Dec. 17, 2024
Essential Tips for Young Mothers - Navigating Parenthood with Confidence and Joy
"Motherhood is and incredible journey, but for young moms, it can also feel overwhelming. In this episode of We Are The Hanson, we share practical advice, proven strategies, and heartfelt encouragement to help young mothers thrive. From managing sleepless nights to balancing self-care and family. Whether you're a new mom or supporting one, tune in for real-life stories, laughs, and insights from experienced parents. You've got this!
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Welcome back to We Are the Hansens, the podcast where
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we dive into the beauty, challenges, and laughter of family life. Today,
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we're focusing on a special group of incredible women, young mothers.
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We know this journey is filled with both joy and
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moments of doubt, and we're here to share practical tips,
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heartfelt encouragement, and maybe even a few laughs along the way.
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Whether you're navigating sleepless nights, toddler tantrums, are figuring out
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how to find a moment for yourself, this episode is
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for you. Let's walk through it together. Mama, You've got this.
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I'm your host, Maya Hanson, and I am a mother
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of thirteen children. I became a mother at the age
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of eighteen. I'm gonna tell yeah, it was very difficult
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for me. I lost a lot of friends, and I
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struggled with that because, you know, you become friends through
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your elementary years of school, and now you're all the
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way up into high school and most of those friends
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went with you from elementary to high school, and then
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you get pregnant and you lose almost all your friends.
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I really struggled with that, you know, because you expect
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them friends to be there for you and with you
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along the way of your journey, and poof, they're gone.
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They vanish. I did have a few friends that stuck around,
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and I really appreciate those friends to this day. I
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still speak to them. But I also gained new friends.
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There are a lot of young mothers out there. I
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didn't realize how many young mothers I had became friends
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with after getting pregnant, so I did gain new friends.
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It was a little rough at first because it took
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some time to find those friends, but I ended up
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gaining some new friends. Today, I just want to go through.
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I have a passion for helping young mothers because I've
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been there. I know what it's like. So today I
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wanted to go through and talk about some tips that
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I learned as a young mother of maybe bonding and
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socializing and taking care of yourself. Taking care of yourself
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is the biggest thing when you are a young mother.
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You don't want to let yourself go. One of the
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things that I learned as a young mom is being
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able to sleep when my baby slept, because you need
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that energy, you need that rejuvenation. It was hard at
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first because my baby had her days and nights mixed up.
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I was fighting to get her to stay awake all day.
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I remember sitting there talking to her, saying, you cannot
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fall asleep. I was doing everything. I was bouncing around
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my knee, I was moving her around trying to keep
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her awake. It was a nightmare, but it took some time,
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but I got it figure it out. I got her
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on a schedule and she started sleeping through most of
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the night. We were waking for feedings, but we may
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manage to get through most of the night. The other
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thing I wanted to talk about is I was a
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secondhand mom. I cannot tell you how much money that
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saved me. Just buying stuff from the thrift store or
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even garage sales, Facebook Marketplace was a big thing. I
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know a lot of people say, oh, you shouldn't buy
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secondhand stuff because you know them clothes may have bugs
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in them or whatever. Make sure you wash the clothes,
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but it will save you so much money in the
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long run buying secondhand. I even got name brand clothes
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when I butt secondhand. I mean there was some nice stuff,
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even some stuff had tags on them. Still, so I
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can't stress that enough secondhand stuff is good stuff. Making
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sure your socialized go out and take a break, get
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away for a little while, go meet friends, go hang
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out at the mall, walk around, you know, whatever you
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have to do. Go out and meet new people. You
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don't have to go to a bar to meet them people.
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There's many places you can go to meet new people.
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As a young mom, my thing was the mall. I
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really liked going to the mall making plans, making plans
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for you and your significant other, if you have one,
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if you do not have one. Because you know, I
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was a young mom and as you all have heard
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on my previous podcast, my daughter's dad walked away from
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us when I was two weeks pregnant. And like I
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told you all before, I'm I met Jeremy and me
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and him were friends for long before I ended up pregnant,
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and I would reach out to him and talk to him.
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And so when I was six weeks pregnant, he reached
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out to me and asked me to dinner. And I
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was pretty nervous about going to dinner. He wanted me
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to go to dinner at his mom's. I said yes
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because that just being asked to go to dinner as friends,
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I felt like somebody actually wanted to do something with me.
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I needed that relief to talk and to enjoy just
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life because at that point I was scared. I didn't
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know what I was going to do, so I said, yes,
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I'll go. Another thing I wanted to touch on is
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when you have a child at a young age, you
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try and figure out ways to navigate temper tantrums. We
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had many of them when Morgan was two. She was
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battling through her terrible tooth and they were terrible. But
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we figured out, you know, if you just get down
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to their level and you talked to them, not scream
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at them, but just sit and have a conversation with them,
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it really does help. I did not believe it would help,
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and I was watching The Nanny on TV and she
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taught me that you can stop a temper tantrum just
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by getting down to the child's level and speaking to
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them without raising your voice, talking to them very calm.
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Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but I had good
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luck with that. We did a lot of timeouts too
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in our home. We did the time out in the
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chair and then we also did the time out in
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the corner. The time out in the corner really did
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not work, as my kids got older. We did the
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penny on the wall where the child holds the penny
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with their nose to the wall and if they drop it,
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they have to stand for another minute. So that was
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a big thing for us as well. But it does
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not always work for everyone, but these are some of
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the things that worked for us. I also wanted to
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touch base on my book, so I have been working
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on writing a book about being eighteen moms. My book
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came out to ten chapters and it is now complete.
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I am working on getting it published and all that
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fancy stuff. So as soon as that is published, I
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will be posting on my We Are the Hanson's Facebook
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page and I will announce when it will be released.
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I'm not exactly sure how long it takes, but it
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is in the works. They are doing the editing and
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getting it ready to get it published. Like I said,
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not sure how long it takes, but as soon as
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I know, I will update my we Are the Hanson's
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Facebook page and let you all know if any of
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you young mothers or any mothers have any questions about
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tips or anything that we did as parents. One me
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being a young mother, so I was new to it,
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but I learned a lot from a lot of people.
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You can reach out to me at we are the
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Hanson's Show at gmail dot com. You can email me there,
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or you can also send me a message on Facebook
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Messenger under we are the Hansen's Facebook page and I
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will try and address everything you ask. I am very
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adamant about getting back to everybody who sends me a
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message or an email. If I do not respond for
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any reason, you can try and send it again. Make
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sure you've got the correct email, and if it doesn't
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go through, find us on Facebook Messenger. I want to
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thank you guys all for being here with me, and
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I'm going to wrap this up by telling you if
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you are a young mother, you are not alone. Can
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reach out to me any time. I will always be
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here to guide you the best I can. Thank you everyone,
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and you have a wonderful night.
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