yeah, well, anything like do you know, do it yourself

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type stuff?

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Hmm, I don't know. We had some fun times at

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our old farm.

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We did.

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And it's kind of fun because, you know, growing up

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around my dad and my grandpa, they did a lot

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of that stuff. Like my grandpa would make really fancy

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like do you remember some of like the glassware cases

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he made that were cherry and stuff like that. And yes,

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my dad would build candle holders and you know, things

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like that. So it's kind of gets in your blood,

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like you like doing it until you have to do it.

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You want to know. My favorite thing we did together,

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what's that was building the smokers?

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the kids. The kids all helped with that.

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Oh I love that. I wish we could do some

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more of that stuff, because man, we had some good

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times and late nights.

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We did, you know, those types of things for families,

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like just do it yourself stuff where you just come

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up with idea and you just go at it. You

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start doing it one because it's cheaper than going out

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and doing anything else. And you know, when you're young

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like that, a lot of people just don't have the

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cash flow to go do a bunch of different stuff.

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So you start doing that and you really take an

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interest in it and you get good at it because

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it's your family stuff. You're doing it. So we used

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to have kind of like a metal shop. I would

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just say it was a good garage with that kind

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of thing. And then out next to that we would

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work late nights building these smokers, and outside we had

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a firing right there, a burn pit, and pretty soon

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we're doing this and we're building that, and then we're

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roasting marshmallows, and a little bit after that we're making s'mores,

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and then it kind of turns into like a you know,

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the aunts and uncles come over and the cousins come

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over and pretty soon, you know, two three times a week.

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Go karts and four wheelers and going all over the place.

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Yeah, those were really really good times. And it all

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literally started with just getting together to do these do

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it yourself projects.

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You know, there are emotional sides to building furniture for

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your kids.

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Is there there is? Well, let me hear about it.

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Well, the emotional side to it is, you know, you

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build the crib right, and then they grow out of

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the cribs, so they're in a toddler bed and you're

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watching your kids grow in front of your face.

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And then they get to like seven, eight and they're

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in a twin bed or queen whichever you prefer as

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a family, and they want their own type of bedding. True,

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and most of it isn't kiddish anymore. It's starting to

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come out of that. And then you hit your teens

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and they want the big beds. And then pretty soon

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they're graduating and they're gone.

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go through, uh, but it is what it is. I mean,

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you know, I watched a show one day and the

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guy's like, what's the best thing about being a parent,

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and he's like, watching your kids grow up. And then

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the guys as to them, well, what's what's the worst

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thing about being a parent, and he said, watching your

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kids grow up? It's it's like the cycle of life thing.

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But you know, I think another thing with the DIY

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projects is the kids start loving it, Like how do

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I explain it? A lot of times as a father,

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I think that you have to teach, and a lot

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of teaching, I would say most teaching is not done

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by you telling them something, it's by doing something right.

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So when you're doing stuff, you bring the kids out

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really not to help you, because most of the time

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when they start out, they're they're slowing you down, except

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you enjoy your time. But you're out there and you're

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you're doing stuff. Even on some of the job sites

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that we've had a perfect example two years ago, we're

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doing this outside painting job on this house, and our

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littlest daughter, she really wanted to do something well.

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For the garage.

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There were a set of dormers on it that were

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pretty much shot, but they needed to be painted well.

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She wanted to be part of the family, so I

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mixed up some of this god awful green paint that

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they wanted to paint it with, and we set those out.

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And what did she do?

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She went to town and did it.

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She did it, and there was paint up to her

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elbows and all over her feet and her hair, it

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was everywhere. But man, was she proud of doing something

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and it made her feel like she.

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Belonged to the family. And I think this is a process.

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I literally think that DIY projects with your family is

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one of the best things. And it might not be

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as nice as a professional guarantee it won't be, but one,

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you'll get better at it. But two, it's about spending

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time with your family. It's about going through all those

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emotional processes where you learn about things and you know,

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and it builds confidence in our kids. All of our

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kids have helped with something like that, and now they're

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pretty good.

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Doing pretty much whatever we're doing. Wouldn't you say?

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I would say so. I think that they've learned a

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lot from us, and I see it every day them

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using what we've taught them.

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Oh absolutely, Like my daughter's my seven year old daughter.

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I can say not everything, but if I say get

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me a crescent wrench, She's probably going to know what

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it is, yeah, or give me a hammer, or give

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me a fillips, or give me a straight She knows

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all those things I've met, you know, seventeen eighteen year

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old boys that well, what's a crescent wrench?

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Yeah? You know what I mean.

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So I think that it's important for all the kids,

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and I think it's important for you know, the husband

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wife relationship. Like when you first start this and you're

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first putting together your first crib, there's something special about that.

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I remember.

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I can't remember what you said, but basically, I'm working

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on this crip and I'm working hard and you're watching

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me and you're like, oh, you're a snack.

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Yeah right, I mean it's just it was something about that. Yeah,

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what was it?

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I don't know what was it? I don't know.

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Well, is that like a common thing, Like is that

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part of nesting? Is that part of like we're building

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a family, you know that type of thing?

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No, what is it? Then?

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Snack? No?

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No, no, no, I'm talking about that emotional moment that you have,

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like husband and wife putting that stuff together and you

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get it done, and it really does give you that

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feeling of accomplishment, Like I just met the world and

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I kicked its butt. That type of thing. Yeah, right,

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you know what I'm saying.

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Yeah, And then if.

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You do get into like fixing some of your car

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stuff or you know, things like that, there's a there's

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a sense of accomplishment in it. And I think that

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it teaches you to build as a couple, and I

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think that it builds your family also doing those types

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of projects, even though, trust me, there were times that

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I wanted to throw something to the window because I

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was that frustrated with building it.

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Yeah, with building it or having to move it when

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we move, it's a nightmare. The heavy stuff is the worst.

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And I don't know why it's synonymous with quality and

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being heavy, but for some reason it's synonymous, and it sucks.

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I don't know. Our mattress to our bed is heavy.

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Yeah, I don't know that either, but it is.

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So I mean doing stuff like that, I mean even

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building like little fish poleholders for going fishing or to

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this day, one of my goals still for my little

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daughters is, you know, when they reach ten, I want

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them to be able to have their own treehouse so

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they can go out and they can have friends over

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and they can have sleepovers in their treehouse.

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They want a playhouse, like an actual house right on the.

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Ground, Well they want one in the tree. Well that too,

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they would settle.

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For one on the ground. So you know, we're aiming

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to please at this point. Ye, at this point in

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our life. So you know, I'm not getting any younger,

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and neither are you.

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Well, you're definitely getting older than ye.

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Well I don't think that's ever going to change.

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But anyways, thank you, folks, And you know what, get

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out there enjoy some time with your family, even if

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it's just putting something together like a baby crib or

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a bunk bed or anything.

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Get out there and spend time with your family.

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Yes, absolutely,